Hey, I just had a look at your thread here. I've been in a situation I feel helps me relate a bit.. not 100%, but I can get what you're getting at. I have loved my friend who I call my Tamachan... since 6th grade, and we've both graduated high school by now. In middle school I would always go over to her house and sleep with her in her queen sized bed. We have kissed each other on the cheek plenty, said "I love you," gave hugs, chocolates, good advice and good laughs. A lot of things have happened since then and in short, her mom thought we were getting to be too old to have sleepovers once we got to high school, so I haven't been in her room since, only seen her at school when I was there. We both love each other as friends and have even pecked each other on the lips before too. I don't feel it has ever been romantic, but I do have a special fondness for her like ... she is totally irreplaceable in my life, I admire her beauty, her talent, her humor.. and she has gotten to be quite popular since I helped her not to be so shy.. and I feel like she cares more about other friends of her, and her boyfriend, than about her relationship with me. Which makes me feel a bit insecure, and I don't want to be too embarrassed over it ... I can be quite shy myself, but I absolutely adore the girl. I've had a few talks with her about it, as bashful as I was at the time, but she was understanding. She said her reasons for spending more time around other people, but that she has always thought I was beautiful, talented, the sweetest person she knows and that I will always have a good, big piece of her heart, not to worry. I know it is nerve-wrecking to put romantic dreams in the picture, but I can't see it doing much harm as long as you explain yourself. I think that even if it changes the angle of things a bit, if you don't feel it's going to pass, then you should communicate the best you can and just be honest with the people involved. And I think you know that... you just want comfort getting to that point, right? ^^ *hug* Hang in there girlie.. You've got plenty of people who love you and want the very best for you. No need to fear.

By the way, I'm Poet's wife ;P He knows how I feel about my friend, and that I miss her dearly all the time, and being more affectionate towards her.. It's the reason that the minute I come back to visit her, I'm spoiling her with gifts.. Muahaha. XDD .. Nah ahah but dw (= He understands this all and you should trust your man to as well! Think it through for sure, but don't stress it too much. It'll all work out. x3