This is a vent more than anything, but I'd like some opinions, too.

I think I might be high-maintenance. Moreso than I'd like to admit. I'm typically known for how chill I am, always the mediator, quiet, sarcastic little wallflower. I'm needier than I put off, though. When I'm not in a relationship I get really, really depressed unless I can be surrounded by people. When I'm in a relationship, I don't even need to see the person every day or get very much attention from them to be satisfied. It's just when I'm out of one that I crave attention. I want compliments and texts from everyone, I want to be busy and invited to parties every weekend. If I don't have that, I feel forgotten. My self-confidence goes down very quickly and thoughts go through my head like "I'm unloveable." or "I'm a terrible friend."

I don't know what to do about this. :/ I hate being co-dependant. I want to learn how to be happy by myself, without being fed by other people.

Has anyone else felt like this before?

I felt that way for awhile back when I was younger, but I have learned to occupy myself with other hobbies and such. There are many ways to get positive attention, but you must work at it. As I am a pianist, when I would learn new music or write new music I would perform it out in public and I got noticed. Was that my objective? Not my main objective but it was a small part of it as it boosted my self esteem. Sometimes there are problems that are really deep rooted within ourselves that we need to do soul searching and find the causes of such feelings as you are feeling. If you are in college, seeing a counselor may be one way of dealing with it. I'm not a counselor but I can share with you what worked for me, and I still have issues, different ones, but that's another subject ;)

Hopefully what I have posted will be somewhat helpful.

I also feel like this at times and i have to remind my self how it would be if i moved away and didn't have my friends there to comfort me and feel confident around, i mean one day ill have to be independant and i tell myself tis all the time.
I always tell myself that there will come a time in life that you will have to learn that theres not always going to e some one there to make you feel good and that everything in life isn't sugar coated. And like Kole_Locke
said it is some times easier when you occopy your self with hobbies or even chores for the matter, i my self tend to draw or read when i am feeling this way I mean like i try to.
Sometimes i let it get to me but then i remind my self of how i have to be and i get back on track and go on about my business.

Originally Posted by royal randomness

I also feel like this at times and i have to remind my self how it would be if i moved away and didn't have my friends there to comfort me and feel confident around, i mean one day ill have to be independant and i tell myself tis all the time.
I always tell myself that there will come a time in life that you will have to learn that theres not always going to e some one there to make you feel good and that everything in life isn't sugar coated. And like Kole_Locke
said it is some times easier when you occopy your self with hobbies or even chores for the matter, i my self tend to draw or read when i am feeling this way I mean like i try to.
Sometimes i let it get to me but then i remind my self of how i have to be and i get back on track and go on about my business.

Sometimes even redirecting and refocussing helps, doing things to avert your attention to issues elsewhere. I've had to do it, it helps some, it's just one strategy that can help.