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Crush Problems...Please help...!
I have 2 friends, both of them are boys, one of them I like a lot! the other is his brother. When I was playing around with his brother I walked to their house and talked a little, we had a good time, but then they both got into a fight and then I hit my crush because he was being really mean to his brother and I get really over protective about my friends. Then my crush hits me with his shoe. I got so afraid...but he's really nice and great... Should I give up on my crush? Or keep trying? We had a great time, it's just that I get scared of him because he's really mean and really nice...we have tons of things in common... And another question, when he went out with a girl who was wrong for him and that was really opposite of him. I cried so hard and called my friends so that I can calm down, I cried for about 3 days and gotten heartbroken so badly... I broke my own heart to make them have a good relationship... Does that mean I care for him the most? Should I tell him how I feel that time? Am I a better person than her? Am I a good friend? </3 ~ Heart Broken Dreamii...</3 |
Crushes are always hard to deal with because there is a part of you that wants nothing more than to be with the other person, whether it is actually feasible or not to be with them. The other part of you wants them to be happy and you want what is best for them, even if that means never saying anything to them about how you feel because they have their heart set on someone else. You encourage them to date the other person because you want them to be happy. Meanwhile you are miserable because it hurts you to see them with that other person but you never say anything.
I can say that I have had a few crushes over the course of my life (I'm much much older than you) and it is always hard to see the person you like being happy with someone other than you. They may like you back but for whatever reason: distance, age, time, environment, school schedule, etc, you can't be with them so the best that you can hope for is to be their friend and to help them be happy and be there if they need a shoulder or a hug or whatever. At some point though there has to be a realization that unless you tell the person how you feel it may never happen between you. You also have to realize that even if you do tell them, they may not feel the same way about you, thus crushing your heart. It's the chance you take. You can't spend the rest of your life pining away for someone that you can't have for whatever reason. You have to move on. It's up to you what you do and what you are comfortable with. You never know... some other guy might come along and sweep you off your feet and you'll forget all about this one. |
Well my dear I had this problem with my best friend a few years ago I had a big crush on him for years and so It took me getting really really drunk to tell him how I felt and when I told him I found out that he liked me back and had for as long as I did. were not together now, but he is still my best friend but in another situation I had a crush on a guy for almost 3 years and didn't tell him and I ended up finding someone else and so did he. So you really do need to tell him so that you won't always wonder what if? trust me it will haunt you the rest of you days.
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@ Sasha Ya I know, I had to tell because of that and because I hated his girlfriend and I kept crying so my friends told him for me...don't know what's his answer is but I know it's no...</3 |
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