so the other day i was sitting at a Denny's restaurant. It was really sunny outside and it started to get hot where i was sitting, so i shut the blinds by my table. Some lady all the way on the other side of the restaurant requested that I open my blinds back up.

So discuss:
-should people have the right to request these things when it has almost nothing to do with them?

-should other people have to appease these kinds of people?

Frick that lady, honestly.

There are some very crazy and obsessed people out there. If you start obeying them, it will never stop and nobody will be happy. Most of those people are unsatisfiable anyway, a lot of them have disorders, usually OCD. Most normal people don't request people on the other side of the restaurant table do something.

Heck, most normal people are too polite to shout at the little kid hitting their feet on the back of their seat at the movies, you think they can ask something like that?
Probably not.

I think that lady must have been crazy, even if it did bother her for some reason that you had closed the blinds at your table, its against all kinds of common courtesy to ask you to open them again. obviously you closed them for a reason, this she must've realized and she asked you to put up with whatever that was just for her insane request and satisfaction.
terribly rude of her.
I'm a person who's quite particular about rudeness, so of course I would have reopened the blinds in your situation but then I would bear a grudge against her for such a rude request.

I should write a book about what I consider to be common courtesy, lol.

I feel bad for you. Yeah, what a weird lady. I don't see how that would ahve affected her...

ya, I know. she actually talked to the manager and had him go over to my table to tell me to open up my blinds.:illgetu:

I don't really see that this is a debate topic so I will be moving it to the general Discussion. ^^;;

The general gist of this topic has been kind of off putting. The idea that somehow your usage of a public space is more important than that other woman's. The concept that because you're hot she can't want the light that was coming in or the view of the beautiful sunny day...

Dude, you're the one sitting at that table. You're the one that has to deal with the sunlight. I would've told that woman if she wanted sunlight so damn much she should've sat at a window.

If she complains, tell the manager why you closed the blinds, and how that woman should have absolutely no say in whether you can close your blinds or not. You're the one sitting at the window, not her. At least you weren't smoking.

She has as much control over the blinds as the person sitting at the table. The blinds belong to the restaurant not the person sitting at the table, not the person sitting across the room. They both have equal rights in regards to the blinds situation.

They do not have equal rights. If someone chooses to sit somewhere where there are no windows, they shouldn't have control over the windows. The reason slickie has more control over that piece of public space is because she chose that piece of public space. The other woman chose the space across the room. If she had decided to sit next to the window, then she would have had more say in what goes on in that space. If she didn't like where she was sitting, she should have asked to move instead of trying to make someone else uncomfortable.

Did she even give a reason as to why she wanted the blinds across the room opened? o_O

I would have told her only if we could switch spots, and see if she bakes. If she goes to shut the blinds, ask her to keep them open XD

Not really. I would have told her that I was hot, and I wanted to shut the blinds. And if she didn't like it, then she can get over it, since she's not sitting there. Although she might have had an explanation. Maybe her car was there with something in it? Don't know, I guess I would have asked why as well.

All that any of you are saying is that what you want is more important than what someone else wants. If that's how you all feel, that's fine, but let's not mince words and instead just start calling it what it is.

You are no more or less selfish for wanting the blinds closed than she is for wanting them open. The End.

It is more important because the woman across the room isn't sitting there. :XD

Did she request or demand? If she requested you could have just said "Im sorry but, I am too warm sitting directly in the sun" and been done with it. If she demanded, you should just have ignored her and when she complained to one of the servers, you should have explained to the server why you closed the blinds. I know a lot of people who are just selfish and rude and want everything their way but, I don't believe every person is that way, just the majority.

I was at the grocery store today and I was waiting for the guy in front of me to pay so, I didn't push my cart way up to the front of the register so that he could pay the woman and this rude person behind me was standing right on top of me, I know she wanted me to move but, I just stayed where I was until the guy paid, I hate people like that.

Kinmotsu: I'm sure the blinds being open made slickie way more uncomfortable than the blinds being closed made the woman way across the restaurant, it was clearly the woman not caring about someone else's discomfort because she wanted more light.

Oh man, grocery stores. What's really annoying is one when someone thinks that just because they have one item, and you have twenty, that they can cut in front of you. I actually had a woman do that to me one day. I mean, if I notice that you only have one or two things and I have a whole cart full, I'll let you go in front of me, but this woman just walked on up the line and squeezed in front of me without even asking. Needless to say, the cashier was just as annoyed as me when I asked her what she thought she was doing. Almost as soon as she answered, she ended up in the back of the line before I could even get another word in. :XD

My husband and I were in line at a U-scan one day and there were 2 people in front of us and 5 or so behind us. This older woman and her husband starting edging in on the side and I told my husband I think she is going to try to butt in and sure enough as soon as she thought a scanner was coming open she ran past all of us and jumped in front of us all. I gave her a piece of my mind. The best part is that it turned out, the guy was only going up to ask the attendant for some help and they had to wait anyway. The most annoying part is that the employee didn't do anything or tell them to go wait in line like the rest of us and I was the only one who said anything to her. My husband said she said something about fighting me but, I didn't hear it and I'm not that stupid, jail doesn't appeal to me at all.

True, getting into a fight over a place in line would be a crappy thing to go to jail for. I'm surprised more people didn't speak up though. Maybe they thought you were doing a good job on your own? :XD

that's like when we were cutting down trees in our backyard. kay, we have a jungle of a backyard. trees EVERYWHERE. so, we began to cut them down.
then, the neighbor comes over and says "don't cut down all the trees." now, what i wanted to say was "i'll cut something else off if you tell me what to do with my yard again. (:", but what i said was "alright."
i hate it not only when people tell me what to do, but when i can't say what i want to say back because i have too much respect for people i shouldn't have respect for. i wouldn't go into someone's bathroom telling them not to change the tiles. i wouldn't tell anyone not to take out the garden in their backyard. why should that guy have the right to tell me not to cut down the ugly jungle in my backyard? if he wants trees so bad, he should grow some in his own yard.

@yeah
that happens to me all the time in the school cafeteria. people know i won't say anything, so about five people will butt infront of me at once! well, after a while, i got fed up. this would happen every day, and i wanted it to go away for good. and so, the next day, someone walked infront of me. i said nothing. then a few more people did it. i said nothing. when i got to the drinks section, i opened a box of orange juice and 'accidentally' spilled it all over the people who had cut me off. ofcourse, they knew it was on purpose, so they never did it again. :3

I like sundey's idea of telling her she could trade you spots and have the blinds open.

I've seen terrible behavior at restraunts. Once I was at a mexican restraunt and the lady at the table next to us dropped her fork and wanted a clean one. So the server brought out a new folded napkin with a set of silverware in it and she yelled "I said I wanted a fork, not a whole set of silverware, what part of that didn't you understand?!" I wanted to puke. Some people can be so rude.

Originally Posted by Yeah

Kinmotsu: I'm sure the blinds being open made slickie way more uncomfortable than the blinds being closed made the woman way across the restaurant, it was clearly the woman not caring about someone else's discomfort because she wanted more light.

While that may be possible, it's certainly not clear. Unless the OP stood up and announced that she was closing the blinds because she was hot, then her intentions could not have possibly been clear to someone halfway across the room.

Knowing myself, I'd have just looked at her like she was retarded, and asked "why?" I'm not a pushover, and frankly, people do suck. I hate it when someone who has nothing to do with what I'm doing or discussing noses on in and tries to own everything. I say to hell with those folks, they can wait. The earth is not going to stop spinning just because they're unhappy, and you know, like others have been saying, it isn't just that they're unhappy. A lot of people have such pathetic and meaningless lives, that they have to bother others and try to spread the misery. That's the biggest problem in the world really. Besides the Seven Deadly Sins, I think nosiness falls in there somewhere. Everybody is worried about everybody and not about themselves. Fine world, innit?

Anyway, I hope you didn't open them back up, I don't think it would have killed her to have no control over what was happening on your side of the restaurant, and if it did .. well, then I guess the restaurant had less to deal with. XD (Not that I'm saying she should die, but if she had it wouldn't be skin off anyone's back who didn't like her or anyone who acts like her for that matter.)

It's not that bad, but I wouldn't have done it. No one else cared and in a one to one battle you were closer to the window.

People do suck though... that lady isn't really one of them.

I would have said.
"I tell you what, you switch seats with me and I keep them open":sarcasm:

I could see myself in a similar situation.I always ask for the blinds to be closed when I go somewhere during the day,the sun bothers my eyes. I have never encountered such an experience,hope not to either.I just cant imagine anyone having the gall to walk over to someone else and say that,and then drag a manager into it as well.She should have moved.I personally would not have closed the blinds.If she had politely asked why,I would have explained well the sun hurts.But if she was rude,as it appears to be here,then I woulda said,nope now back off my breathing space,thanks bye.
It really sounds to me she was looking for a reason to b***h about something,and unlucky you landed in her radar.:(

At my school, we have a DDR machine in the gym for PE.

It's monopolized by a group of racist black girls. D:

I mean, you'll stand in line for like 15 minutes, you'll be next in line, and one of them will say, "I'm next", and supposedly that's supposed to be the end of it.

And they gang up on you and call you unfunny racial slurs. >:E