My boyfriend broke up with me today. We had known each other since we were 10. He went into the Army for 4 years, then moved back to our town. That's when we got together. He just broke up with me and his reason was because he was in love with the girl I was before he left, not who I am now :( I don't understand. He broke my heart. I had another ex who broke up with me because he was in love with who I used to be, not who I am. I just want to know why a guy can't love me for who I am now?! Am I really that unlovable? It hurts. It makes me feel like crap. The whole time I thought he loved me, he was clinging to some other version of me! I really loved him/was in love with him. He told me he was going to marry me?? I feel so hurt that he would say that now that I know what has been going on. I don't mean to sound pathetic. I just never saw it coming. I've never been in this much pain. I feel like there is something wrong with me now, like I have a defect or some other thing that makes me unlovable. I know it sounds silly, but it's true...