Hello people of Menewsha! :sweat:

I've been wondering what are some of your takes on mixed race couples. I support the idea. People can't help it if they fall in love with something totally out of the race or even if it's the same gender. Who cares, right? It's that couples' business and let them be happy.

A lot of my friends know I'm like a lot of guys out of my race and kinda poke fun at the idea. But, my parents are kind of upset at the idea. Both of them grew up in a time where it was frowned upon. I think they are slowly starting to accept the idea, but still show no change.

Are you against it, support it, or what? There is no right or wrong answer, just simply what you believe in. :angel:

Edit: Thankies to everyone who posted! I'm happy to see a lot of people support it and are open to the idea. It's great to see a lot of people going past the skin tone and actually seeing a person for who they are. Thankies again!

I don't think there is anything 'wrong' with it at all. Never has been. Bodies are bodies, someone's skin, nose width, height or hair color has little to do with love other than personal preference. I don't frown on interracial couples and love and I don't believe anyone else should either c:

To have a problem with interracial love is to be a racist. That I am not. All individuals are entitled to love, no mather the race or gender.

Love is love. No matter what. I support it. I might even be in one of those relationships in the future!

People are people. Ive fallen in love with a colored man before, though there are people that completely look against it. I love what he has to offer (as in love and support and whatnot). :3 He is pretty darn amazing actually

I am a white person and have absolutely nothing against mixed race couples. I admit I usually do find myself attracted to people of my own race, but that has never been an absolute thing and I would certainly never not date or marry someone because of their race. I typically like to be friends with a person first before I date them and I am friends with all races, so I don't doubt that there is a possibility of me marrying someone from another race. I personally think it is an advantage to marry outside your race because you can expand your understanding of the world and learn a lot of new things. I always find it interesting to learn about new cultures and it would be nice to have that experience be part of a relationship.

However, I have still seen instances of discrimination against mixed race couples. I went to a university in California where there were a lot of Asian people. I had one friend who was Indian who told me outright she would never marry someone outside of her race. I kind of tried to shake it off, but it still struck me. Are people really still that racist?

Originally Posted by Goldenlici

However, I have still seen instances of discrimination against mixed race couples. I went to a university in California where there were a lot of Asian people. I had one friend who was Indian who told me outright she would never marry someone outside of her race. I kind of tried to shake it off, but it still struck me. Are people really still that racist?

I have seen many of those instances. My friend's parents don't want her dating a black man and she is asian. They want her to date another asian. I think that is so sad. She loves this man, can't they respect that?

It's funny because her parents were in the same boat. They weren't supposed to get married because the father was "not a pure asian". It is sad. I wish people were not like that.

Originally Posted by Tsukipon

I have seen many of those instances. My friend's parents don't want her dating a black man and she is asian. They want her to date another asian. I think that is so sad. She loves this man, can't they respect that?

It's funny because her parents were in the same boat. They weren't supposed to get married because the father was "not a pure asian". It is sad. I wish people were not like that.

Yes, it's kind of strange. I have heard of a lot of instances where Indian or Middle Eastern parents are very disapproving of their child being with someone of a different race.

The Asian and Middle Eastern races especially have heritage and traditions that have lasted a long time. Parents of those cultures nowadays grew up in very strict, insular societies. They married within their race because it was proper to do so, the idea of interracial relationships was completely rejected, because it was thought that being with another of a different culture would dilute the natural culture and heritage of the child. People are indoctrinated this way, and I guess I can understand why they could carry on thinking like that. I don't agree with it though. Love is love, no matter what country you're from!

My grandmother and great grandparents told me I HAD to marry a Japanese man. No choice in the matter, they even had a few picked out for me. Imagine their shock when I marry a white guy *evil grin*. They didn't take to him too well at first, then thought I was just dating him to bother them.. and didn't speak to me for a year after we got married (my great grandmother and great grandfather refused to come to the wedding, and my grandmother only came because my mother begged her to.)

I never agreed with this, I hated it growing up. I have siblings who are half white and they where looked down on, still are to some extent, by my family. They believe that the race should stay pure, that Japanese is better then white and that because I've married a white man, my daughter won't be as smart or loved because she's part white.. BS I say! But seeing it from that side, I guess white people can feel the same about other races. Doesn't make it right, though.

Originally Posted by MollyJean

My grandmother and great grandparents told me I HAD to marry a Japanese man. No choice in the matter, they even had a few picked out for me. Imagine their shock when I marry a white guy *evil grin*. They didn't take to him too well at first, then thought I was just dating him to bother them.. and didn't speak to me for a year after we got married (my great grandmother and great grandfather refused to come to the wedding, and my grandmother only came because my mother begged her to.)

I never agreed with this, I hated it growing up. I have siblings who are half white and they where looked down on, still are to some extent, by my family. They believe that the race should stay pure, that Japanese is better then white and that because I've married a white man, my daughter won't be as smart or loved because she's part white.. BS I say!

That is kind of sad. I am so glad I live in a tolerant family. My parents couldn't care less which race I marry. Although I am kind of scared of being the white girl who marries another person who has racist parents. I am such a big family person that I don't know if I could stand my partner's family hating me.

Originally Posted by MollyJean

But seeing it from that side, I guess white people can feel the same about other races. Doesn't make it right, though.

I don't know. I think white people have been so beaten to death for being racist that there aren't many white people like that left. I kind of think racism has shifted into the other races like the Asians and the Blacks and because they haven't done anything like slavery, so they aren't being corrected too much. Don't get me wrong. I have heard that whites can still be extremely racist in the deep south.

I think (and this is strictly my opinion) that marriage should be between (only) two people who meet the following requirements:
*Human
*Above the age of consent (or have jumped through the hoops for underage marriage that we already have)
*Not related, up to and including first cousins (anything farther out would be considered "not related")
*Consenting

The end.

Originally Posted by Goldenlici

That is kind of sad. I am so glad I live in a tolerant family. My parents couldn't care less which race I marry. Although I am kind of scared of being the white girl who marries another person who has racist parents. I am such a big family person that I don't know if I could stand my partner's family hating me.


I don't know. I think white people have been so beaten to death for being racist that there aren't many white people like that left. I kind of think racism has shifted into the other races like the Asians and the Blacks and because they haven't done anything like slavery, so they aren't being corrected too much. Don't get me wrong. I have heard that whites can still be extremely racist in the deep south.

Unfortunately I live in that "Deep south" you're talking about. Maybe not as far as you think, though, I'm in Tennessee, and in a pretty raciest area. I get a lot of funny looks. While my daughter has some very close friends now and she's accepted by her peers, she was treated by her preschool teacher like she had a learning disability and a lot of the kids in her class made fun of her eyes (Made the retardation statements that come with slightly slanted eyes). I pulled her out of preschool after about a month and had a few nasty words to say to the teacher.

Now she's top of her class in 2nd grade and on a 5th grade reading level... and one of only 5 minority children in her school. She seems to be better accepted then the black children, and I'm glad, but I feel bad for them.

When we lived out in the main city (Knoxville) we didn't have any problems, not with me being Japanese, not with me and my husband being together, not from people we didn't know, at least. But here, we're up in the mountains and it's a very small closed off community. It's as if I SHOULD be ashamed of what I am, even though I didn't really have a choice. I even had a woman I didn't know say "You're Chinese, aren't you? WHY are you living here?" in a way that made me feel like she didn't want me in the area.

Can't move right now, we're buried too deep in a farm investment. Thankfully it's pretty secluded, I don't have to deal with people very often. And like I said, things got better for my daughter. She's made a bunch of friends on the cheerleading teem and signed up for Jr. Cheer leading. I wouldn't have liked this in any other situation, but it's helping others accept her more. But one of these days I want to move out of here, that is, if I can find something better. I feel like all these small communities are going to be about the same.

And I've wondered a few time.. if it's going to be OK for my daughter to date any of these white boys when she's old enough. I don't mean for me, I mean for the boy's parents. Wonder if they'll have problems with it.

I support the idea of mixed race couples, nothing's wrong with that.

though I am asian, my parents are a bit traditional and would prefer me to date in my own race.

Originally Posted by MollyJean

Unfortunately I live in that "Deep south" you're talking about. Maybe not as far as you think, though, I'm in Tennessee, and in a pretty raciest area. I get a lot of funny looks. While my daughter has some very close friends now and she's accepted by her peers, she was treated by her preschool teacher like she had a learning disability and a lot of the kids in her class made fun of her eyes (Made the retardation statements that come with slightly slanted eyes). I pulled her out of preschool after about a month and had a few nasty words to say to the teacher.

Now she's top of her class in 2nd grade and on a 5th grade reading level... and one of only 5 minority children in her school. She seems to be better accepted then the black children, and I'm glad, but I feel bad for them.

That is just so sad, but at least it is getting better. Maybe that means there is hope for the next generation of people in that community. Hopefully, by growing up as friends with your daughter, they will be able to break away from the racist ways of their parents.

Originally Posted by MollyJean

When we lived out in the main city (Knoxville) we didn't have any problems, not with me being Japanese, not with me and my husband being together, not from people we didn't know, at least. But here, we're up in the mountains and it's a very small closed off community. It's as if I SHOULD be ashamed of what I am, even though I didn't really have a choice. I even had a woman I didn't know say "You're Chinese, aren't you? WHY are you living here?" in a way that made me feel like she didn't want me in the area.

Can't move right now, we're buried too deep in a farm investment. Thankfully it's pretty secluded, I don't have to deal with people very often. And like I said, things got better for my daughter. She's made a bunch of friends on the cheerleading teem and signed up for Jr. Cheer leading. I wouldn't have liked this in any other situation, but it's helping others accept her more. But one of these days I want to move out of here, that is, if I can find something better. I feel like all these small communities are going to be about the same.

I think small communities are definitely the hardest places to change because everybody knows everybody else and so you practically have to change the mind of the whole community all at once or the other members in the community will bring those few people who do change back into their old ways because they have such an influence over the whole community.

Originally Posted by MollyJean

And I've wondered a few time.. if it's going to be OK for my daughter to date any of these white boys when she's old enough. I don't mean for me, I mean for the boy's parents. Wonder if they'll have problems with it.

I sincerely hope not. I am sure you could at least do a little bit of something to help the situation by teaching your daughter to be tolerant and outgoing. Just make sure she doesn't ever feel like what the racist people label her as.

As Son Zack said, it's all about preferences. We don't begrudge brunettes for marrying blondes, we don't protest tall people marrying short people, we don't turn our nose up when someone with green eyes marries someone with brown eyes. Why people get their panties in a knot when the difference is race is beyond me.

As for my personal story :P, my mother was...tolerant, I suppose you could say, but still believed that it should be avoided because it was "more trouble than it was worth". My father is vehemently against it, and once made the statement that if he ever found out that I was dating a black person, I'd never see or hear from him again. I have dated many people who were not my "race" (I hate using that word; makes me think of aliens or something), despite that warning, and didn't really experience any problems with it. Even living in the South, no one who knew about my relationships judged them based on race.

I have no problem with it. it's all about personal preference to me. My family probably would hate it if i dated outside my own "race", but if you think about it my boyfriend and I are not the same race. Sure the color of our skin is the same, but his heritage is different. He's French-Canadian, Austria-Hungarian, and russian. I'm German-dutch, danish, English, and native american.
Even though we're both "white" My family still doesn't accept my boyfriend.

I don't think any race is superior or inferior to another. But i understand some people's opinions are based on life experiences. My boyfriend is a good example. He lived in north carolina for 2 years. He was having family trouble and was about middle school age. Because he was white and from california, he was beat up almost every day by the black kids and actually ended up in the hospital because of the severity of one particular attack when they forced him to drink lighter fluid. He doesn't hate black people, but is naturally skittish around them and tends to just avoid and stay away from them. Luckily for me i havent had an experience like this from another race, but i understand his frustrations.

I understand that not all people are like this and I do think it is particular to north carolina, as I have lived in california my entire life.

As people keep saying, you don't judge relationships if one person has green eyes, and one has blue. It's a matter of the pigment in your skin, reacting to what your DNA tell it. Why should that matter. I'll admit, I personally have been attracted to mostly white males (I am white), but there are a lot of sexy people with black, tan, or any other colour of pigment.
Love is Love dude. It's your life, it shouldn't matter to anyone else.

I guess you could say I "support" it.

I mean, I ignore people's race most of the time anyway. Like, I don't see why it matters what color the person is or from what descent they are.
:roll:
If you love someone, you love someone. :\

As the offspring of a mixed-ethnicity couple, I strongly support people who fall in love with those of different ethnicities.

There are differences in people's cultural backgrounds, however subtle, that can eventually come to the surface to hurt their relationship. But every relationship has it's obstacles, whether the people are of different ethnicities/cultures or not. My parents' marriage fell apart pretty quickly based on stuff like that. But it's a good thing they were together at some point, since my sister and I wouldn't have been born otherwise.

My mom is from Iran, and her mother basically forbid her from marrying another Iranian before she met my dad. I think that is pretty weird. Her mother even went through the trouble of somehow breaking up my mom and this one Iranian dude's relationship.

I do not agree with it. My opinion. I'm racist, but hey we all have our preferences.
I ain't holding it against the kid, though. My sis married a black man. They have a son. He's adorable, and I accept him as my nephew. :3

Originally Posted by Der.Munstress

I do not agree with it. My opinion. I'm racist, but hey we all have our preferences.
I ain't holding it against the kid, though. My sis married a black man. They have a son. He's adorable, and I accept him as my nephew. :3

So you don't agree with it and think when other people do it, it's wrong and they're bad people? Or you just wouldn't do it yourself?

Those are two entirely different points of view. I'm curious, which is more accurate in your case?

Some day we will all be connected by race. So far most Americans are part Native American. Next we will all be part Mexican. [No offense intended!]

I don't much care about race. Personally, I think dark skin is beautiful and those Irish girls with pale eyes and red hair are lovely. We all have something majestic to contribute to the pool. Now we just need to add all the races together and the perfect person will be formed. XD lol

I personally like someone who is a different race than me, she's Chinese and I'm Italian. My parents, who are both Italian, disaporve. (I being the only one in the family to like a person of Chinese decent) but they're not crazy about it and try to do crazy things like disown me. I don't see anything wrong with loving someone, race is really meaningless to me.

I feel bad for being so shocked at the fact that when I moved to the city where I currently reside, I was pretty much the only person at my new place of employment who was involved with someone of my own race. Pretty much everyone else in a relationship was seeing someone outside their race. I don't think this is bad, I don't much care, it just wasn't that common in my hometown. I stand by my stance that love is love.

If people have problems with mixed race, then they are racist. Why would you have a problem against a mixed race couple because of skin color? You don't see white tigers refusing to mate with bengal tigers.

I'm Romanian and my fiance is Mexican. His family didn't care about his race preference, my family did. They've been trying to instill the old european values in me, "never marry someone that's not European". It was alittle contradictory, since my cousin married a black woman, my step-aunt is engaged to an Ecuadorian, I'm engaged to a Mexican, etc.

I have no problem with inter-racial couples since technically, we're all one race; the human race.

Originally Posted by TheHumbleBee

Hello people of Menewsha! :sweat:

I've been wondering what are some of your takes on mixed race couples. I support the idea. People can't help it if they fall in love with something totally out of the race or even if it's the same gender. Who cares, right? It's that couples' business and let them be happy.

A lot of my friends know I'm like a lot of guys out of my race and kinda poke fun at the idea. But, my parents are kind of upset at the idea. Both of them grew up in a time where it was frowned upon. I think they are slowly starting to accept the idea, but still show no change.

Are you against it, support it, or what? There is no right or wrong answer, just simply what you believe in. :angel:

Edit: Thankies to everyone who posted! I'm happy to see a lot of people support it and are open to the idea. It's great to see a lot of people going past the skin tone and actually seeing a person for who they are. Thankies again!

I've only dated in my own race once. I am completely for interracial relationships. You learn so much about culture and just everyday living that is different from your own. Its really good to learn about this because you learn to understand that person more. It helps you grow as a person and you see the difference between you and that person.