So this is another inspired thread of mine.
How would you feel if poly marriages were legal?. Poly families already exist, I have read about them online. I have decided while it would not be my thing, I have no issues if someone else wants to live like this.
Having gone to a few traditional heterosexual weddings, a poly wedding would take some getting used to.

I tried to add a poll to this thread and I didn't see a way to put in words.

I think as long as they're responsible adults it should be okay.

However, it's not something I would approve right now. It's not safe for those pro-poligamist when not even all two-people marriages are accepted. Making it legal in today's society would created a mass dissapointment and support the creation of a new KKK.

So I think it's okay, but not for today.

Polygamists do not marry multiple people at once. It is a ceremony for each wife.

Yes, Polygamist families do exist. A branch of them live in Colorado City, Arizona. They live on welfare and stamps. They have been cheating the system for years. They live in Arizona so they do not have to claim taxes on an unfinished house they live in. Then they take their stamps to Costco in Saint George, Utah and go with all the other wives and children and load up anywhere from 5-10 shopping carts full of shit and buy it.

So yes, they should be allowed to get married so the 2nd-[x] wives do not have the ability to claim single parent to state and get welfare checks and food stamps.

I think it's a bad idea. Poly marriages just seem like too much of a hassle and there's bound to be a lot of jealousy going around. I'm not a jealous person by nature, but I believe I would be if I had to share my husband. I'd feel like I'd have to "one up" the other wives.

As for the overuse of welfare, I think the authorities should be more aware of it and they should be punished. It's currently not legal to have more than one wife so there should be a consequence. Take away the food stamps.

BTW, a poly relationship or family does not have be multiple wives with one husband. There can be many different arrangements involved. It could be two husbands and one wife for instance.

Just wrong. I say nay!! I'll keep this brief even though I could write several pages about this topic easily with a simple statement or two.
Crimes of passion are a very high percentage of crimes committed in America today. We do not need to support this kind of behavior being more likely to occur with multiple wives.

I also feel that giving yourself to someone (Love) isn't something you honestly can do with more then one person, It's called lust then. I believe that one of the most intimate expressions of love creates a union that is meant for two people.. not 1 + X number of wives or whatever ratio and gender mix you want to make it

(on a side note please reply to your other thread)

I think that polygamous marriages are not a good idea. I personally would think that eventually one of your spouses is going to become jealous of another spouse, and things tend to spiral out of control then.

Also, like Seph stated, love is strong bond between two people where you would sacrifice yourself for the good of your significant other. When someone starts claiming this bond with multiple people at once, I tend to doubt that and think that it's probably more like lust than actual love.

And also, polygamy has an extremely bad reputation because of the FLDS church and how they tend to force young girls to marry many several times their age who already have several wives. So legalizing it would create a tremendous negative backlash.

Supporting polygamy doesn't have to be about supporting pedaphilia. I feel pedaphilia is wrong, whether is it's two people or ten people involved. Polygamy does not automatically = pedaphilia.

I never said it did. I meant that polygamy has a very bad reputation and I don't think legalizing it would be wise. Many people automatically assume polygamy=pedophilia.

And to be fair, most of the cases in the USA are about pedophilia because most of the cases occur in the FLDS church which many times forces these relationships to happen.

If you want to learn more about the modern FLDS church, I would recommend reading Under the Banner of Heaven by Jon Krakauer.

I don't think polygamy should be illegal. It would stay rare in our culture, I don't think everyone would start marrying different people.
If multiple people are in love with each other I think they should all be allowed to have marital rights.

... That doesn't mean I would marry more than one man simultaneously, much less be "one of the wives" of a man. I prefer devoting myself to one person.

I say yeah. As long as all members of the relationship(s) know the circumstances and are ok with it, I see no problem with it. My friend even thinks it would be a good idea for her. Not the typical Male with multiple Female partners, but multiple partners on both sides.

Personally I don't think the polygamy marriage is a good thing. I am not saying that it doesn't work for some families. just that It is something that I could not do, nor would I want any of my family to do it. I could stand by and share my husband or wife with another person. i have watched many documentaries on it in other cultures and how the families are run. but personally for me it seems so very wrong.

I'd like to say I feel Marriage is a holy union between a man and a women, end of statement.

Someone once told me if we allow other kinds of marriages, sooner or later someone will want to marry a corpse. Since they don't want this to happen, they will oppose all marriages besides heterosexual marriages.

Hah...you know, if someone wants to marry a corpse, they can go for it. I have a small problem with it because I could see that as defiling the dead...but let's say two people were in love and then one died before they could get married. Then I think one could marry a corpse. Sexual relations with said corpse is an entirely different matter.

Did you know that in (China? some kind of Oriental country) a man fell in love and married a woman, but she died. He remarried, but later on married a Barbie doll because he believed the spirit of his first wife resided in it. His current wife OK'd the ceremony and they have a shrine in their house to the man's first wife.

Okay now that is just a little too weird for me.

Which?...marrying a corpse or polygamy?..

Haha...i'm assuming you mean marrying a Barbie doll xp

I'm not against polygamous marriages. I'm not the type of person who would be interested in marrying more than one person, but to each their own.

I don't see why it's really anyone's business besides the adults involved...assuming that they are all OK with the arrangement.

As long as everyone's okay with a polygamous marriage.. why the hell not? You can't say that polygamous marriages are more likely to fail than monogamous ones, 'cause seriously, just look at the number of marriages and divorces nowadays. The children being raised in a polygamous family will be raised on the thought that polygamy is a-ok, so technically there is no youth being corrupted.

Only problem I could possibly think of is that there will be people who abuse the legality of a polygamous marriage, and then go off and have a bunch of wives/husbands and whatnot, even when there is no love involved. ):

Originally Posted by Risque

As long as everyone's okay with a polygamous marriage.. why the hell not? You can't say that polygamous marriages are more likely to fail than monogamous ones, 'cause seriously, just look at the number of marriages and divorces nowadays. The children being raised in a polygamous family will be raised on the thought that polygamy is a-ok, so technically there is no youth being corrupted.

Only problem I could possibly think of is that there will be people who abuse the legality of a polygamous marriage, and then go off and have a bunch of wives/husbands and whatnot, even when there is no love involved. ):

But what if that statistic becomes Part of the polygamous marriage failed XD?

Originally Posted by Risque

As long as everyone's okay with a polygamous marriage.. why the hell not? You can't say that polygamous marriages are more likely to fail than monogamous ones, 'cause seriously, just look at the number of marriages and divorces nowadays. The children being raised in a polygamous family will be raised on the thought that polygamy is a-ok, so technically there is no youth being corrupted.

Only problem I could possibly think of is that there will be people who abuse the legality of a polygamous marriage, and then go off and have a bunch of wives/husbands and whatnot, even when there is no love involved. ):

And that is different from now how? People already do that. They get shit-face drunk. Go to a 24 hour chapel. Get married. Wake up. Walk down the block and get it annulled.

Originally Posted by Bartuc

And that is different from now how? People already do that. They get shit-face drunk. Go to a 24 hour chapel. Get married. Wake up. Walk down the block and get it annulled.

Yeah, I should've added how that pccurs in a bunch of marriages, polygamous or not.

@ Seph: Lawl yeah, it's all the same pretty much, but because of that I think polygamous marriages should go ahead and be legalized. :|

I think polygamous marriage should be legal. It's not something most people are capable of handling, but why should we deny those who do have genuine polyamorous relationships? Because one spouse might get jealous of the other?
...Well, it can also be said that in a standard vanilla marriage one spouse might get bored of the other. You can't say that it's a bad idea on the basis that you think it won't work. Many marriages today already don't work. The fact is, you can't actually know whether or not it will work. If everyone is a legal and consenting adult, who are we hurting here?

I suppose, if the corpse can sign the marriage license... xD

With how Americans are? No. It can be successful, but jealousy is still there, no matter what. I mean, there is jealousy rampant in monogamous relationships. However, I think marriage is over-rated in general. Really, besides benefits that come with it, marrying has become little more than a ceremony and a commitment that can be easily broken.
I believe that if you get married, to whoever you marry, it should be a permanent commitment or a set short term. (I think it was celts that were known to, on occasion, have a pre-set marriage time, like a year.) I don't think that people should just get married willy nilly. Maybe it's because of how my parents raised me, but I think that marriage is a VERY serious, lifelong commitment.