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Do you think there are things that should never be said, or is there really a time and place for everything?

I think that there are things that should be said, just NOT IN PUBLIC! personally, i usually keep nasty thoughts to myself. but if it's really bothering me and feel like i absolutely HAVE to say something, i'll talk to a friend of mine because he's a good listener and i know he'd never repeat anything i say to anyone if i tell him not to. the way i see it, there are two worlds: the spoken world and the unspoken world. the unspoken world should remain unspoken.

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What is your 'line' that you do not cross?

come to think of it, i have quite a lot of 'lines' that i refuse to cross but here are a few:

1. I hate using the word 'hate' because i consider it to be an extremely strong word, while other people say it without a second thought.
2. I do not punch people. i find words to be just as, if not more, effective. and even then, i dont say anything particularly mean (usually just a few sarcastic comments) unless someone somehow manages to seriously piss me off, which very rarely happens.

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Have you ever bullied someone or been bullied?

Yes... but not anymore. lol unless they want to get told and/or humiliated, they leave me alone. if they don't then theyre the ones that end up looking weak and stupid. and since people pick on other people to feel better about themselves, they find messing with me to be extremely counter-productive. and all without swinging a punch.

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Have you ever wished death/pain upon someone, to their face or not?

I have wished that certain people will get what is coming to them, but no more than that. if i do, then i would be no better than they are.

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Should bullying be against the law and strongly enforced, or is it a school/website issue that should be handled there?

The way i see it, it is fairly naive to think that a law would single-handedly solve the problem. i believe that a law against the problem would have little, if any, effect. there always going to be bullies out there. i think that bullying should be discouraged and everyone should be taught to feel good about themselves. strong character in everyone seems to be the best solution to me. if everyone felt good about themselves, the bullies would have no desire to pick on anyone because their reason for doing so no longer exists. and if the people that get picked on had high self-esteem, then they wouldnt let this person's words hurt them - if the bully isn't getting a scared or intimidated/submissive reaction from the person they are trying to bully, then they will leave the person alone. so this solution really benefits both sides. hey, it worked for me. unfortunately, this an extremely idealistic concept, seeing as we are all human and acknowledging the fact that there will always be mean people out there.

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Do you confront people who you witness being out of line and hurtful to others, or do you stay out of it?

Yes, i confront people because i figure that if i dont say something there and then, no one will. ignoring such a terrible thing makes me no better than all the other people in the room that see it but say nothing. for example, at lunch in the cafeteria, i sit at a table next to the table that a friend of mine sits at (our other friends do not tend to get along very well...) and she came over during the start of lunch before her other friends got there to say hey. while we were talking, a supposed guy 'friend' came up behind her and reached down and touched her thigh. she quietly said stop it. (she's had problems with people like him all year but this is the first time i'd been with her when someone's done something. she has some confidence problems which is probably why people pick on her like that) he said 'ok'. we kept talking. guess what? a few minutes later, he did the same thing again. ok, by now, ive had it. she's my friend and i dont like this one bit.

Me: DUDE! stop it.
Him: what? she doesnt mind.
Me: yeah she does. and so do i.
Him:*looks at me like i've popped a gasket*
Me: *gives him the 'you-leave-her-alone-and-never-touch-her-again-or-i'll-make-your-life-miserable' look*
Him: alright, alright!
Me: good. *fake happy smile*
(after he leaves)
Me: if someone ever does anything like that to you again, you tell me. got it?
Her: ok :)

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Do you think this is a problem that could be solved one day, or is it inevitable?

Like i said before, there will ALWAYS be mean people out there. The best thing we can do is attempt to treat the problem while simultaneously treating the symptoms.