11-23-2009, 08:44 PM
First of all, I'm 19 years old and can't imagine being married and having kids right now. However, there's a girl on my facebook who has a 2-year-old son and is the same age I am.
I want to get married and have kids as much as the next woman, but right now I'm focusing on school. You can't focus 100% on something you're passionate about, something that will define your future, if you have kids. That's mostly because...your kids are your future.
My best friend is 25, and she's been married for two years, and her son is 13 months old. She wants to go back to school, but the thought of it is very stressful because her baby is so young and he demands so much of her time. We usually talk every single night because we live 9-hours apart, but I'm just getting to talk to her now after not having done so for the passed three days. She's been sick, and her baby has taken up so much time with her being weak that she couldn't make it to the computer.
Not to mention, at 18, you don't have a big-girl/boy job, so you're not making the adequate amount of money you need to in order to buy groceries so you can eat, clothes so you can go out (work, school, etc.), food/clothes and necessities for your baby, as well as the money you'll be spending in rent for an apartment or mortgage for your house or so.
So if you don't have your career, you don't have the money to support yourself, and you have to support a baby, too...how can that be exciting?
Having kids when you're out of school, not only financially secure, but more mature, too, is the better thing to do because then you'll be able to enjoy your life raising your baby with your education behind you, and look forward to giving your child one. It's too hard to raise a family while going to school when you're so young.
So...there you have it. My pros/cons on having kids at 18.
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