I ended a relationship where this happened:
DERPINA: "make a facebook and post that you really love me to prove that you love me."

Kiffa: " Are you serious? "

DERPINA: "You can't do it can you!? Is there someone else you are ****ing?! WHO IS IT? It's T***a isnt it "

Kiffa: "O.o that is just weird is all and kinda odd....and crazy...."

Now I dont like fb, I dont like anything about it, it seems very boring, a drama starter, and the evil incarnation of the dead demon that was once myspace. [shudders]

Now I have a female friend named T***a who my gf does not like because she has slept over, chilled with me in the pool and is pretty sexy, I can acknowledge that because I am not blind. There has never been anything there and we have always been great friends, she was there when I needed someone, through each break up, we used to have sleep overs since 6th grade [we are both in our twenties now]
I [and so has she] have told my ex/gf/? that there is nothing there and infact T has told DERPINA that she is happy we are together and has even told me to give DERPINA another chance and try to fix this, but I have not told T that the terms to getting back together involve cutting her out of my life.
DERPINA has told me to be with her I have to cut out all my female friends and my single male friends [since they may "influence me to go for someone else"]
Let me add in half a year we have NOT had any sex [she has an std and the precautions for this are so insane they involve saran wrap]
She has been unfaithful well over 10 times with from my count 4 diff guys [yet im the one not trusted, go figure.]
When I wont stop talking to T***a she talked to boy #3 , when I complain
DERPINA: "If you talk to her I can talk to him, it's only fair..."
Kiffa: "except I never did anything with her an I never cheated on you with her so it is not fair AT ALL!
DERPINA: " I don't care!"

T says give her one more chance, that everyone deserves forgiveness and if she messes up once more then to leave her.
To give Derpina one more chance I have to cut out T and T doesnt know that.
;^; When I say I dont wanna give her up people tell me how I am inlove with her , even Derpina , but I'm not. She is very special to me, we can joke and she helps me when I need it but it isnt love. She is my best friend. I'm even friends with her gf.

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FIRST! Oh wait that doesn't count if it is my thread.....>.>

First point I find it pretty amusing because T***a could be a blocked out version of my name. xD

Anyway, moving on: tell your girlfriend to grow up. Just because you don't post on your Facebook that you love her doesn't devalue your feelings for her (and you're totally right about Facebook being a drama starter) and explain to her yet again that T is just a good friend of yours and nothing mow (maybe don't mention you find her sexy). If Derpina still can't handle that, then ask her why she doesn't trust you and try to work on that.

I don't think you should cut T out at all. Bros before hoes. You've been friends with her a lot longer and she's been there for you from the start.

Oh I have NEVER told DERPINA that I find T sexy, but also looking at her it isnt like it is a secret.
She doesn't trust me because since she has cheated in the past she thinks I am going to "get her back" the thought has crossed my mind, but the only reason I dont is because it would solve nothing.
I use FB for the buddypoke game to make papercrafts.
She told me [btw this is word for word]
"You can't be friends with any girls who are more attractive than me! That is just obvious!"
She has asked me to even give her all my passwords to see if I am cheating and literally when sleeping I look at her and wonder "Why do I bother with you anymore?"
Since she has no account on here T= Tessa.

Ah, I'm Tania. xD

Maybe you guys should take a break? She sounds possessive and she really doesn't have any trust at all.

:/ maybe you are right, maybe we just cant make it work anymore. she is very possessive, almost the real life version of overly attached gf

Take a break, see how you get on apart. If you think things work better, end it permanently, if not see what you can do to try and fix things. At the moment, something clearly has to change with her otherwise it's just going to get worse

She can't do that tho, even on days when I'm working she would spaz when she cant get a hold of me.
She can' go even a day without talking to me.

Tell her you need your space too. Being in constant contact with someone will likely annoy you and just leave tensions running high. It can't be good for either of you.

:U Honestly I'd just break up with her.

Possessive and disloyal. Uh, how about no?

For me there's not even a point in you going "on a break." I would just end it. I would have ended it the first time she cheated.

I'm sure you're loyal, and you wanted to give her a chance to try again, but it's obvious she's not taken any of the opportunities you've given her.

End it and keep your friend. Your should-be ex sounds like a witch.

Chances are if she's cheating then she's not going to stop. Don't believe they'll ever change. If you're okay with that then I guess you can "take a break" but at this point honestly I would just end it. She seems like too much drama and if she's willing to cheat with other people it's not even worth fighting with her.

I also want to add that saran wrap does not protect against STis. There's shit that can get through it...just an FYI. I wouldn't be doing anything until the infection was well and gone assuming it's something that can be cleared up.

I pretty much LOLed when you dubbed your Ex as:

Originally Posted by Haseo_adept_Kiffa

DERPINA

But on a serious note, I really do feel like you should not give this ex a 2nd chance. Anyone who has the NERVE to give you an ultimatum with you AFTER SHE'S CHEATED ON YOU is seriously deluded. They're not the type of people you want to be in a relationship in the first place. And if she was able to get you to end ties with some people, pretty soon she'll be stalking you, reading your private emails and text messages, have her friends spy on you and will forbid you to attend certain events without her present. She's not going to feel satisfied, at least not for long. No - she's going to be constantly fearful that you're cheating on her. Because she knows that if she can cheat on you, then by some strange logic, you can cheat on her.

I would just end it. Don't go for a break, that's not going to do anything but prolong the situation and get her even more anxious than she already is. Just tell her things aren't going to work out between you two due to unresolved differences. She's destructive on all levels as a girlfriend.

This girl is overly attached, possessive, and clearly not a good match for you or, at this point, anyone who values their mental or physical health. I figured that out within the first couple lines.

A healthy relationship is based on trust. If one partner does not trust another, the relationship is doomed, regardless of whether or not there's a valid reason for the distrust (if there's a valid reason, it's just doomed from two ends). That level of possessiveness is not healthy for you or her, and I also have to wonder a bit about the fact that she's cheated on you but is in full-blown panic mode about you having female friends. Apparently she's of the belief that one's default state is cheater. That can't be good.

Furthermore, the extent of her attempts to control you easily qualify as abuse. To be completely blunt, you need to run from Derpina as far and fast as possible. Do not look back.

>she cheated on you repeatedly
>is trying to control your life and your friends through fear and intimidation

hell the fuck no. i'd dump her ass.

I compeeeeetely agree with Monstahh.

If she's cheated on you THAT many times, I'm sorry she obviously doesn't care about you.
The reason she is so jealous is because cheaters are constantly paranoid. They know what they would do in the situation, so they fear that you would do the same.

Cutting out an absolutely fantastic friend from your life for some girl who seems to be pretty horrible to you is insane.
And going as far as to ask you to cut out all your single man friends? That a serious control freak, and you'll never be happy.

Besides, let's say you cut all those friends and a few months down the line more issues pop up, and you break up. You wont get those friends back, trust me.
She sounds like a crazy b-.

Anyway, I think the fact that you dubbed her Derpina should say what you really feel about her. Cause I've got to say, even if me and my bf got in a fight or something he wouldn't go complain about me on some site and call me "derpina." Sounds like a name for someone you're done with.

DERPINA has told me to be with her I have to cut out all my female friends and my single male friends [since they may "influence me to go for someone else"]

Ditch her... she obviously is being far too selfish there.

Especially given your best friend (while mutually friend zoned) would make a far better example of what to look for in a partner. She has also cheated on you 8 times. She does not deserve you.

Let me tell you a little story about my ex-wife. When I got married she told me she would be faithful to the end. But only 6 months in she had affair #1, which I forgave. Then, she had affair #2 and I offered to forgive her again, she considered him "better in bed" and ditched me for him. She felt she could "call a break just to F some old ex" cause she "felt like it".

Once a Cheater, always a Cheater. Keep that friend she is far more valuable.

Also on the note of that facebook crap... any girl that needs reassurance via facebook is far too insecure for a relationship. If even the equivalent of being romantic in public or something doesn't count she's just trying to "make herself feel more secure"

1/10 do not date. Like my ex-wife, she will make your life HELL.

Also, a final note my best friend (and ex gf) told me. When I got married I had to somewhat end my friendship with her. In the end she felt terrible letting me be with her because of all the emotional damage she caused. I didn't talk with her much for a whole year and any mention of her got spouts of jealousy from my now ex-wife.

Think about your friend at the least... she'll lose you to some girl who will just rip you to shreds.