while surfing the web I've been watching Say Yes to the Dress on the TLC channel... and it made me think... again... about how I lack a dream wedding... I suppose it's because I went through a tom boy phase and was more concerned about getting through high school with a massive percentage less drama than everyone around me xD and with good grades... and probably because I was with one guy for most of the time... on and off since I was 14... I'm 21 now and we're doing great ^.^... I'm waiting for him to propose to me before I really think about it lol...

do you even want to get married?
do you have a dream wedding?
if you're engaged... how's the planning going?
if you're married... was it everything you wanted it to be?

I do want to get married eventually, but I'm fourteen so I think it'll be a while. My dream wedding... is a wedding to my crush ahaha! Me and my bestie went into a wedding shop (we went to the city during school time) on a dare, and we ended up spending an hour in there looking at all the pretty dresses. But then we bumped into someone getting fitted, aha.

I think i would like to get married at some point. I don't see that happening any time soon though. I haven't thought a great deal into the kind of wedding i would like, and it would have to be a joint decision in the end i think, but i certainly want it either, outside, in one of a variety of places, or in a cathedral. I sway more to the outside option.
I have an idea of the kind of dress/reception etc. i'd like, but my taste and fancies often change, so that would be something, again, to consider at the time i think.
Generally speaking though, i'm like you. I don't really hate a set in stone dream wedding, which is unusual, because almost every other thing that could be planned, i have meticulously thought through.

I am married, and I would say I had a dream wedding. It wasn't even planned. My fiancee and I had been planning things out for about a year when I got pregnant. His family is very Catholic (seriously, his cousin is a nun), and decided to rush us before the baby was born. We ended up getting married in a courthouse in the middle of a huge blizzard! We barely made it there, and thankfully Rob (my husband) knew a justice of the peace that was close by and willing. It was wonderful in that snowy setting! Flakes all around and an old old courthouse that was built beautifully.

Here's a youtube of the same blizzard:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dai3kS3EnA4

I have always wanted to get married. It has been a dream of mine since I was about five years old. I think my guy is going to get a shock when it comes to wedding planning though. I have everything mapped out just perfect in my head and so help me I will have that!

I want a medieval style down with silver brocade. Long false sleeves and mitons. Beautiful embroidery, but nothing over the top. I don't like over the top, but I don't like plain either.

I want to get married outside in the autumn. And I want my first dance to be in the rain.

No, I really don't want to.
I never have.
It just feels like too much hassle, especially for something I try my best to AVOID.
So no, this means I don't have a dream one, either.

Do you even want to get married?
At the moment, no. I haven't had much luck with relationships lately. =]
Besides, I'd like to finish school and be at a stable point in life before I consider it.
Do you have a dream wedding?
No. I suppose if I were to have a wedding, it would be like most traditional weddings.

I plan on getting married someday. I don't have a dream wedding. I'd like to get married in a church or outside. I haven't decided yet and I'd like to hear what my fiancee would have to say, too. :)

I don't ever want to get married.
I never ever have, not even when I was little. I'm 21 now and I haven't changed my mind so far, if anything, the older I get the more I don't want to. I'm way too much of a control freak, I hate having people in my space and touching my things, I would never want to have to share anything with anyone and I'd like to live life without having to consider another person being part of it. Having to be in proximity with someone else daily would probably drive me crazy. =D
If I ever do change my mind, I wouldn't have a wedding at all. I think it's silly for people to spend thousands of dollars on a huge party. But then that returns around to getting married in the first place, I just wouldn't. I see nothing wrong with living with someone without making it a legality...I think that's only necessary when kids are involved, and that will never be an issue. xD Haha, I'll shut up and just say, no, never plan on it.

I do hope to get married one day (without being forced to lolol).
Dream weddings are overrated. I would opt for a more casual wedding, saves monies. Heh.

Vegas Chapels sounds really fun too. Man, I kinda hope I get married in one. xD

I'm married - have been for 5 years now.

Originally, I just wanted a very small wedding with only immediate friends and family. Since we have a large family that suited me perfectly fine. However, when extended family heard of my engagement they started to make plans to come out here for the wedding. Now my immediate family is huge, my extended is gigantic. The wedding was quickly turning into a bigger affair than I wanted but I had to go with it.

Now here's the twist. The month that we were going to put a down payment on a place I discovered that I was pregnant. Instead of getting married a year down the line we moved the wedding up to 2 months. I got my dream wedding - friends and immediate family only. It was perfect. My husband and I were wanting to start a family right away anyway so we welcomed the surprise.

So that's my story.

I've talked to my boyfriend about it now and then when he's in the mood ... my sisters, his brother and sister-in-law, his friends, his landlady/neighbor, our acquaintances ask him when he's going to propose... and he's not ready so he gets irritated when they do, so I can't talk to him about it... which is crappy because I am the girlfriend and potential future wife and it sucks... but we'll probably get there someday...

when I do talk to him though he wants a shotgun wedding... I'm not sure if he's aware of what that means... but it would certainly give him motivation to marry me... we haven't been trying to get pregnant but we're also not preventing it from happening and we had thought it would have occured by now but nothing so far ... we'll just wait and see

I think I want my wedding outside as well... either early fall or early spring when the weather can be just right here in washington xD... as for anything else... I'm clueless xD ... but it's his wedding too so he'll have a say in what happens as well lol

@ Nissa... that's an interesting and delightful story about your wedding... thanks for sharing ^.^

@ GeminiKizzy... so did your extended family still come by? just how big is your family? O_o

I wanna get married... my boyfriend and I have been dating for only a little bit over a year though, and he still has another year of college (7th year senior... lol) and wants us to be settled with jobs before we get married.
I don't have a dream wedding, I actually have spent waaaaay more time thinking about how I'd like my funeral to be. I guess I'm just morbid. :D I wouldn't mind eloping, but he wants to have a real wedding, so I think I'll make him do all the planning. I hate parties and large groups of people and hassles so blah.

Well, I'm actually married. I've been married for just over a year, so I can still remember very well the whole planning and stuff like that.

I was a lot like you, I was a tom boy... well I still kind of am. In the sense that I preferred to hang around with the guys, not that I was into sports or anything like that. I actually didn't have a boyfriend until I was in college, probably because I was seen as one of the guys in high school and was finally able to break free of that once I got to college and the guy who I eventually married was able to see me as a girl. Yeah, I just about had a heart attack when he first asked me out, I was sure it had to be a joke XD So you're doing better than me.

I never had a dream wedding, and now that I look back, that's probably for the best. I didn't freak out when little details didn't come together and I sure didn't become a bride-zilla during all the planning because I didn't have the perfect wedding in mind. When it did come together, I was happy at how well it went. It was great, I didn't stress too much and I just had fun :D

The only thing that not having something in mind messed with was that it took me forever to find a dress I liked because I didn't have in mind what kind of thing I was looking for when I first started out looking. I had to try on all kinds of styles to figure out what I actually liked on me, if that makes any sense. I did end up finding the perfect dress eventually, though, and it was even on sale! :3 It was great. I never thought I'd be so happy over a dress. But I guess the big deal with that was that I wanted my husband to be like "WOW!" when he saw me walking down the isle :D And he was :3

So, yeah, it's no big deal that you don't have anything in mind yet. It might even work out better that way :D

I don't want to marry and I never had a dream wedding. If I did marry though I'd just go before the judge.

I'm not even sure what I want my dress to look like... I'm afraid I'm going to be like one of the managers at my work... she's been putting her wedding off for like a year or two or three or more because she doesn't want to put up with the stress of planning it... she's almost tried to cancel it like 7 times within the last four months now even though she's getting married next month and put the deposit in for the place because of her dress, her bridesmaids' dresses, the decorations, the invitaions, the food... everything ... xD...

hopefully when I get there I'll know what I'll want when I see it or what not xD

I'm fifteen and my only ideas are that my dress should be a nearly white pastel blue or lavender and the bridesmaids should be in a slightly darker shade of pastel green. Otherwise... Lotsa more tropical flowers. It sorta depends on the guy otherwise, though.

Well.. uhm. If you ask anybody around me in real life they will tell you how I run at the meer mention of marraige . Honestly I like the idea, but have seen it go wrong so many times that I am hesitant to the thought of it now.

I fear not finding the one that is right for me with marraige. I recently asked somebody very close to me that is married, "How do you know its the right person?". And they told me... you don't know due to the fact that people can change. But that the person that your considering might be right for you is the person that will do things to help you with your life instead of just doing things that help themselves. They kinda complete you in a way that you just feel at home. That your willing to do the same for them for the plain fact that it makes you happy to see them happy and vice versa.

I think I've found that in somebody, but.. im still hesitant and taking it slow.

As for having a dream wedding. Yes.. of course... well.. kinda. At first I wanted the magical wedding that I will always remember, but.. growing up has showed me that... if its the right person.. it will be magical no matter what.

don't worry, I never had a dream wedding either, not even when I got married. No dream dress, no dream cake or anything.. I just took a look and decided :3 still I think my wedding was perfect ^^

Originally Posted by kyoshiana

I've talked to my boyfriend about it now and then when he's in the mood ... my sisters, his brother and sister-in-law, his friends, his landlady/neighbor, our acquaintances ask him when he's going to propose... and he's not ready so he gets irritated when they do, so I can't talk to him about it... which is crappy because I am the girlfriend and potential future wife and it sucks... but we'll probably get there someday...

when I do talk to him though he wants a shotgun wedding... I'm not sure if he's aware of what that means... but it would certainly give him motivation to marry me... we haven't been trying to get pregnant but we're also not preventing it from happening and we had thought it would have occured by now but nothing so far ... we'll just wait and see

I think I want my wedding outside as well... either early fall or early spring when the weather can be just right here in washington xD... as for anything else... I'm clueless xD ... but it's his wedding too so he'll have a say in what happens as well lol

@ Nissa... that's an interesting and delightful story about your wedding... thanks for sharing ^.^

@ GeminiKizzy... so did your extended family still come by? just how big is your family? O_o

Extended family didn't come - at least not all at once. My dad is the oldest of 7 so I have a lot of aunts and uncles.

My hubby and I were engaged for a long time and together a long time before that. When people kept bugging us about getting married it would drive us both crazy. Our situation was reverse - he was ready but I wasn't. Finally, he got me a promise ring and that quited people down for awhile.

I still hang around with guys and I still don't have a boyfriend to speak of. I'm actually an asocial twit. But I've learned how to enjoy loneliness as freedom. Marriage would mean losing this freedom, that's why I don't want it.

I'm not sure if I want to get married, since I can't let alone get a boyfriend...well i'm not allowed too but whatever. xD
I guess I still have a while to think about it. :3

I used to be engaged, but I broke it off. We were looking for wedding packages and were about 1 year engaged when I did. It was hard XP I was with him for about 5 years. Now I'm not planning on getting married soon and I want to date.

Yes I want to get married. I dont really think how or when or where it is matters, just that its to someone I really love who really loves me too.

I've been with the same guy since I was fourteen too, and I just turned twenty two last month. Weddings aren't something I've given a whole lot of thought to, since I think it will be a while before I get married. My boyfriend and I live in different states and go to different colleges and we don't have jobs yet, so it would be hard to get married or anything right now. And knowing him, he probably wouldn't even know how to go about proposing. XD Though I wish so much that I could at least live with or near him, it drives me crazy. But I will say I did find a dress I fell in love with, too bad I probably won't be able to get it. I actually found it when I was looking for a prom dress, of course this was several years back. I found this pretty light blue dress that I absolutely loved, it was on display. I wanted it for prom but they didn't have it in my size. They did have a white one in my size though and I tried it on for the heck of it. But I didn't buy it because my mom said it looked too much like a wedding dress, being white and all. And I'd wanted it in blue anyways. So I ended up getting a really pretty emerald green dress of a different design instead, because I wasn't going to wear a white dress to prom. But the white one would have been a perfect bride dress and I would love to buy it when I get married, sadly I think that store actually went out of business not too long after that so I don't think I'd be able to find that dress again.

Recently though two of my step cousins got married, one last year, one this year, and one of them asked me if I was going to marry my boyfriend, I said I would eventually. XD Also people asked me what colors I wanted for my wedding, and since they asked I thought about it and I'm thinking maybe blue and white or something like that. At least involving blue, it's one of my favorite colors and my boyfriend likes the color as well so I know he'd be okay with it. But that's about the only thing I've decided on since I was actually asked about it. That and I decided I definitely don't want an outdoor wedding like at a park or something, the last wedding I was at was like that and there were bugs everywhere, I was freaked out. x_x Unless I have it at the beach or something, not many bugs there. But one of my cousins is planning on having hers at the beach I think and I don't want to look like I'm copying her or something, so that's one thing I'm very undecided on but I figure I've got a few years to think about it.