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Do You Know Who You Are?
Sometimes I experience sort of an identity crisis.
For example, I have no idea why I would do things I would never wish to do. And then I start wondering who the hell I am really.. Does anyone else have that? Did you find out who you are? How the heck do you deal with something like this? o.o |
I know that I am Loubie and that I seriously like club soda. As for who I am I don't really care, as long as I'm living and doing every day things I could care less if I stand out from the crowd. <- That is Loubie on mostly sad days when she just gives up. On normal days I crave to be different and to be friendly with everyone and get you to laugh a bit once. When I feel like I'm losing myself I usually just think of the things that I can do and are very good at them and concentrate on that. If that doesn't work I'll just wear whatever fads are going on and keep extremely quiet for that day.
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hmm...that doesn't happen to me too often but i often regret sayin things i dont mean when i am angry >.>; and then i start sulking....but wondering who i really am doesn't happen to me often...
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Nope. I know who I am. I ish David. Or Randall. One of those two >.>
I'll post again when I find out *runs off* |
I know that I am Melanie and I love Asian things and I am in the Asian Club. But I've felt that before, it's hard to explain, but I feel that way sometimes.
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I am Vanessa and Vanessa is ME! I didn't have to go and find myself I came to me. I find that as I get older that I change xD I come in phases.
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I have no clue who I am.
Seriously. All I know is I'm very ambivalent about...everything. And I'm loud. |
Nowadays.... not really. But everyone goes through that sort of thing. Especially when they are young.
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that happens to me a lot
i think its because ive been having a lot of mood swings =.= like, one moment im all the hyperactive knuckle head my friends love, but then the next i get suddenly really pissed and just shun myself away from the world and not talking to anybody |
Exactly [Kankuro], that happens to me aswell >_<
Its as if I dont know who I am, and feel different from the rest because of that. And its as if I dont fit in with my friends any longer, even though they might think so. And thats why I flee, kinda. But I hate it.. I just wish I knew who I was >_< |
Honestly, I'm going through a bit of an identity crisis like that, myself. Enjoying every second of it, though. XD I'm finally pulling out of it, though, and this is what I've observed:
I've come to discover that I have two distinct personalities that usually blend to make me who I am...though sometimes one takes dominance over the other. It's not a disorder or anything; both coexist peacefully most of the time. One side of me -- the side that is absolutely dominant right now -- is my wild, childlike, hyperactive, crazy side. This side of me...when this is my "dominant personality," I am almost always happy. When I'm not, it's short-lived, and easily cured by thinking of whatever it is that's making it my dominant side - at this point, thinking of the concerts I'm going to next week. Oh, and this side swears a lot. And yells too much. XD; The other major side of me is my passionate hopeless romantic side. When this side dominates...I tend to sound twice my age. This side of me, however, is rather insecure, and I frequently have nightmares of losing those I love when it's dominant...but the sadness from those nightmares is easily cured by either listening to some of my favorite music, or writing about what happened, or something else like that. This side of me does get depressed sometimes, or otherwise overly emotional...but I usually manage to get something good out of it. Somehow, both sides are very similar in some ways, but polar opposites in others. The former side brings very powerful, driving, "no regrets" type of feelings. Something goes wrong? Then we'll make do with what's handed to us. If you're not up for that, I'm leaving you behind; have fun watching me. The latter side regrets a lot, but like the former side, tries to bring something good out of everything bad that happens. I tend to like bright, "happy" colors when the childlike side dominates, and dark, "mellow" colors when the passionate side is running the show. And of course, there's much more to me than just these two sides. But I have noticed a very distinct pattern with these parts of me. I know when I put it this way, it sounds like I have a disorder...but really, it's just that I've noticed two very distinct emotional/behavioral patterns I have. Different things bring out one pattern over the other...but the other is always still there. That's what I've noticed about myself, anyway. I'm no shrink, but I can still try and figure myself out, right? D: I did kinda feel the need to try...being as the childlike side has NEVER been so clearly dominant before, and it was freaking me the HELL out. I was enjoying it, but it was freaking me out. I don't usually enjoy having an identity crisis. But I have worked it out. I am Kei. I am a guitarist, a writer, a music lover...and a bit crazy. And I am in desperate need of a new nickname. XD |
I have this problem sometimes, but for me it's a bit odd. Part of my belief system is that I am, basically, nobody, and it's when I try to be somebody that I lose track of who I am. If that makes sense at all. Basically, who I am is not important, really, as long as what I do makes a difference, even if nobody ever notices. When I try to be noticed, I ignore the fact that I am not special and try to make myself something that I am not.
(That might sound depressing, but for me, it's more comforting to think that you are nothing special, just here to help others, basically.) Basically, it's when I am lax on my spirituality. I'm Buddhist, so I end up going into my lost mode when I ignore my practices. Usually I just integrate myself in them. Mostly because I have a habit of making happen what I most fear. If I am worried that someone will get fed up with me and worry about it too much instead of accepting life as it happens, I try desperately to stop it, making it happen and losing faith in myself. Spirituality is important, in my opinion. Note I said spirituality and not religion, because there is a difference. You can have no real religion and have spirituality. Spirituality it more of your belief system and what in life makes you feel at peace. |
As a teenager, I tried to be a lot of things I wasn't. I tried to be straight and that made me miserable. I tried to be like my sister (who in my eyes then was good at everything, but now I know she had her own set of problems) and that didn't work. Finally, I just gave up and became me. I'm still unpopular, but at least I'm happy and have a clear purpose in my life.
I've come to accept myself as all these little bits and pieces with some bad and some good that make myself. So yes, I'm very certain that I know who I am and that makes me happy. |
I dunno sometimes I get confused sometimes I am Aeisha and other times I am my real self. They sorta combine and then split apart at odd junctures. At the moment though I think I am Aeisha and apparently I am a nut. At other times I am my other self and she is mopey and close up, I don't like her I prefer Nutty Aeisha.
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You know, Fullmetal Phantom..? I've noticed 2 sides about myself aswell.
Well, it used to be only one side because I was always depressed. Its my serious, passionate and romantic side. Very lonely and melancholic, I never achieved anything that way. Then I got in touch more with my silly side when I first started RPing. I started listening to silly happy songs, and got to feel more childlike. I decided to be more of a happy outgoing person, and get along with other people. But in all that time Ive spent being happy, I still did not find out who I am.. And thats when my more serious personality decided to creat this topic, heh. |
Most of the time ... I guess I do. Yes, I do. I am, whoever I say I am, and the same goes for you and everyone else. You are what you think most about. It's kind of scary to imagine that, but I believe "we bring about what we think about". Now granted, people who walk around obsessing over how ugly they are .. eh, well, they are just that - to themselves. I don't like to call anyone ugly, and I don't really think anyone is, unless we're discussing attitude and those who purposefully trash their bodies to look bad. That, would be ugly.
But I didn't always think I had the power to say something positive, mean it, and it become truth. And I very much doubt many folks do. I wouldn't say that in this moment of my life, I've fully "found myself", because there are still things to learn and to happen that will better determine that. But I know what and where I'm coming from. I remember all that I've been through and I see how I've allowed it to affect me, in all my small years. I can look at it all now and know: I can never let my disappointments and follies become me. I actually... feel very much at a loss right now. I no longer have a close bond with a friend who has been dear to me since we met in dA two years ago. I didn't get into my dream school, I've failed a class last semestre (for the first time in my school life I'm sure - though am taking it over now), I have no one beyond the Internet to talk to the way I wish I could. It's tough to get up every day, when by the night, you feel like you've gone nowhere, and become nothing new. And, it's hard to look at myself and not wonder at how someone else can stand to. I'm trying my best not to fall back into my phase of hating the very sight of myself. But, I know the only way I'm going to be truly proud of what I see in the mirror, is when I have some facial changes. It's amazing what ONE feature can do to everything on a whole area. Don't lose yourself; you're worth more than all the negativities of this world and the next. Stay strong for You, because no one else can do what you do, the way you do it. That's the beauty of being alive I reckon, and we have to hold onto that thought a lot of the time, just to get through. |
I know exactly who I am, but there are times where I'm all alone and I suddenly realize what my name is. I find that name sounds so strange, but I don't really forget who I am. Nope, can't say that I ever forget that.
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That doesnt really happen to me, Sure sometimes I think "what the hell am I doing?" Or "Why on earth am I doing this?" But I dont think that I've lost my Identity.
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Im Jeff
Im beastly I bang your mom on a regular basis. If you have any questions feel free to PM me |
Well, either accept the fact that you're not going to figure out who you are till you a) die b)complete your purpose c) do some serious soul searching.
When it comes to me I don't think too much about it and think I have the majority of who I am and what I stand for figured out. I'm stubborn and when my mind is set it's pretty much set till proven wrong. Even then my thick headed personality doesn't yield. XD I deal with my situation by...just knowing I'm here, there's a reason why, and the answer will come when I need know. I really don't understand why people are in such a rush to figure out who they are...in fact I find the question ridiculous sometimes. You're you. Have fun. Case Closed. <3 |
I know I am a nineteen year old girl.
I know I have really really long hair. I know I have blue eyes and glasses. I know I am taller than most girls (and some boys). Beyond the physical though... I got nothing. I can't remember what I like sometimes and I think a lot of who a person is is made up of what he or she likes. Try to takes notes. If you think something might be useful to know, write it down and don't lose it! |
I frequently go through periods where I feel like I don't know who I am. Those are the times when I know I need to go for a nice walk with my dog or even by myself and just feel the sun and the breeze. That doesn't solve it all the time though, but that's always my step one in trying.
I always remember that I love nature and the earth and that usually sets me back on track, if not solve the identity crisis completely for that time. ^^; But sometimes, I need a few more pushes. Those times, I can get really anti-everything - even anti-games and anti-computer...just about anything that defines the things I like, that helps define who I am, can be rejected suddenly. So I take a walk. My next step is to delve into something I'm rejecting, but I hadn't experienced in a while. Like if I've been lax on my studying of Korean. ^^; Or maybe a manga I haven't read in a long time, that would cheer me up. Believe it or not, I read Yotsuba&! a couple of weeks ago, and couldn't stop laughing...and that really did the trick for me. xD It was refreshing to just have a good laugh. I don't really have too many identity issues now that I'm older and can put my foot down about who I am and be allowed to define myself more to other people. When I was younger, I didn't know who I was because I was in denial; for fear of what other people would think. Now I don't worry about that; I'm out of high school so I say what I want to say because it's who I am. ^_~ |
@ Lassi: Thanks alot for the support. I believe that thoughts create who you are aswel. Im sorry to hear about all those disapointing stuff that happened to you D:
@ Squid: I take LOADS of notes. I hang them on my wall so I wont forget, and when theres alot of them I take them off and save them. I also take large notes, usually to get rid of anger or try to find out a reason for my behavour. I hope to find out who I am that way, but Im not sure where I should start. Hmmn, well if I want to change the answer should come to me anytime soon, and I want to change. So there. @ Mushy Kylo Hendricks: Yeah I know what you mean with going outside, feel the breeze and the sun.. But most of all I would like some adrenaline in my life. Ive never been in a serious denial in my life. |
I'm not too sure for the most part ... lol ... I really don't know what to say.
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I don't know who I am, understand who I should be or even who I want to be most of the time. I know I have a very very low opinion of myself and my abilities which has come from 5 years of constant bullying in high school from people who claimed to be my friend as well as people I'd never met before, my brother and even people from websites who have added me to MSN looked at my display picture which is of me and said "Ew you're fat I don't want to talk to you" and blocked me :cry:.
I only realised I don't know who I am recently when my boyfriend asked if I was alright and said I wasn't acting like myself, I didn't say anything to him but I did think 'you don't know me, I don't know me, how can you know me' I always thought you were supposed to find out who you are in high school but now I'm almost 21 and don't have a clue. |
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