Okay its been a while since I have posted a new thread.

Anyway, This summer has been life altering in sooooo many ways.
I have had so many new and exciting experiances but also more heartache then I can comprehend. It all started with this first story,

I was at work and I was helping a fellow employee get finished with his work so that he would take me home since it was like 9:30 and i is not safe to walk 2 miles alone at night.

well i look over and I see Adam. He is looking at a shelf stocked full of arizona green tea. I call out his name and he looks at me with a huge smile. "Hiya" he said.
"hey what are you doing here?" i asked.

"I was actually hoping you were still here."he replied.
"Wow really?"...at this point i was surprised. (check out my other threads to know why lol)
"yeah" he said..."what are you doing".
"helping my ride home so we can leave"..i said

"Or.....I could walk you home."
"2 miles?"i was shocked lol
anyways i accepted his offer and were were walking, and talking and all of a sudden he says STOP! Close your eyes! and right there at like 10:00 pm in the middle of the street under a street light he gave me my first kiss. As soon as it was over i felt weak in the knees, and we held hands the rest of the way home. there were a few more kisses too! but the next day.he told me he had no idea what i was talking about. And that i am not allowed to mention it ton anyone

also he still kisses me too..and i like it. arent i horrible.

also, more nights with adam to share but i just dont have the time at the moment.:sweat:

please share your wisdom on what to do.....you guys always make me feel better.

Dudes who can't say he kissed a girl are stupid >_>
But i can't tell you weather or not you can love him, because that's up to you.
Personally, i think you should talk to him about it.
Because either he's self-conscious or a dush
:D

he definately is not self conscious lol he is actually very cocky....i think he just does not want to ruin his reputation which is understandable.

Slap him and tell him his reputation is stupid.
My best advice >_>
Probably because I've never had to deal with guys like that...

If i was u i would just tell him to stop saying it didnt happen and tell him how u feel and see if he feels the same way :)

What Xemo said...
..or you could just slap him.

Ruin his reputation by kissing you? Nu-uh, that's a deal breaker. I haven't read your other threads, but this is just telling me that the guy's an idiot. You can do better than that, I promise you. If he wants to hide your relationship away and pretend that nothing has happened, then he isn't worth pursuing. Especially if he tells you that you "are not allowed" to discuss the past.

I'm sorry, but there are a lot of warning flags going off in my head about this.

Yep he is a piece of crap, get away while you still can.

Agree with Gary.
=/

Someone who can't stand up and proudly say that you're his girlfriend is a coward and is not worth it.

It almost makes it seem like he's toying with you.

*shakes head* reading this has many flags as well going up, I may not be and expert in this field but I have a feeling he is toying with you as well.

and I agree with Little Miss slap him. To help get his head cleared about this relationship.

Saying it'll ruin his reputation is basically saying you're not good enough for him, and that you're not allowed to mention it means that his reputation means more to him than you do.

Forget this guy, he's still a kid, you can do better.

AHHHHHHH! what do I do!

Originally Posted by KH4Life

AHHHHHHH! what do I do!

Tell him that you like him enough to begin a relationship. But you have your own conditions - He has to publicly accept you as his girlfriend and not hide the fact that you are dating. If he refuses, then the whole thing is off. No kisses, no flirting, no using you. It should be an all-or-nothing deal.

Does that sound like something you would be happy with?
It might take some courage to put your foot down, but I think that it would be one of the best solutions for you. :yes:

Originally Posted by Knerd

Tell him that you like him enough to begin a relationship. But you have your own conditions - He has to publicly accept you as his girlfriend and not hide the fact that you are dating. If he refuses, then the whole thing is off. No kisses, no flirting, no using you. It should be an all-or-nothing deal.

Does that sound like something you would be happy with?
It might take some courage to put your foot down, but I think that it would be one of the best solutions for you. :yes:

Aye he shouldn't be with you if he can't accept it. You can do much better.

Besides rejection will probably just make him like you more, things work in wierd ways!

Just don't let him use you and tell you to tell nobody, that just means he wants a kiss and more for nothing and if he doesn't want to ruin his rep for you then who is he saving it for?

We are not dating. He says i have to lose weight for that to happen. basically he likes my personality and thinks I am beautiful just chunky. So he is waiting for me to lose weight before we start dating.

Originally Posted by KH4Life

We are not dating. He says i have to lose weight for that to happen. basically he likes my personality and thinks I am beautiful just chunky. So he is waiting for me to lose weight before we start dating.

^ Well, there's your answer right there:
Do you want someone who loves you for who you are?
Or do you want someone who is obsessed with appearances and is willing to give up such a great person just because they aren't perfect?

I am not willing to give him up. I am attached to him. He knows how I feel. So far I have lost 20 pounds since june. I really want to be with him. After all he is my first kiss.

Seriously you wanna go out with someone that wants you to lose weight before you go out? I'd rather stab my eyeballs out X.X

Jhonny M!!!!!! you have read and posted on some of my other threads lol you give really good advice.l....but yeah about your post Yes, Yes i do. and sorry id did not realize that you posted on this thread earlier lol

Normally you don't stay long with your first kiss anyway. But if he's being as stupid as your explaining him to be, once again i say, slap him.

I honestly think that you need to stay FAR FAR away from this guy.
Tells you you need to lose weight before you can start dating? That's shallow.

From your picture you don't seem overweight or obese.

If he can't love you for who you are now and can't accept and be with you, then he is not the one for you.

He will just end up using you and you don't want that :(

The guy wants you to lose weight before he dates you? What an asshole! I know it may be hard to do seeing as you're all tied up in strange feelings from having him kiss you, but you need to run away from this guy as fast as your feet will take you. Obviously this guy is extremely shallow, controlling, and manipulative, and even if you do end up dating him I am sure your relationship with him will be full of hurt.

And like Little Miss said, most people do not end up with their first kiss anyway. Just because this is the first person you have ever kissed, and your feelings for him are probably the strongest you've had for anyone so far in your life, does not mean anything. You will probably end up with a handful of guys over the course of your life and you will likely have stronger feelings for any of them than you have for this guy. Someone who doesn't really love you and wants to make you change could never beat someone who loves and accepts you for who you really are. I would definitely suggest you wait for someone worthwhile -- you have your whole life to fall in love.

I think you need to grow a back bone ... if i give you a kiss will you come do my laundry? >>

I guess they really don't make em like they used to.. remind me to staple a welcome mat to your back cuz you're gonna need it as much as people are gonna walk all over you with that attitude toots.

In fact you know what. your parents should be beaten half to death for failing to raise you with any common sense or feeling of self worth ... your 'first kiss' needs to promptly be 'fixed' so he cannot reproduce and create more idiots. and you need to get a long lesson in self image and confidence.

Your first kiss is gonna turn into your first screw, and then your first screw is gonna drop you like a bad habbit which everyone in this thread plainly can see but you. then you are gonna be helping a shrink pay for his next trip to Europe.

Yea good luck with all that princess.

You want a guy who loves you for who you are.
Where do you see yourself in ten years, twenty?
this relationship will never work! You will always worry about your weight. This will always be a problem between the two of you.
He's gonna end up leaving you for a girl who he thinks is prettier, or skinnier!
If you go through with this, you will regret it!