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10-11-2012, 11:45 PM

I began dating at age 15 without my father's approval, but with my mother's. I dated that guy for a year and then we broke up. Shortly after I got with the man I am dating now, we have been dating for almost a year(one week left) and he is the love of my life. My mother is in love with him too. I turn 18 next summer and we intend to move in together until we are financially stable enough to get married.

I was raised in a protestant home and he was raised in a catholic home.

I do not agree with denominational division.

My father met my boyfriend, Jared, and they got along really well. My dad has found out that I've begun dating and didn't do anything about it. After letting me and Jared date for 7 months my dad decided he didn't want me involved with a catholic. At first my mother helped me protest but eventually felt that a "good christian woman" shouldn't defy her husband. So now they both are against me, even though my mother loves Jared almost as much as I do.

I pick gentlemen types. Jared goes out of his way to serve me and help me and he did that for my family up until we were told to stop seeing each other. My father and I have a ton of issues in our past that already have me bitter and not liking him, and instead of trying to fix that my last year at home, he drives another nail into the coffin.

It is now an understood agreement in my house that I refuse to break up with him. If they catch me with him though (even though they know I'm still seeing him behidn their backs) they will make me quit my job and a small vocal group I auditioned for and am now involved in at my college (I duel enroll at a community college.) They will take away my laptop which I need for school and my Facebook and email. Not to say that I wouldn't fight all this back like the most rebellious teen you have ever seen, but still. I don't like all this conflict. I have been a very studious, respectful kid all through growing up. I got all straight A's and even now I pick very sweet, respectful gentlemen who don't drink, don't cuss and don't smoke. Jared is also going far in college, he's only two years older than me, he loves the SAME GOD I was raised to serve and all he does is differ in some minor doctrinal stuff that he and I can work around. But that's our call not my parents.

I hate that they are creating such a divide my last year here. They know it isn'[t working, that I'm still seeing him, and that even if I stopped now I'd get back with him as soon as I turned 18, while also leaving home and breaking their hearts. I don't see what they think they are accomplishing except hurting all of us and causing one big fight that goes on every day.

His parents don't like that I'm protestant either but because he's an adult he already had all the arguments he's going to have with them about it and moved out (we started dating shortly after he turned 18.)

My mom and I fight every time we are alone together. My poor little sister has to here it all the time.

No one in my family or my friends agrees with this decision. I am seriously considering just blowing off school and being as rebellious as I can to just, "stick it to them." What do you guys think I should do, what do you think about their decision?

If any of you are Catholics or Protestants, what do you think about the two dating and possibly marrying?

No haters please, or trolls. I want serious responses. It is very distressing.

I feel like Romeo and Juliet.