Ok so this may be a lil long but im upset and going to get it all out.
For the basics. My boyfriend lives with me my mom and sister. We have been together for almost 4 years now.
However everything in life has changed so much. I lost my dad 3 years ago and my mom doesnt or hasnt coped well with being alone they where together for 28 years so i understand that. She is with this guy whom she has been with for several months now and he is alright.
However latly i just feel like everyone uses me and doesnt really care like they used to.
My moms boyfriend stayed up with his daughter and baby in a town only 30 minutes away for almost a month so mom was tehre to. I was ok with it but whenever i needed some help there was always a excuse why no one could help me. They moved back down here on christmas and today his daugther calls saying she has a bump on her leg and both rush up there like she is dieing. That flipping makes me mad. And then mom and her man get into it and she texts me how the daughter told her if she isnt careful he might leave her cus he isnt in the mood for fights etc and so i was texting her what i thought she should do to make things better and she tells me im talking to the daughter so i will text you later. That makes me mad also like ok her thoughts are more important. She did that to me yesterday also. What am i only good enough when no one else is there to talk to you? Does you know oh so much more then me cus honeslt what that chick has said so far is nothing but lies to you.
Then my boyfriend 4 years is a long time. We have a baby on the way and its like ok i can do whatever there is a kid on the way and your stuck with me. Ya i know he may not feel that way but right now i feel everyone only needs me for when no one else is there. I always spend my money on them or if im somewhere i think of them. All of a sudden i can be broke and needing something and he is broke but his speaker in his car can go out seconds later and he suddenly have 100 to replace it. And tells me he just has been saving up and didnt want to touch it but its a have to. Well if im hungry or needing something isnt that a have to? I mean i spend my money on you. I mean its a everyday thing now the lies all of a sudden. He always has cash. Yesterday he told me i only have 10 from selling this game. Then today he saw something he needed and has 150 it just really makes me mad. He once stated when we was fighting that if he tells me i will take it or tell him what he can do with it. Well i mean dont i have some what of a say so? I mean i dont take his money i mean i might ask if we can get something to eat or something cheap but i dont take it heck i give my money to anyone who needs it and they know that. Mom owes me over 200 and denver owes me his life but when i need something there is always a excuse why i cant go there or get it.
I called him at work a few ago to talk for a min. I have 4 dogs in my room 2 of which are mine and 2 are my moms but i let them all in. He got mad saying i dont respect his room rules and thats its a mess and sick and i told him well most the wrappers in the floor is yours and i have been cleaning it every other day and when you come home you cant tell and im sick and not doing it again and he pops off well when we first moved in and for a long time i cleaned it once a week and you never offered to help. Well that was then and this is now and i know that but that doesnt mean i can clean everyday and since you work for a living you can trash it and expect me to do it again. I cant get him to do anything he says when i get home im tired and i work for a living well i did to until they got crappy and im pregnant so i quit. The whole dog comment made me mad he also poped off well you dont like when i do things behind your back well there not behind his back i told him i left them when he isnt home i dont get the big deal honestly. And so he popped off if you dont get out of this attitide i wont come home so i told him i was sick of you and mom and the way you guys are. Dont come home im better off and i hung up.
I mean i know he will come home and most likly he will be all happy go lucky and figure i have clamed down since then but im sick of things i feel when i need something or want to go somewhere or just talk no one can or they dont pay attention to me but if they say one lil thing i better of heard it or else i dont care and everything else.
Im tired of lies. I dont know how many times i have stated i dont care about your money i have never took it and never will. So what if i might think something your buying is dumb a 600 radio is retarded i mean so you can play video games in your car woo hoo.
Yes he does think of the baby he has bougth more for it then i can but since i dont work i get lil money but my money goes tehre and i am the one who set the room up for it. I just dont know what to do.

Well being pregnant can add a lot of stress by itself. Tell him that since your going to have a baby he needs to take up more responsibility and if he doesn't understand that, and he tries to fight with you tell him you don't want to fight. Tell him everything you said in here and stream it to him too. As a almost father he has to take more responsibility's as a father. You need to let him understand how you feel, and to do that, you just need to sit down and talk it over.

As for your mother, i know you feel like shes not paying attention to you enough and i know it makes you angry. I've been in a related situation with my mother before like that. I know you said that Her husband passed away, and this is most likely the reason for her attachment to her new man. She lost one, and she doesn't want to lose again, that kind of thing is really hard to understand but it's true. Your mother will always love you no matter what, she's just trying to get pieces of her life back in the puzzle, which can take some time. Make a day where she comes over and you guys can hang out and talk. Tell her you need her and its a very important time since the baby's coming too. She will understand if you can talk to her about it.

As for you, i also think you need to relax. Take some time out of your day to just relax. Take a bath with salts in it and maybe bubble bath. Make it a relaxing day as well as a thinking day, and think about what your future references to bother of them should be. Try to clear your mind for awhile too so your able to think better, read a book to get new thoughts into your mind and things to think off. Call your girlfriends and ask them for a girls night and have them come over and talk to you too. Play some games that will get your mind off it for awhile. Watch a funny movie that will make you smile : ) . Just try to be more open about what they are doing, mostly your mother.

For your mother, I think she's just not used to being "alone" and is trying to hold back this man, but seriously, if he can't put up with complaints, then he's not worth the time. Especially if that means less time for her daughter and more stress on her. Your mom needs to state her priorities. Her husband could be dead, but her daughter is alive and pregnant and she needs help more than ever. Maybe this fact hasn't come into her mind, I would try to remind her.
You also need to sit down with your boyfriend and talk. It's not just that he suddenly gets money out of nowhere - he's challenging your trust by keeping the truth to himself. Trust and respect are vital in a relationship, and you need to know if he does really care about this about-to-come baby or if you're better off without him, because if there's something a pregnant woman must have is PEACE, peace of mind especially.

And even though life sucks, you must always keep your head facing up. Never let the bumps in the road make you fall - you're too good for that drama. Remember you have a reason to live, and if no one's helping you, you'll have to help yourself. Try doing productive thing that are relaxing. Reading, planting a tree, writing, designing, brainstorming. Good luck!

PS: What Cherry said is true too, being pregnant can give you a lot of stress, so relaxing is a must :)

The boyfriend issue is somewhat resolved now. He just gets in his spurts and it makes me angry. Howevering i have told him over and over again the lieing about money makes me angry and stuff and he still does it. i guess i have to just accept that.

As for the mom. She lives here with us or we live with her whichever lol and her man does to. Right now he and her are going through something so i get the crappy end.
Like he wants to move back closer to his daughter saying that he doesnt like being away from her and maybe move back in with her which is understandable some can leave home ok and others take it harder. So mom wants to go with him she said she would take my lil sister if she wantted or if not i would keep her. Which either is fine. I just get mad at the fact. That both act like his daughter will die for touching dirt but im pregnant and im suppose to keep the house clean and pitch in more as he says and i can be hurting and its like ya whatever. Or mom gets in these mood swings and they will be fighting and randomly i get a text saying i know everyone hates me and so do you and im tired of always getting gripped at from all you! Im like what i didnt do anything and then there goes a fight. I mean i know being pregnant im hormonal trust me i cry and get angry at the same time at things that have no reason. However some of this is not all me and isnt my fault.

Mom said they might move out today and go up there. Im not to ok with it but i wont say anything. I mean right now we support ourselves as much as possible and give mom 150 every 2 weeks to help out but if we had to get our own place and support ourselves with just him working we cant. She says she will keep this house and pay the bills and stuff but honestly how long with that last and i dont think her man will let her. I mean he pays his daughtrs way her man doesnt do anything but pay his other kids child support but thats different. Its his kids not hers. He is living down here and he doesnt put in at all. If he knows we need somehting he says he is broke but then says he has 100 for his daughter to make sure if she needs anything he has the money. I mean he lives here and eats food mom buys and washes clothes and uses the bathroom he could help at least with like toilet paper or something cheap that doesnt cost much. It at least shows your tring more then being a bum.

Seriously, how old are you and this man's daughter? Because if she's not a minor, all their worries are non-sense. Seriously, even a kid can see that a pregnant woman is more fragile than an hypocondriac girl >_>''

And I don't like it that you're accepting his behaviour. It tells him he's won the battle and that he can do anything if he likes. Try having a defiitive talk, he's challenging your love by ignoring your pleas. Being in a relationship means you got to play as a team, but he can't do that if he's keeping secrets from you.

PS: I would like to know... how many months pregnant?