That's a really gross outlook on things. Victims don't have to forgive their abusers. I feel like people are forever giving out unrealistic advice or advice from their point of view. A view often so far removed from other people's experiences that it's useless. But instead of just listening and lending support, they want to "help". I find that people do that with everything. If I complain about my mosquito bites, they suggest ten million ways to make them not itchy. Like, if any of those things actually worked, I would be doing it. But it doesn't! I am not complaining because I want advice. I just want to whine and get a little sympathy! And that's just a stupid little thing. For big life issues, sometimes you just want someone to listen and offer a shoulder to cry on or a hug or whatever. You don't want advice. Especially shitty advice coming from someone who just doesn't understand!