I'm pretty sure my stepdad is becoming abusive.
Ever since I joined track, he's been nicer, but whenever I say something sarcastic (that's just who I am, and I'm a teenager) he hits me on the head with something.
One time, I was making macaroni and cheese, and he got mad because I told him you don't need six cups of water for one box of mac & cheese. He hit me on the head with a tuperware lid so hard the little cap that you can push open or closed to let steam out popped off.
He also hits me on the head with empty pop bottles or paper when I back talk.

But I feel like I can't tell my mom because she always says about how we both start fights and I backtalk too much (I got it from her. -.-)

My dad knows, and I told my Aunt and friends, and my dad has me keep a journal of all the crap he does to me.

So...help?

Maybe you should try telling him you feel uncomfortable with how hard he hits you. I know my store manager used to be like that when I worked at Burger King. She probably didn't hit quite as hard, but it was hard enough to be going just to far. I never had the guts to tell her, cause I was afraid of getting fired. Eventually I got fired anyway so it didn't matter. -_-

Well step is always step they never love u like a real parent so u always expect less from them thats what i do my step dad doesnt physically abuse me but verbally he does ~_~

My stepdad used to verbally abuse me, until my mom tld him to shut up and be nicer to me.
Well, next time he hits me, or before [yeah, before would be better] I tell him.

I definitely agree you should express to him how you feel when he does those things. If he continues to do it anyways and gets worse, tell someone ASAP! Physical abuse is one of the worst things in the world, I really hope everything will be okay for you!

thats so mean! he hits you when you're sarcastic?! he hits you at all?! horrible. tell your mother he's hurting you. she shouldn't be angry at you for telling her that you're being abused by her husband. maybe she'll talk to him and make him stop it. it's worth a shot, what do you have to lose?

I don't think you should just tell him that you don't want him to hit you as hard, I think you should tell him that you don't want him to hit you at all. Even hitting that doesn't physically hurt can still hurt your feelings. Also, it's best to set your boundaries clearly. It's more subjective to say "don't hit me so hard" rather than saying "don't hit me at all".

I understand the compulsion to playfully push someone. I used to do it and after some of my friends told me it bothered them it was kind of hard to stop and think before I did it. I did manage to completely stop eventually though.

I think if you bring it up in a mature and rational way, there's a good chance that he'll agree to stop (from what you've said about him anyway). If that doesn't work, bring it up with your mom. If that doesn't work, bring it up with adults until someone takes you seriously enough to talk to him about it. I do think that it's a good idea to keep up with the journaling just in case.

No one likes to be smarted off to, so maybe you could try to work on controlling that. Ultimately he's supposed to be the adult though, he shouldn't hit you whether you're smarting off or not.

I agree with the posters above.

As an adult, he should be able to respond to you calmly telling him that you do not accept being hit on the head with whatever. (Or anywhere else, for that matter.) This man is not your father, and it is not his job to discipline you. If he has any issues with you, he should take it up with your mother, and then have her talk to you. However, he is an adult in your home, so you should treat him with respect, as he should treat you with respect, as well.

It is good that your father keeps a list of things he's done to you, but remember that your father may be jealous of this new man in your mother's, and it could be dangerous to feed that jealousy.

Good luck!

I think you should at least try talking to your mom about it, since she's the closest to him probably and she could talk to him for you. She really cares about you, I'm sure, way more than she does about your step-dad. Yeah, she may love him, but you're her child! Hang in there, alright?

@Kai;; A step-parent can totally love you as much as a real parent. And a parent can very well abuse a child as much as a step-parent can. Or just any random person. It doesn't matter if you're blood-related, it's all a matter of heart.