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Originally Posted by monstahh`
I was 18 at the time and I can stand up to a lot of shit, but frankly what they did was cruel and disgusting. I had to give up things I loved just to avoid her--now if that's not being bullied, idk what is. But it's most of all not a joke.
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I got a "cyber stalker" (let's call that for lack of a better and more fitting term) for half a year not long ago. It got incredibly nasty on the person's part, so to stop it, I deleted my facebook, blogs everywhere, left my dA account, and started off with a new username everywhere. Was it nasty? Yes. Was it necessary? No. Was there any reason for the person to this? They think so, I think not. Was I bullied? Hell no! Everything fits the description of bullying. But was it bullying? Na-ha. Why? I just started over, a new life online. No one knows who I am now, so it's great! I got off to a fresh start and got out of it without any harm. Sure, it was stressfull, etc etc.. But bullied? Online? Me? Teehee. I can call it "harrassment". But not bullied. And trust me, it was some fucked up shit.
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Originally Posted by monstahh`
Turning off the computer doesn't help if you have a persistent cyberbully--especially if they are bullying you online, and go to your school to bully you more there. Not every cyberbully is someone you don't know--in fact, chances are especially on facebook and sites like it, is *is* someone you know.
And honestly, even if you log off, or change accounts, you're still afraid of it happening again unless you see them actually willfully stop, and you're even more afraid of what they'll say when they find out you made a new account--chances are they'll find out quick and bully you harder.
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We are working on the premiss that there are such things are cyberbullies. Bullies are bullies, and if they know you in real life, then yes, it's bullying. As for finding out new accounts, that's a rookie mistake. I'm fine and the person didn't find out anything about me. Heck I trolled that person HARD just for kicks. Why? Damn internet people be stupid. If you're smart, no one will find you. That's the beauty of the internet, you get to change everything, lie, make up a new self.
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Originally Posted by monstahh`
So, unless you plan on never using the internet again, a cyberbully is still a problem because you can't escape the internet these days, facebook, email, entertainment...But trying to avoid it completely or just "close the window" will leave you very in the dark with your peers--I didn't have a facebook in high school until my junior year, because of that, I missed out on many many many opportunities to make more friends, or get closer to the ones I had.
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Oh, but that is a case-by-case basis, and like I said before, not completely true. Again, working on the premiss that such a thing as a cyberbully exists, they must be treated like hardcore trolls, those who take it one step too far.
MUST NOT FEED. I didn't, except for the trolling in the end, and it was so freaking hilarious to see the person climb up metaphorical cyber walls just to get to me, and calling me out on blatantly stupid shit, just to click the red button in the end and go "BAAAAAAAAWWWWWWWWWWLLLLLLLLLL Y U NO PAY ATTN?" /deactivation
I'm not trying to say there aren't people being handled in a rough way. I go to dA's BHB every day, that gives everyone a good insight of how things can get. But no, you can not call bullying to something that can not affect you in your life. And if you say "oh some people turn off the pc and still gets to them", again I will say, stay out of the internet until you grow a thicker skin. Anyone who's been online for a few years can testify that you'll find mean people everywhere, at every community and website. But it all comes down to "words are words", they can't hurt you unless you let them.
Hm, the
you up there is not personal. XD