I know that there are a lot of people out there who struggle with their self-image, having difficulty seeing themselves as beautiful or worth anything. I'd like to tell you all that you are beautiful. I know it sounds corny or whatever, but sometimes that's all you need to hear. You're beautiful, and anyone who makes you feel otherwise is an idiot.

I don't know if anyone has heard about Project Beautiful, but it's an ongoing effort of people around the world to remind each other that no matter what anyone else says, we are all beautiful in some way shape or form. Just last week I was in the bathroom at school, scrutinizing my appearance in the mirror, when I looked up and saw that someone had written across the top of the mirror, "You're beautiful!" Just seeing that made me smile and not worry so much about what I look like. Has anyone else had experiences like this?

I cant say Ive had experiences personally, well, towards me at least. I just do what I can to bring up the spirits, and confidence of those around me. Personally, I dont think Im all that great looking, but apparently some people out there do think I am. I let people see what they want to see when they look at me. Well, until a certain point. Then I will just blow their minds with what I actually can do, or can look like(for instance, wearing crappy looking clothes, then wearing a suit, it BLOWS their minds)

As the lovely and talented Kandee Johnson says:

"You're more beautiful than you know, more talented than you think, and more loved than you can imagine...."

you all may ve verry beutifful but im not. sits down and crys

I've been told that I'm beautiful many times, but sometimes it's hard to believe. Probably because I wish I could look different.

This thread is better suited for GD, so I'll be moving it on over there. :yes:

I know I'm beautiful. I tell myself that at least 3 times a day. I don't try to be vain, but I have a fairly healthy self-confidence. ^.^ If I don't tell myself I'm beautiful, who will?

I think I can have a bit of self-consciousness at times. In order to make myself believe other wise, I like to make jokes with my friends and I'll say, "Oh, because I'm so amazing, right?", or "You're just jealous of my beautiful appearance", or lastly, "I am the definition of cute.". Ha ha. Now they call me narcissistic and never believe me when I tell them otherwise.

But hey, I think we've all been there when we've wanted to change our appearance. It's normal, and I'm happy you made this thread. I'm sure it makes a lot of us feel better. :D

And I really liked the whole mirror experience. I wish I could have had something like that happen to me. :)

You just gave me that experience. :P

It's been a long time since I've actually worried about how I looked. My husband always tells me that I am beautiful and I love knowing that that is how he thinks of me. I don't fit the standard definition of beauty, but that's not a big deal to me. The fact that I laugh every day and almost always have a smile on my face is all I need. Not to mention that my children's friends are slightly jealous that mom plays with them. XD

Those are the things that make me feel good about myself.

Originally Posted by Nissa

You just gave me that experience. :P

It's been a long time since I've actually worried about how I looked. My husband always tells me that I am beautiful and I love knowing that that is how he thinks of me. I don't fit the standard definition of beauty, but that's not a big deal to me. The fact that I laugh every day and almost always have a smile on my face is all I need. Not to mention that my children's friends are slightly jealous that mom plays with them. XD

Those are the things that make me feel good about myself.

This is so sweet. :heart:

I've had some nasty experiences having to do with this. People have picked on me, called me fat, etc. (and GUESS WHAT! I've NEVER been overweight) to put me down. For years I thought that I was hideous and had a deep-rooted self-loathing of myself and my body until I finally came into contact with some friends that kept telling me that I was beautiful--that I had a wonderful personality and that my body/face/etc. was gorgeous.

All those years I was a beautiful person and I didn't know it. It sucked. All those years people were putting me down because they were jealous and I had always been what I wanted to be, a beautiful person (as in good, morally, as well as on the outside), and I didn't know it. I'm not vain, I just appreciate my uniqueness now.

It is my personal opinion that everyone should tell somebody just how beautiful they are every day. You just never know when they could be suffering the way that I had been from self-hate.

Hating yourself is the worst thing in the world. Death is easier. Thank you, Kitt, for starting this thread. Everyone needs to be reminded that they're beautiful.

It's natural for most people not to notice how beautiful they really are, which is great that there's an organization out there just for that. All through my early teen years I worried that my eczema would mark me as ugly forever, but now I know that most can't even tell I have it. : )

I have problems seeing myself as beautiful because my mother used to tell me that the only way I look pretty is if I'm wearing make up and am all dolled up. I HATE wearing make up, and I prefer blue jeans and an oversized t-shirt, to a skirt or something else girly. Now that I'm married, my husband tells me I'm beautiful everyday, but because of my mother it's always so hard for me to believe him. I'm 20, and because of my mother and some others in my family like her, I have very little self confidence. I just wish there was away to erase all the pain my mother has caused me. I want to believe my husband when he tells me I'm beautiful. I want to feel comfortable in my skin. I want to feel comfortable when my own husband looks at me. But that will take some time to remove about... 10 years of damage.

Originally Posted by Arrayah

I have problems seeing myself as beautiful because my mother used to tell me that the only way I look pretty is if I'm wearing make up and am all dolled up. I HATE wearing make up, and I prefer blue jeans and an oversized t-shirt, to a skirt or something else girly. Now that I'm married, my husband tells me I'm beautiful everyday, but because of my mother it's always so hard for me to believe him. I'm 20, and because of my mother and some others in my family like her, I have very little self confidence. I just wish there was away to erase all the pain my mother has caused me. I want to believe my husband when he tells me I'm beautiful. I want to feel comfortable in my skin. I want to feel comfortable when my own husband looks at me. But that will take some time to remove about... 10 years of damage.

I'm sorry, that sort of thing is always horrible. All things fade with time, though. Just remember that your present defines you and your future, not your mother and memories.

I dyed my hair blue and went out in public for the first time with blue hair. I went to a really ritzy restaurant, and all the waiters and waitresses pointed and stared and laughed, and I pretended not to notice.
I sat next to [it was a hibachi grill, where they seat more than one group with another.] a family of five, who were mother, father, two toddlers and a baby. The younger toddler pointed and shouted "Mommy look! She's so pretty!" The mother looked at me and then back at the boy and said "Yes, I think so too." Made my whole evening. =]

thats all so nice =] , no someone hasn't done that to me but i want to do that to someone now

Lately, I've been trying to leave notes that say "You're beautiful" in random places where people will find them- books in the library, napkin holders, window sills. I don't know if anyone finds them, but I hope if someone does, they'll feel special.

Yes, I know. I'm one hot pice of work ;) Though men must be blind to this fact becuase they don't pay any attention to me. The fools. Oh well, it's their loss, lol!

I should carry a Sharpie around with me so I can write "You're beautiful!" wherever I go.

Originally Posted by Kitt

Lately, I've been trying to leave notes that say "You're beautiful" in random places where people will find them- books in the library, napkin holders, window sills. I don't know if anyone finds them, but I hope if someone does, they'll feel special.

I wish I went to the library you go to. Maybe then I'll get some self esteme!

i like the sharpie idea i want to write on the newly painted walls at school since they painted over the wall where people had finger-painted for a girl with cancer

I've heard of the project and honestly I've had ideas about going around at my college and telling people my favorite aspect of them. I tend to observe people a lot, cause they don't really notice me. And I note a lot of good things about them in my mind. And I just want to be able to have the courage to tell all of them like hey; you're smile is amazing. or something along those lines. but I tend to not have the heart. :/ I don't want to get in their face and make them think I'm weird or anything. ^_^; but the thought continues to reoccur to me because I know I would feel beautiful just for making someone else feel great about themselves. if that makes sense. n.n;

That's nice.Thank you, you are too. ^^ Self confidence is pretty hard to maintain, it's good to see that people actually care about others'. I tell my friends that they're beautiful all the time, and it bugs me when they think they aren't. To me, they could be models, but of course they think otherwise. :roll: I think real beauty has to do with mainly what's on the inside. The media has pretty much destroyed our views on beauty. Dx

Originally Posted by Twisted Insanity

That's nice.Thank you, you are too. ^^ Self confidence is pretty hard to maintain, it's good to see that people actually care about others'. I tell my friends that they're beautiful all the time, and it bugs me when they think they aren't. To me, they could be models, but of course they think otherwise. :roll: I think real beauty has to do with mainly what's on the inside. The media has pretty much destroyed our views on beauty. Dx

Agreed COMPLETELY. :] I believe all my friends are wonderful people and it usually hurts me when they put themselves down. :[ the irony in this is that I do the same to myself. n.n; But I recognized it so now everytime I do think low of myself, I look in the mirror and tell myself I'm beautiful over and over again. Honestly, you have to tell yourself constantly in order to believe it. I learned that if you're picked on when you were little, you'll usually, get it beaten into your head that you're stupid or worthless. Being told something over and over again starts to take it's wear and tear.

Everyone should just be more open towards the good instead of the bad. we focus way too much on the bad because it's interesting and dramatic. sure, everyone needs a little in their lives otherwise things would probably break out in chaos. but you know what i'm saying.
....sorry for the rant-ish. ^_^; -bows head-

Originally Posted by akhmonster

i like the sharpie idea i want to write on the newly painted walls at school since they painted over the wall where people had finger-painted for a girl with cancer

You must be kidding! That was heartless. Period.

I don't think I can ever call myself "beautiful", but I think I'm pretty cute! Most of the time, haha. I'm comfortable with myself and hate it when most guys just see me and go “Ah, no. No chance”, even if a friend tells them I’m funny, nice, and just fun to be around. (This only happened twice, but the friend picking out these guys wasn’t really a good choice of guys for herself let alone someone else..)

At times I do have a hard time keeping my self-esteem up though.. It doesn’t help that I’m a plus-sized lady and everyone and their grandmother is talking about being a size negative (-)20 and making rude or offhanded comments at you directly. It’s worse when they just stare at you and laugh though. (This rarely happens, but it has, and that’s the problem.) All in all, I think my body is very well proportioned for me being bigger. (Size 18 (sometimes a 16 or 20, depending on the brand and cut.) Though, I’m not 100% sure why I brought that up since 98% of the time I just blow it off and make some smart assed comment back at them or something of that nature. Usually I just let it wash right over me.

Okay, now I’m just babbling over nothing, but overall, I just wish more people would accept who they are and quit pushing the whole “size 0 is the place to be” for everyone. It is not for everyone.