First off, work is stressing me out majorly. This guy I work with is stalking me and I feel that it's going to get worse before it gets better. I started talking to him because I'm friendly with almost everyone I work with. He developed a "crush" on me and started doing weird stuff like counting minutes until I came back from my breaks, he counts minutes until I clock in from my breaks, he used to follow me around until I said something to my store manager about it and they made him stay on the opposite side of the store as I am, and one of my managers told me that he said he's pay money to see a picture of me naked.

I talked to my store manager about it and he left me alone for a day before he started right back up with following me around again. Yesterday, him and I got off of work at the same time. He clocked out on time but the manager kept me an hour after because she didn't want him to stalk me. He waited a half hour after he clocked out in the break room for me to clock out then came back to where I was and kept asking me when I was leaving. I told him not any time soon and he eventually left before I had to clock out.

The guy has some mental issues and is slow but I don't think that's an excuse to allow him to harass me. I'm afraid things are going to get worse and I do not want to be put in a dangerous situation because nothing was done about him.

On top of that one of my managers, who is also a friend of mine, has a boyfriend that abuses her who keeps showing up at work threatening to beat her. The cops had to be called this past time he showed up and he was escorted home. That made myself and another associate almost quit our jobs on the spot because it got so bad.


Aside from work issues, my best friend won't talk to me now because he thinks I have something going on with that crazy stalker kid I work with. Keep in mind that I NEVER date or do anything with guys so I'm not too sure what brought that up all of the sudden. He blocked my phone number, facebook page, messengers, and every thing so I can't even talk to him now. He's really the only one I tell anything to so for the past almost week I've been keeping things to myself.

I have a crap load of health issues that are stressing me out like crazy now too. I'm starting to have muscle weakness and sleep apnea because of the medications. I've been having a lot of trouble sleeping lately and it's making my depression and anxiety go through the roof. I feel like I'm always being defensive about any little thing because I'm so high strung lately. It's not like me at all.

With everything going on I really feel like I can't take more stress. I keep telling myself things will get better but every time I think that some other thing comes up and makes everything worse.

One of my favorite songs in the world, is by Shaggy, it's called Keep'n It Real. It's not what you'd expect, it always always alwats cheers me up when I hear it, you should YouTube it or something. It's got a 'Be Happy Don't Worry' feel to it.

But since your employeers clearly aren't doing anything about the slow stalker, and your friends ex are making things wierd, maybe the best thing you can do is start applying for different jobs, if that's an option. Have you tried telling him yourself to leave you alone?

And I'm sorry to hear about your health issues, it sort of sounds to me like your bestfriend may be overwhelmed and maybe even a little scared to be acting like that. The only other reason I can think of that a guy would do that is he has a girl who doesn't want him talking to you and caring for you so much.

Ok here is the song :)
It looks more like a thug song if you're just reading it, but it's not, this song has gotten me through a lot of really sad times in my life, maybe it can do the same for you :)

When I was young I use to dream of being rich
Have alot of houses and cars, Couldn't know which one was which
And finding me a chick and getting hitched
Living the fairy tale life perfect without a ditch
You think that this would bring me happiness
If at the end of every rainbow, There was a treasure chest
Sometimes having more is really less
So take a look inside yourself, You'll realize you're really blessed
No matter how you're sad and blue
There's always someone who has it worse than you
Sometimes you gotta pay your dues
So don't worry just push on through

Keep'n it real
Gotta big up all my peoples who be working on the future
Though they know they gotta struggle
Keep'n it real
To all my homies working on the 9 to 5
And doing right to keep themselves up out of trouble
Keep'n it real
Although sometimes I know it seems impossible
There ain't no need in drowning in your sorrows
Keep'n it real
If things are as bad as they can be
You can be sure there'll be a brighter tomorrow

And I forgot to have myself the house, the mansion, and the Benz
I'm not the type of brother who be making mad ends
I got myself a girl but we be kickin' it as friends
Is not enough for me now that depends
Again- not everthing you want is everything you really need
The standard of society is more devated by greed
Are you prepared to follow
Tell me are you prepared to lead
So persevere and you'll suceed

All the harsh realities, Appears to come in twos and threes
Don't worry cause, There'll be a better day
One thing I can promise you, Just keep on keeping on
I swear to you, There's gonna be a brighter day

Sounds to me like you should really do something. Preferably look for another job, because it really doesn't seem like just talking to the managers will help. Which, if you leave, will be their own fault. The sad thing is that business are legally required to hire the handicapped, if they can function in a work environment, if the guy is handicapped. But he should also more than likely be doing therapy and taking meds. I'd say preferably every week on the therapy, and if he isn't doing that then he really should. But then again, I've been through the mental health system before. The ones here in Florida are trash. I don't have many illnesses to speak of...Not allergic to anything, no asthma, or chronic pain or anything that requires lots of doctor visits.

But it seems to be a "curse" in my family that we would either end up being chronic depressive, or bi-polar. I seem to have gotten the depression, mixed with anxiety. And the tendency to bottle things. -sigh- Sorry I've gotten off topic. About the best friend thing...I understand. I had a friend that even though I knew only a short time, I was exceptionally close to...And her own mother, who was also bi-polar manic agressive I think, told her to stay away from me. It tore me apart to watch it happen, knowing that the third time I'd visited her house was the last time because I scolded her on complaining about how protective her parents were. I had grown up without mine, and I saw no problem with it, couldn't see why she did have an issues with it.

I can't offer any good advice about that sadly. Turns out, and ripped me into even more pieces, she's completely and utterly forgotten who I am when I last saw her in a shopping store. But, and I'm not trying to be religious(seeing as I don't know if you are or don't like it), but I'm lead to believe sometimes, no matter the pain, eventually something better will come. One of the nice things though? If you ever went into say a psychology career, you'd be amazing at it because of your own past expeirences. You've been there and survived, now you can help one more lost soul out there who thinks no one else could ever understand and help them. Life is precious because there will always be at least one unknown person in your corner, trying to cheer you on when everything else is drowning it all out.

@Kya Katsumi: I've been applying for jobs months and still nothing. I'm considering even moving out of state if I find something that pays well enough. I think Monday when I go in I'm going to ask for a transfer to another store.

Thanks for the song recommendation. I like Shaggy's music but haven't heard that one yet. :)

@AmaniIshtar : Funny that you should mention going into a psychology career. That's exactly what I want to do aside from owning my own store. I want to work with youth that have gender identity issues.

Don't even get me started about state mental health systems. Here they're pretty bad too.

Indeed. The last time I had a therapist because I'd finally caved into asking for someone else for help because I had been contemplating suicide, she was total shit. More concerned about current things, and being my buddy, not about helping me to learn how to cope. Noooooooooo that was to be the job of the meds they wanted me on...I quit going once my health insurance stopped once I turned 18. But its good of you to want to help. Sometimes, when you help someone, it seems to make your day a little better.

I would love to never go to a doctor again because they all seem to be pill pushers and I do not take medications unless I know what I am taking. I don't take the doctor's word for it and just take something. I used to and it made things way worse than they are now.

The past few days I just feel like total shit and my depression just keeps getting worse and worse. It's like Im in a rut and dont know how to get out.