Originally Posted by meredy (Post 3535071)

My mom wasn't married to my real dad eigther, and she left him when I was a baby. (He was cheating on her with the mother of my two little half brothers, who i miss terribly and never get to see. D: )
My step dad has been in my life so long, I can't help but place him in a 'father' catagory, but sadly his inability to earn my respect makes it imposible for me to give a damn.
My only 'daddy' or father figure who I truely and completely value was my grandfather/Papa. Sadly he died in 2003.

But my mom was always both roles, my sted-dad 'plays' dad, but mom ALWAYS was the authority in MY life. Early in the marriage he attempted to be my boss, but mom quickly informed him he had no right.

I've never felt unwanted or sore for not being 'planned' or born of wedded bliss.
To me the situation of my birth is almost amusing. And makes me respect my mother so much.
Besides, my great grandparents didn't mind because my real dad was a part of my life for the first 6 years. He signed my birth certificate, so I wasn't a bastard. He only left my life because he didn't want to intrude on my new stepdad. D: Ah well, its for the best. My real dad has lots of issues, and my mom raised me knowing he loved me.
So I've never resented him. If he had been in my life, it might have been different. *shrug*

My only regret is not being around, and there for my little brothers.

But I think having a crappy step parent has made me a stronger person. Though I may be less trusting and more critical of myself and others because of emotional abuse. And I have high standards of not tolerating guys who will treat me with disrespect.

>>;;