I'm bi....or at least I think I am. I've been thinking that for years now. No one knows that except a few of my closest friends. I don't ever plan to act on it, but I'd still like to be open about it.

However, my parents have explicitly told me they would disown me if they ever found out anything of the sort about me. Like I said, I want to be a bit more open about this, but I can't with them holding that over my head.

For the most part, I'm a very withdrawn person. It's this kind of thing that makes me that way.

What do I do?

Hmm. Now I think that some parents say things like that because if a child of theirs turns out to not be heterosexual they jusy don't want to have to deal with it. So they come out with the pre-emptive threats so you're too scared to say anything and keep quiet.

Or they've been brainwashed by religion into classing being bi or gay as evil or something equally unreasonable.

Do you get on ok with your parents? Do you feel they seriously would throw you out if you talked to them about how you feel? Most parental threats of that kind are hot air, because if you have a decent relationship with your parents they wouldn't kick you out, especially if you have no means of looking after yourself.

I get along fairly okay with my parents. But the thing is, they're rather old-fashioned Republicans. They freaked out when I started dating a black girl a few weeks back. Based on their reaction, yeah I really believe they would kick me out.

As horrible as it may be, the best option for you might be to just stay in the closet until you can move out on your own. Sometimes parents really are crazy, but it's not like you got to pick them. It's an unfortunate situation, but if your well-being is at stake, you need to look out for that first. That said, don't try to change who you are. Do the best you can to reflect on how you really feel. You might not be bi, and the way you're questioning it might mean that now might not be the best time to bring it up anyway.

If you have other members in your family that are more open-minded about it though, you can try talking to them. Maybe an aunt or uncle would be willing to back you up. Maybe just telling a family member in general will get it off of your chest enough that you don't feel the need to tell your parents. If that's not enough, perhaps you could ask a relative if you could live with them should you tell your parents and they decide to kick you out. If that's the case, you could come out to your parents without having to wonder about if you had a place to go.

Aw :( It's a shame when you have overly old-fashioned values like that to try and deal with. The best thing you can do is just live with it until you can leave home really. You parents can't dictate how you live your life once you're out from under their roof and supporting yourself, it can just be a drain on your emotions until then.

A lot of it seriously is fear of change though, and don't forget that they'll probably feel the way they do because of their own up-bringing.

Are your parents quite old then?

No they're not that old. Both are around 40.

Same kind of age as me then, lol. But people can get very set in their ways and decisions pretty early on in life sometimes. It may feel dishonest but I would keep your thoughts about your sexuality to yourself for now, I mean why rock the boat while you're still at home?

Especially as it might just be a hormone driven thing and you might not feel the same way in a couple of years. I'd stick to talking just to people who will be understanding instead of judgemental, so you can sort through your feelings without them causing needless problems. :yes:

Talk to people like us, as you are now! We're completely unbiased because we don't know you.

I am bisexual as well and my mother isn't a very accepting person of that sort of thing either. My father on the other hand is much more accepting of a lot of things including this. I never wanted my mother to find out about me being bisexual but, my one cousin found out from someone else and told my mom. She was pretty upset at first but, accepted me for who I am eventually. I still haven't forgiven my cousin for sticking her nose in my business.

Hmm..well honestly It's a lot better to be yourself than it is to live a lie. You just have to outweigh which is worst to you I guess. Hiding who you are from everyone to make select few happy while you slowly suffer or...Be who you are to truly be free and happy, and have a select few not ok with it.

But also not everyone will be ticked about it, because nowadays it's not that unheard of. Not only that but if your friends can't accept you for who you are, they really aren't your friends, are they?

And lastly I'd do some serious soul searching. make sure you know who you really are before you make a sound decision. Give yourself some time to think it over, even if it means you have to be away from people for a while. ^_^ At least as much as you can anyway.

I am also bisexual, but I am not acting on it. I don't plan on dating anyone for a while. I told my mother this, and she was completely fine with it. She loves me for who I am, no matter what.
I am very sorry that this has happened to you. A lot of bi or gay people are in a deep depression because no one accepts them. You are who you are, and no one can change that. I think it's best for you to come out to your parents and say 'I want you to accept me for who I am. If you don't want a bisexual daughter, then you don't have a daughter..." I really doubt that your parents would actually disown you. Sometimes they just do that to scare you. But I'm not saying that they aren't serious. They'll probably be mad at you for a long time. But if you are to come out, do it separately with your parents. One talk with mom and one with dad. The other could be manipulating the other to not accept it.
Try to see if anyone else in your family will support you. Just because your parents don't, doesn't mean everyone doesn't. Maybe a sibling, aunt/uncle, or grandparents?
I want you to know that you are not alone. If your parent's can't accept you, then so be it. I do, and so do many other people.
Would you rather be hated for who you are or loved for who you are not?

It depends if you're old enough to make these decisions, but personally i think that was a very harsh thing for your parents to say :(