Originally Posted by Mystic

My ex husband was very traumatized by what his father called "light spankings". Turns out he was really abusing the kids behind their mother's back. Thankfully she left him. My exgirlfriend also was traumatized by belt spankings. Her parents were in no way abusive but she just would black out when violence was going to happen and she would not remember what happened. She's fight back and not even realize it. It was scary stuff to deal with.

However, my siblings and I were spanked with belts and paddles and none of us have anything wrong mentally because of it. I think it all depends on the child and how sensitive they are. I personally do not beleive anyone should ever harm children or pets. It's a big thing with me since I have seen some pretty messed up things in both cases of animals and children being abused.

I just use things as punishment like taking away TV or a video game. It normally works pretty well and it doesn't upset the kid as much. My cousin was such a pistol when he was younger and I always used that on him. When I first started babysitting him he used to bite, throw stuff at me, and hit me trying to get his way. He them realized that does not work with me and stopped but he still did it to my aunt who used the spanking method. I told her about taking things away and he stopped being such a brat and listened after she stopped the spankings. I think that how the kid behaves a lot of the time reflects how the parent raises them. Of course there is always mental and mood disorders but that is a whole other story.