i really dont want to be judged here i just want to know what some signs are for it

because
i have been struggling with this since 4th grade

err i am not trying to be awkward

i dont want to share too much

Well there's no diffinative way to tell, other than the interest in the female sex. It could be just a faze your brain is going through trying to sort out your feelings, or you could very well be a lesbian. I'm bi myself. I have full interest in relationships with both sexes.
And don't worry about the awkward factor. People are pretty open and understanding on Mene.

Well, I'd say that if you are attracted to other women and not to men, you are a lesbian. Syra is right, I don't think anyone is judging you here, you are who you are.

hi, my name it nizhoni and i am a lesbian. i think i can help you. when you are imagining your future, do you picture yourself with a man or a woman? the reason i ask this is because that is how i figured it out myself. whenever i thought of my future, it was always me and another girl, never a guy. what confused me was the fact that i could tell if a man was attractive or not. later on i realized that, that didnt matter because even straight people do that. i hope this is helping. if you have more questions or just want to talk about anything you can always message me. :)

i am not sure
i always see myself alone in the future
and
i have had relations with both genders
even with a male that isnt fully a male
i have done almost everything and i am still confused
i have been with one guy (at the moment) for about a year and a half but i still look at other woman and want to do things with them
it has been like this for about 8 years

i dont want this to sound mean or judgmental and i really hate that we have to label everything but id have to say that you sound more like a bi-sexual. and there isnt anything wrong with that and dont ever let someone tell you otherwise. you just need to accept that you like both women and men. i dont think it really matters who you like as long as it makes you happy. i feel as though i am not being very helpful...

no
i guess it is helpful
i just have a real hard time with it because i am told you can either be one or the other

well that is a lie. the world is never just black and white there is always grey in between. dont feel guilty or ashamed of who you are. and those people who tell you that you can either one or the other dont know what they are talking about because they arent bi sexual themselves.

i know what you mean

i dont think you should care what other people think about your sexuality. and i know that, that is easier said than done but, really all that matters is that you are okay with who you are. when you talk about it with other people, say hey i am bi sexual and there is nothing wrong with that. people are usually less likely to bother you about it if you are so confident and so sure of who you are. well, i really hope everything works out for you.

thank you ^_^

you are welcome :)

I spent almost my entire life stifling my sexuality. Dx I'd get all fluttery around girls just like I did guys, and I'd convince myself that it was embarrassing, wrong, and not me. Good ol' me was only attracted to men! Girls weren't supposed to like girls, were they?

It was like I was brainwashed, and I spent years and years telling myself how horrible I was for developing crushes on people I wasn't supposed to. I eventually came to terms with who I was, though. x.o When I did first come out a majority of my friends simply told me "you and the rest of the teenage girl population" and I almost killed them. There was nothing more insulting to the fact that I was finally being honest to myself than everybody calling me a liar.

Right now you sound a little more bicurious than bisexual. xD My suggestion is either getting out there and dating both genders to see, or just envisioning yourself...well, doing the deed with both genders. (You can go out and actually do that, but I don't encourage random smex unless that's your thing. I don't think yours is from my assumption?) If you're physically aroused by the idea of you having sex with both genders, then there's a good chance you're bisexual. Keep in mind that there are different levels of bisexual, and you may very well have a sexual or simply a mental preference. It's true that I've only dated men, but that's only because I always happen to ask out the one woman who experimented to find out her sexuality with another girl and decided that she just wasn't into the same gender. -shrugs- I'm fine with that, and if I find a girl who meets my soulmate criteria we'll be hooked up just as fast as any man would be. (Perhaps faster. I like men, but those curves tend to win me over fast. xD )

Let me know how it turns out! n_n If you need any more advice, ask me!

Don't worry about being Judged. The modern world is full of supporters and haters. You'll find both either way you swing.
And often enough, there usually aren't signs to knowing whether your lesbian or straight, even bi. Unless you feel yourself completely falling for the same or opposite sex.

:)

i have fallen for both pretty hard

From the sounds of things you are bisexual... I mean with the lil bit you have talked about you remind me a lot of me.. hehe.

I love being with both genders, they each have something different to offer, well asides for the obvious.

I personally tend to like being with a female more then a male but at the same time I am WAY more picky when it comes to females. I have even found my self having both a girlfriend and a boyfriend at the same time. They both knew about each other and both realized that I had wants and desires that would not always be met by one gender. Now i am not saying that you have to do the same thing... If you like being with a male more then maybe date him full time and then when you feel the need to be with a female see if he is ok with either bringing one in or if he is ok with you just going off with her for a day and then coming back home.

All I can suggest is just be comfortable in the fact that you like who you like. As long as you and the person(s) you are with are happy that is all that matters.

i want both but i dont feel like i could have both at the same time

i feel like i would be cheating them unless it was a casual thing

Well then if that is how you feel I would suggest finding out which gender you are more comfortable dating long term and then see if your partner would be willing to either let you have a casual thing on the side every now and then when the erg arises or see if they would be interested in participating in said casual event. Believe it or not there are quite a few couples who do the causal group thing and most that I know have one or two people that are their regular casual additions. Like everyone is in it for the fun that can be had and its nothing more then that.

I can say form personal experience, with the right partner something like either of those is possible with out doing any damage to the primary relationship, yes it takes a lil extra work, but if your willing to put forth the effort the out come is well worth it.

my partner at the moment is a good enough person to accept that i have been with girls and might want to be with girls in the future
he used to be a mormon so i dont think he will like participating in a "group thing"
i am so nervous because he plans on proposing to me
so i better find out what i want quick

take your time and figure out what will work for YOU.

For me married or not i will always have the want and desire to be with a woman, and my partner will have to accept that fact and will have to be ok with me going and doing that from time to time.. its what makes me happy.

Well it could be a stage of trying to figure out your sexual orientation, a lot of girls go through this. Just as previous people have said, if you're attracted to women physically, sexually, etc. then there's a possibility of being a lesbian or bisexual.

you can be boths or you migth have curiosity for experienxex with girls and boys but i would say u migth be bisexual or u might like sometimes girls sometimes boys i think that happened to me to but i have a boyfrend and want to marry a boy but sometimes feel like changing but still prefere boys so that i can marry and have kids ^^

so i left him tonight.... he never seemed to truly care unless i would leave

but
i love him so much

A lot of people think that I am bi, but not really. Sure I think of women as being beautiful creatures, but then I think of the plumbing, and then I think "...Nah, I'm not enthused over that." You can find people to be attractive without it being a sexual thing too. ^_^
Also so far I agree with everyone else. It's always better to be honest about who you are than to hide it. If that means you have to date someone of the same sex to find out, then so be it. ^^ And also I agree with the fact that you shouldn't care what others think. If they love you, they love you for who you are, not what you look like, or are into. ^__^ So just be happy and not too hard on youself, ok?

You can never be certain about being a lesbian. I am not even certain I'm a bisexual. I have developed a few crushes on girls, but I never pursue them, and I wish to be a male very badly. Although the sexual thing I'm not too enthused about. But I think the main thing is having interest in girls and not so much on boys. No one's judging you, girl, so don't be afraid. But you could have mixed emotions. You could be bi-curious, which is a relationship with a girl interests you, but it's not like you're certain you want to go steady.
I believe you should give a relationship with a girl a try, but know that it could rise or fall. Be sure that you aren't going to hurt the girl if you decide that you are not into it. You don't want to rush into things like that.