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For me, it's actually too complicated
I need advices or suggestions because I seem don't understand myself and situation.
I am taking a bachelor degree at this university in other state. For this,not only I chose to live without my family with me but also I need to learn being wise in living with other people as well as managing my time and money. I am a typical person who really loves to talk a lot! Well you see, I made a friend with this International student let just say her name is mona. We are mates in math class. One day she invited me to a BBQ party. In there, I met a guy who is for me so cute. Let say his name is trin. He is an International student as well taking art major in the same university. He is as tall as me if I don't wear heels and waaay skinnier than me. I could not have the chance to make an impression at him as mona was trying to hook me up with one of her housemate who is actually not my type. Two weeks later, on Thursday after the math class which I and mona met up. she met up with trin to asked him something. It ended up as us three have dinner. I was so excited (because let alone to know him I never thought will have the chance to see him again) That day I found out that he is taking art major. I really do like art and I love drawing. I told them about it and showed my sketch book. Anyway, we had our lunch at Train sushi. After had our lunch, trin and I headed to the same direction. I was like" What are you waiting for! This is a chance of lifetime!" so I encourage myself to get his msn addy. That day, I managed to ask him to teach me his art skill and he has agreed to teach me to make a color wheel as a start. According to mona, he is a dense person. Mona also told me that he would not suit me and too short for me :( Also, I rarely talk to him as he will take too long to response my message and not often online which cause me to make less post to make it unobvious about my feeling. Help me? D: peoples name are not their real name |
So basically you're wondering if you have a chance?
It sounds like Mona is trying to dissuade you from going for it with him for some other reason than your own good if "he's too short" or something is all she has to say on it. In general, boys are pretty dense. If you really want to date him, you just have to be upfront and go for it ^^ Send him a message (even though he might not reply) and ask him to hang out this weekend or next wheneverday. If y'all hang out a bunch and really get on well, just ask him out! Won't know unless you try. Just don't worry what Mona thinks, because what matters is what YOU think and feel. =) |
Thats what make it complicated!! I am a type of person who doesn't like to after boy and I dont think I deserve him T_T
I was actually ask Mona's opinion when we were chilling out at starbucks and she was giving me her opinion which I appreciate it and agree at it if I think about it. |
Well if you don't think you deserve him then don't do it.
o.O Seriously. You're contradicting yourself and MAKING it complicated--the situation isn't inherently so. It also seems to be an issue of self worth and self confidence in yourself. If you don't have both, then you're not going to be in a good situation with a boy anyway. It does take a lot of both to do it. |
I agree with Han-Pan.
Until you think you do deserve him, then you'll never be happy in a relationship - it takes self-confidence. Question is, does he deserve you? ;3 |
I keep telling myself about that
but this brain could not stop thinking of him :gonk: |
Remaja, I bet you never been experiences talking any people who are so shy, right? And you're normal person since you were born. You're not shy to anyone even at your toddler age and grade school age? If I'm correct, It's naturally for you not to understand why King's being like that.
People are dense because of their shyness. Shyness comes from weakness. Weakness comes from fear. Fear comes from pessimistic. In case if you really know about that reason why King is dense person. you should know about it. I used to like that (I mean King). King and I were same. Yes, I'm excel at art but I'm not taking art major instead I takes Computer Science Software Tech Major. I do understand why King being like this because he is same as my old ego. (If I'm correct, It;s happen me when I'm still grade schooler til High School second year or 14 years old). Time passed so fast. So I do changes into better person. I used to be a person that's nobody talked about. Now, your ego is same as me. I was much more merrier and happy because I give up the old ego and start to take a lot of painstaking moments(Embarrassing... Literally) :D Yes, I'm becoming a class clown and even favorite, :D I overcome all of those fear (such as fear of being embarrassed, fear of being ridiculed, fear of being backstabbed) because I accept any consequence I may face just to make a friend. I know myself very well about what I really need. Yes, friendship especially have a close friend or be loved. :) Here is my intuition (I reflect my old ego and put it in here. You might learn something) He is social deprivation and you're not. He is dense and you're sensitive. He is quiet and you're noisy. Blah blah blah... As long as whatever you have traits inside your heart, his traits is completely opposite to you :P BUT THAT DOESN'T MEAN HE ISN'T YOUR MATCH. :) If you love him, you'll accept him who is he, right? :) Here is what you need to do: -Make him comfortable being with you, that is first and best way. :D (YES, in short, friendship) -If he share any secret, it is a sign of comfort :D -The deeper or the more he share his secret, the better it is :D -The rest is time. You'll have to find a right time to confess :P Guess, Love need a deep root of friendship :) PS: sorry for wrong grammar (Tired already xD) |
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cere!!!i really love your response!!! thanku thanku thanku!!!!:heart: |
Yep, you have to take Cerevi's word on this one. I know him personally, and he's been through a lot. It still amazes me today how can be so optimistic even in the most trying times. xD
Anyhow, regarding your boy problem... I think it's quite similar to what happened to me and my boyfriend before we started dating. Don't you agree, Cerevi? My boyfriend is the passive type of person. Like Trin, he isn't the type that would simply message someone just to be friends with them (and he doesn't talk a lot, too x.x). Simply put, he was a hard nut to crack. So you know what I did? I tried my best to be in his crowd, just so we could be a little bit closer to each other. I started talking to him little by little, started messaging each other little by little, and eventually he was comfortable chatting with me on messenger. Some time after that, with a little push from friends, he confessed, and we started seeing each other. So what I'm basically trying to say here is that if you want to be with him, make some effort. But don't go jumping into his arms. Take things slow, allow feelings to settle, and in time all things will fall into place. That's based on my experience. I wish you the best of luck! :D |
I wish I could D:
I know I should do that but whats makes my mind in gutter is that we met each other during a BBQ tmy other friend held. And thats how we met I have his msn addy. At first, I was planning like that by sent him lots of message on msn. He was responding fast [even tho he typed slow] but nowadays he would either ignore my message or response an hour or even longer -_- Could it be he knows about my feeling and avoiding me? He is an international student which means English is not his native language but he speaks okay tho a bit slow. |
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