I think Zig's put her finger on the issue, actually. If you want feedback from a guy on your appearance, he needs to know this.
Women do tend to expect a guy to be psychic and know this without being told, then get pissy because he's
not commented on the new hair do/clothing item/make up etc.
then, if the guy picks up on this and asked what's the mather, say things like, "nothing, it's fine!".
Humans!