This one has always thrown me for a loop. I understand there are plenty of things that should be kept in the bedroom. I would much rather not be on a train and the couple beside of me have their faces so into each other I can't tell if it's morphed into one face or not, but sometimes I think P.D.A reprimands are too strict.

I see no problem when a couple is out and they hold hands, or hold each other close during a movie, or steal a kiss from the other, I don't think it's such a horrible thing. But many, many people are so deeply offended by it. Is it jealousy or what?

(yes, I know school is a place of learning blah blah blah)

For example, this was last year at school. It was lunch time, I was sitting with the girlfriend on a bench outside. I was holding her hand, and a teacher verbally yells at the top of his lungs for us to "Pull yourselves off each other, you're making everyone sick!" and both of us were suspended for three days for "Severe P.D.A". o_O

Your thoughts on it?

Once upon a time people could have sex in public and no one would be offended by it because it was the norm. Now people have gotten so uptight about it that people feel weird just holding hands. this isn't right. I don't care one way or the other about it being gross or people getting offended because if it happened more often, people would be less offended as it became more apart of the norm. :D

My personal opinion is that showing affection in public is not only okay, but rather a beautiful thing to watch. I always find myself smiling when a pair is walking by hand in hand.

But, guys - everything that's making slurpy sounds is not showing affection, it's having sex in public! :P
(Like this couple on my last train trip. She was wriggling on his lap while tracing his lips with her sluggy, spit-dripping tongue, and then he started probing her tonsils from within. That was just outright disgusting, and definitely bordering on infringement.)

I don't really get this whole "no showing any affection in school" thing that seems to be common in the US. You won't stop teenagers from having sex prematurely that way (actually, most teenagers tend to lean towards everything that's forbidden, anyway), and you actually take away the more positive part of puberty.

Also, kids holding hands are too preoccupied with each other to do anything stupid... ;)

Originally Posted by Nalah Sin

My personal opinion is that showing affection in public is not only okay, but rather a beautiful thing to watch. I always find myself smiling when a pair is walking by hand in hand.

But, guys - everything that's making slurpy sounds is not showing affection, it's having sex in public! :P
(Like this couple on my last train trip. She was wriggling on his lap while tracing his lips with her sluggy, spit-dripping tongue, and then he started probing her tonsils from within. That was just outright disgusting, and definitely bordering on infringement.)

I don't really get this whole "no showing any affection in school" thing that seems to be common in the US. You won't stop teenagers from having sex prematurely that way (actually, most teenagers tend to lean towards everything that's forbidden, anyway), and you actually take away the more positive part of puberty.

Also, kids holding hands are too preoccupied with each other to do anything stupid... ;)

Very well put ^_^

Sometimes I think PDA can be too strict. I don't find anything wrong with it as long as it's not mauling each other. I remember in Highschool, I saw these two people just hugging each other to get warm. It was pretty cold day in the morning. They weren't kissing, just glomped onto eachother, having a conversation. Then a staff member saw them and told them to separate because that was inappropiate at a school. Oh noes a hug.

Schools (Highschools and Middle mainly) are so uptight about PDA that they somehow see that sweet things are bad. Like just a nice kiss or a cuddle.

Then a staff member saw them and told them to separate because that was inappropiate at a school. Oh noes a hug.

Exactly! Apparently hugs are the #1 leading cause of teen pregnancy or something. I don't know, maybe they're lonely. I often offer hugs to the school staff reprimanding me (because I think that they may just be lonely and jealous). This often aggrivates them, but it's gotten me off the hook before because they just laughed, accepted the hug and left. Am I on to something?

I wouldn't say they're lonely. I think in their minds, they see the first step of PDA a chain reaction. They probably believe a hug will lead to a kiss which will lead to mauling, and so forth.

But what'd they expect when a highschool is co-ed. Kids will end up liking each other and want to display that. You seriously can't stop PDA, maybe you can slow it down if it's get heated but there's nothing law breaking about it.

Personally, I'm perfectly fine with P.D.A, but like with everything else, there's a limit as to how far I will allow myself to watch.

I can handle things like holding hands, kisses on the cheek, quick pecks on the lips, and other things like that, but when the couple gets way too "heated" or if they just get so involved with each other that it's like talking to yourself, that's when I'm not okay with it.

Your teacher overreacted. Holding hands is NOT severe P.D.A.
Is it jealousy?...for it definately is. However I do not expect other people to stop on my behalf, it's my problem, not theirs.
I was on the beach at our summer camp and I moved because a couple cuddling made me very sad almost the point of tears. Being a romantic asexual can be "hell" sometimes.
I know if I had a relationship, I'd like to share a hug, hold hands and kiss once in a while...Heck being an asexual my ideal relationship would be ALL cuddles...just the more intimate ones would be done in private.

I think PDA is fine as long as it's not eney thing to serius. Like really a hug or kiss? No problem. Now sucking face that's another story.

If it's something as innocent as holding hands, or a hug, or a quick peck on the lips or cheek, it's fine. But full-on making out in public is just disgusting to me. I don't understand how someone would feel comfortable with that, and that's coming from an exhibitionist. For whatever reason, I'd be much more comfortable having sex in public than being caught making out. But I'm a strange one like that.

My middle school banned hugging, and you could actually get in trouble for giving a friend a completely platonic hug. It was ridiculous. There's not even anything sexual about that.

I don't particularly enjoy watching two people try to have sex in public, but I also don't see a reason why one can't be moderately affectionate. I'll hold my boyfriend's hand or he'll put his arm around me if we're together, and I see nothing wrong with it. Because, y'know, it's not exactly a secret we're dating ;]
I don't like any sort of kiss that lasts longer than two seconds, though. Not in public, anyway. People can deal with the holding hands but don't need to watch us being all smoochy smoochy. xD

^_^ Thanks for all these opinions. I thought I was all alone ;~;

I don't mind PDA...
Well, to an extent I suppose.

Kissing/holding hands/ arms around one another - that's cute and fine.
It's when they start pashing every two seconds and getting gross that it bothers me.
Especially when there's only one other person present.
Definitely makes you feel forgotten.

I don't mind hand holding, brief hugs, or peck kisses. I can't stand people that think its ok to grope each other, French kiss, or make out in public. Honestly, it grosses me out and makes me embarrassed. Depending on the area, having arms around each other can be very sweet, but when you're clogging up the area, it may be best to let the congestion die down.

Wow...that was horrible. Suspended for three days for only holding hands. The teacher probably was the only one offended by it. Well, it is too harsh. They should lighten up a bit..well a lot if they're going to be that strict.

You're tellin me, lol

That's...the opposite of severe. I'm fine if someone wants to hold hands, hug or kiss, but I don't want to see what is essentially foreplay while I'm at school. Ugh.

I believe P.D.A is okay to an extent. Basically what your first post said, i agree with compleatly.
=]

THERE IS A LIMIT TO PDA. But hand holding and a slight peck on this kiss or cheek? I think that's fine. But seriously, I've seen the couples that NEED to get a room....yep :D

I think as long as there's no making out of heavy petting it's fine. Even a quick open mouth kiss I think is fine in public. If people don't like it they can look away. =p

So long as it's not too graphic, I don't see the problem.

Thing is, it's kind of hard to set rules for what's acceptable in public places, and what isn't. I mean, kissing in school is a lot different from doing so anywhere else.

Originally Posted by Mr.Giggles

For example, this was last year at school. It was lunch time, I was sitting with the girlfriend on a bench outside. I was holding her hand, and a teacher verbally yells at the top of his lungs for us to "Pull yourselves off each other, you're making everyone sick!" and both of us were suspended for three days for "Severe P.D.A". o_O

FFFFFF I DIDNT REALIZE IT WAS YOU WHO POSTED.

Lol remember back in 8th grade, Giggles, you and me were sitting outside because of some school event, and you leaned over to give me a small kiss, and this math teacher walked up. She was like,
"Would you be doing that infront of your mom?"
"Uh.. yeah."

...haaah your school record got more dirt on it :angel:

(*cough* Sorry, I know Mr.Giggles in real life.. lulz)


well the principal at my school is a little more strict (with other things) , and P.D.A. is alright I guess. I haven't gotten yelled at for stealing a small kiss or holding hands or anything.

I show affection to my boyfriend in public, like kisses on the cheek and holding his hand and all that good stuff, but I really dont like it when he insists on a long kiss. x_x; I just feel like we're going too far when he asks for that. I don't like seeing that in public, and I don't want to be doing it in public.

I dont mind people kissing, holding hands, hugging, etc.
I do mind when they take it to the extreme, ex. make out on public.
Some things should be kept inside the room, not outside.Not everyone wants to know their business.

I don't mind a little pda but a lot is akward. I feel odd doing pda in public, and so does my boyfreind. In my high school the teacher definatly determined how far you could go. Some teacher wouldn't let us hug or hold hands and others would let us steal a kiss before we parted at the end of the day. it just depends on the teacher and how strict they are.