Back when I had a weight problem, I had issues with people 's double standards sometimes. ACTUALLY after I had solved it too!....

To give an example, the person who I volunteered for pointed me out pubically as I stood in a group as "the skinny " one.
So this means you can wear a small shirt. I felt humilated and when I told them that #1, I am normal weight for my height and #2 would you ever point out someone as "the fat" one and that's why you can wear a larger shirt?. No...because fat people are somehow more deserving of respect!. To me there is no difference between someone pointing to me and saying the skinny one and me pointing to someone and saying the fat one.
BTW this person calling me out WAS fat making it more ironic. Yet I never pointed them out as fat the entire time I was volunteering there.

I was apalled that this sort of behavior was acceptable by my volunteer group. I like the shirt I got as a gift, but how about a little manners right?. I got laughed at that I shouldn't be offended because being called skinny is always a compliant. Weellll it's not to me, I endured nasty weight gaining diets so I could be normal weight. I hate skinny, I find skinny ugly and disgusting.

I wish I could say this is the only example, It's not and I could site numerious examples where in the past people were rude about my weight problems in ways they would never have been around fat people. It doesn't mean I wanted to deny my weight problems and I was perfectly fine with being called underweight because it was true. I just wanted a little tact and manners. Like fat people, we thin people are conscious about our weight problems and are often trying to correct our weight problem...Is that so hard to understand?.

I had someone say to my mother..."your anorexic daughter". I mean seriously...At least find out why the person has a weight problem before saying something like that.
For the record I have never been anorexic in my life. Health problems, finanical problems and metabolic issues were the root causes of my weight problems.
I wonder how many people suffering from cancer and other health problems they called anorexic.

I hear ya. I used to be really thin in junior high.
My friends at school would all ask me if I was okay, if I thought I was fat, etc.

Every day before lunch I'd go into the bathroom to wash my hands (seems a logical thing to do).. but my friends started cracking jokes like "Hey, you got it backwards.. bulimic people are supposed to go in the bathroom AFTER they eat."






Overweight people get all the sympathy! Nobody understands us "skinny ones."

It would be exceedingly rude of me to tell an overweight friend "Are you sure you wanna eat that? It'll go straight to your hips!"
Yet, its somehow acceptable for people to tell me "Are you sure you don't want some? It might help you fill out and get some curves!"

like WHAT. THE. HECK. :-x

As someone who has been on both sides...
I know it's not fair, BUT it has to do with the media image that somehow "skin & bones" = beautiful.
When in all actuality, YOUR healthy = beautiful.
Until we can boost everyone's self esteem and make them see that NO ONE really cares about what the media is feeding us, then this issue will still exist.

Because there was a point in time where fat was beautiful & thin/skinny was ugly.

Until we can reject, or at least reshape the media image, so that girls of ALL sizes are presented as beautiful, there will be the whole fat vs. skinny drama.

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And I KNOW it hurts, but just in the same way, you've got to grow thicker skin and not let things like that bother you. And if you feel REALLY strongly about it, SPEAK UP! Don't let the comment just go.

Because skinny girls aren't the only ones to get talked about. Fat girls get talked about to, and it's up to them to stand up for themselves. Because if you can't stand up for you, why expect anyone else to?

I'm a larger girl, so I understand what you're talking about... just on the other side of the podium.
While I AM large, and I DO envy skinny people... I just don't think it's really right to talk about people's weight unless they start the topic themselves. Like, I would NEVER say to someone, "Omg you're so skinny, maybe you should eat something." I understand that, like in your case, that person might find me saying that/making reference to their weight offensive.
I know a lot of fat people who complain about their weight, but I know a lot of really small people who complain about their weight and wish they were bigger, as well. However, the smaller people get more crap about complaining about their weight, because people think that 'skinny' is beautiful, and so they think they don't have anything to complain about... but if you're small and unhappy with being that way, then why shouldn't you complain?

It's unfair for people to think, "Oh, she's skinny, she must be anorexic." just like it's unfair for people to, right off the bat, think, "Oh, she's fat, she must eat ten pizzas a day."
That's not necessarily always the case. Some people have metabolic issues, some people have problems with eating certain kinds of food... whatever.

I just wish women (and men) of all shapes and sizes were accepted everywhere, so that all this nonsense would stop. :/

I get what you're saying. I went through a very bad depression as a young adult and stopped eating. It lasted for years and I got to the point where I looked legitimately anorexic. When I started coming out of it and eating again I still looked painfully thin for over a year and I had one aunt who was always complimenting and pointing out in public how thin I was and how great I looked. I did not look great by any means, there were bones jutting out from every joint I had and I still felt awful. I know she meant well but I wish she would have kept her mouth shut on the issue.

You know, this really reminds me of lookbook; www.lookbook.nu
It's a website showing a new set of pictures of outfits each day to inspire people.

A lot of times when very thin girls post pictures that show the smallest bit of their body, they get the rudest comments thrown at them!

I came across an amazing picture of a 15 year old girl who was tall and very thin, only to see she was being bashed by others.
Calling her "ugly and disgusting", the only reply she kept giving them was: "This site is about clothes, so please keep your comments limited to my outfits instead of my body. Besides, would you be this rude if I had been fat?" And kept among those lines.

It got me so worked up to see what jealousy does to people, because that's what it comes down to. Being thin is seen as a beauty standard, and some people can't take the fact that others achieve this perfectly well and start bashing them. It's sad and very low, but just remember that they only envy you and can't express it in a better way. ;)

Are you shitting me? You don't think people get made fun of for being fat?
In 7th grade, I was a little bit on the pudgy side- and I never heard the end of it! You don't think that sort of thing would bother me, but it bugged me so much that I've been touchy about it ever since, even though I lost the baby fat. (Okay, so maybe you can't call it baby fat, persay, but I'm just, well, stocky.)
No matter what your weight, you're going to get fucked with. That's just how it is- look at both sides before you say that "fat people get all the sympathy!" That's definitely not true.

That's not what we're talking about Itsumou. If someone makes fun of you for being fat, and you run to someone crying about it, they will immediately sympathize and the person making fun of you will immediately be the 'villain'. If someone picks on a thin person and they go running to someone crying about it, the person will most likely wonder what in the heck their problem is and think that they're just wanting attention or something. I've been to both extremes and so I know what it's like both ways.

Well, in all honesty the way you worded that sounds as though overweight people are never pointed out, because it's rude and all, but that's just not true at all.
It's not really a double standard, since an overweight person does get their weight brought up like that, a lot. I know it's happened to my friends on numerous occassions. Also, I actually do know a lot of underwight people who do infact get a lot of sympathy, and are so self conscious about their condition that people respect the fact that they don't want it pointed out or brought up.

But anyway, they did a little segment about this on the Tyra show, which I know is a little lame. It was about a very thin girl who was consistenly being called "the outcast" and "the skinny one" by her overweight friends, and how insecure it made her feel.

Originally Posted by Itsumou

Are you shitting me? You don't think people get made fun of for being fat?
In 7th grade, I was a little bit on the pudgy side- and I never heard the end of it! You don't think that sort of thing would bother me, but it bugged me so much that I've been touchy about it ever since, even though I lost the baby fat. (Okay, so maybe you can't call it baby fat, persay, but I'm just, well, stocky.)
No matter what your weight, you're going to get fucked with. That's just how it is- look at both sides before you say that "fat people get all the sympathy!" That's definitely not true.

I basically agree with this
I think "fat" people take way more crap then skinny people ever do or ever will

Originally Posted by fatalrain

I basically agree with this
I think "fat" people take way more crap then skinny people ever do or ever will

Your post totally illustrates the OP's point.
You put the word "fat" in quotation marks because you feel it is a rude, offensive term... yet you don't bother to put the word "skinny" in quotation marks, because you think it's okay to use words like that.

And that, my dear, is the aforementioned double standard in action.

I've been on both ends- now I'm very thin and some people have commented on that. I have health problems, but that's not something I really care to discuss in every day conversation, yet it still comes up. I'm not scary skinny, just short and petite. Annoying. At least people love to take me out for meals for free... can't complain there.

When I was big, people commented behind my back all the time. Even my grandmother. It's just not right, man.

Unfortunately, that's the way society is; only time will change it, if even that.

Originally Posted by Cherish

Your post totally illustrates the OP's point.
You put the word "fat" in quotation marks because you feel it is a rude, offensive term... yet you don't bother to put the word "skinny" in quotation marks, because you think it's okay to use words like that.

And that, my dear, is the aforementioned double standard in action.

Well put!
I mean, think about the word "skinny." There's really nothing elegant-sounding about it.
And yet, the incongruency in viewpoint is still there.

I have a friend who naturally fits in size zero. When I first got to know her I was worried about her. She was really skin and bones. Being a friend and asking her about her weight solved my fears. I don't understand why people have to be mean about it. I'm anyone's cheerleader when they want to get healthy.

I've been on both sides... Still on the slightly over the average weight for my height, I don't sweat it though. I just feel insecure because I have a lot of scars that are hard to hide.

When people make comments about how I look I just ignore them if they're insulting. One thing writing's done, toughened up my skin.`

Well I used to stand at an unhealthy 180 pounds. Back then no one ever made fun of me. There was the occasional idiot who did but I always put them in their place real quick. Over the last year or so I've dropped a good amount of weight and now weigh in at 135. On a good day. And I get teased more now that I'm skinny then I did when I was chubby. My sister and my mom are always like "Well atleast your skinny." Or "Hey you, skinny onw. Come do this for me." And It's so embarassing..... Just thinking about it makes me angry and my cheeks light up in a blush of embarassment. And I've still got a good deal of fat to me. I'm not some skinny minny. I'm just not as big as they are any more. My sis weighs in at about 200 and 210 on a bad day. My mom fluxuates between 180 and 170. At first I was proud of my self for loosing all that weight and getting healthy, now I just want to gain in all back so I can continue using it as a shield.