I moved in with my boyfriend last year, because I got pregnant. we now have a son who`s three months old. And we also live with his mom, sister and husband and two kids and his brother and girlfriend, who are expecting their baby anytime soon.

His sister is a nosybody and acts like she`s better than everyone. his brother`s girlfriend`s the same. His brother in law is almost never home and his brother doesn`t really care much or acts like he doesn`t care.

His mom has three kids.One girl and two sons. And she acts like my boyfriend is her only son. She always fills his head with stress. Always tells him to do this and that. She never calls his brother and his sister doesn`t even listen to her anymore. he wants to start his own bussiness, but he can`t because they don`t want to let him go or give him a chance. and he has a low budget. everytime he says something or tries to stand up for himself his mom gets mad at him and starts saying stupid things. And his sister keeps sticking her nose where it doesn`t belong. She always wants to know everything about everybody. Always acts like she`s the boss of everyone. we want to get ou but we have nowhere to go.

finding a place to live here is so hard. rents are so high. monthly salary isn`t even enough. sigh.....

Ouch, thats rough *hugs* :hug: I'm sorry, I don't really have any advice for this kind of situation, but I hope you figure something out.

Wow that does suck D:, well, I guess that it might be best to just deal with it now until you two are able to find a place of your own. I'm sure that you guys can find a cheap-ish place somewhere. Or maybe move in with some friends who can help pay rent, and help with everything else.

Anyways, good luck with all of that =3

It sounds like the sister is trying to carve her place at the top of the pecking order in the house. The other sounds like he doesn't have the stomach to stand up to her, so he just lets her do what she wants. It can't be an enjoyable.

I would also suggest that you and your boyfriend find a new place to live if possible. I think that getting out of that environment would be a good change for your family. It would allow you both to concentrate on your relationship and your child.

I wish you the best luck in this, and I am sorry that there isn't much more advice that I can offer you. :(

i strongly suggest you move out if you are financially stable to be on your own.

meddling family is one of the sh*t storms one should avoid at all costs.

best wishes!

Well to be honest, this is why people shouldn't have children before they're financially stable enough to take care of themselves. But you can't change that now. I kind of feel bad for his parents, all of their kids are having babies and all living in their house. That's a lot of people and a lot of babies in one house. I would go insane if I had to live like that. Anyways, I don't like my boyfriend's parents either. They're weird, and complained about me after I visited and picked at every little thing I did, even though I was never rude to them. I am fortunate I don't have to put up with them now and hopefully won't have to anytime soon. My boyfriend moved in with me earlier this month, we are living with my parents but at least that is only four people in the house which isn't bad. My parents don't like it though, they feel there really isn't room for more than the three of us and my dad doesn't like giving up his office for my boyfriend to have a room. It sucks because I don't know how long this is going to last before my parents get tired of it and send him back to his parents. And I certainly can't go live there with them and how they hate me. We can't afford to move out either. My boyfriend doesn't have a job but I'm trying to find him one here. It's frustrating becaues I do all the work in looking for a job for him and he doesn't put any effort into it himself. I set him up to go take a test tomorrow to try to get a job, so I'm hoping that goes well. I have a job but it's part time and they hardly ever want me there. I didn't work at all this week. So no money for me at all this week. I hardly know anyone who has been able to move out of their parents' house and my friends are all in their twenties or close to it. I really feel I should have had my own place by now but it's impossible, so you're not alone. :|

Well, another option that will take a lot of will and determination--if you can't move out--is to "kill with kindness." I know that quoting an old saying may not seem like it would really work, but given time (until you can move out or the situation changes) you might try being nice to your boyfriend's sister. It probably won't work at first, especially if you aren't sincere about it.
I was under the tyranny of this girl in my high school for many years and she hated me even more when I started being nice to her until she saw that I was being sincere (and after a long time of constant niceness). I didn't let her see that she bothered me either.
In the end, I made her feel worse for picking on me, and she changed and tired to be a nicer person to everyone.

In some ways, it may seem like at this point I would want to get revenge, but I think getting a long with someone is worth more than being just as horrible as he or she was to you.

I can't guarantee that this will work or even help, but with no alternative means of living, you may have to try something to make peace with the people that you are living with.

And you may already be doing this. I really don't know.

I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL!! Before my boyfriend movied in to my house, he lived ith his ex girlfriend's family. They interfeared into everything! They nearly broke us up!.

Where theres a will theres a way. If you dont like it there then maybe you can get one of them to watch the baby and you can get a job and help him move out. Many couples have it rough but when you live in someone elses home then you have to accept it and suffer or get out. Nothing else you can do.

Hmm, maybe you and some friends can come to an agreement to find a place to live together and everybody would share the rent? Don't know if it will work though. It something that I might try if I were in your place.

Wow i'm really sorry to hear all that... If it makes you feel any better I can almost empathize with you situation. Currently I started seeing my boyfriend a while ago and things are going really well except for the same problem you have... The family who continuously dump him with watching his sisters kids and take advantage of my car and other various things I have worked for. His 11 year old niece has taken to lying about him hitting her and the two littler boys tend to suffer for this 11 year old manipulative brats short comings.

As for sister/ mom of the three monsters... she's out all the time... and when she is home well lets just say she's far from mother of the year.

As for what you can do... Well what you have to ask yourself is how far are you willing to suck up little thngs that wont matter once you leave. In the mean time I would be cutting back where ever possible to save for a way out. Better you leave then stick around and stress yourself out ya know?

Sheline, has your situation changed at all? I hope that it hasn't gotten worse for you :(

This is definitely one of those hard challenges that we have to face at one point in our life. Your situation sounds cramped and terrible. Have you considered moving in with your family? His family sounds over protective, and his sister sounds stuck up and rude. This may not work, but have you tried having a serious discussion with the family? You think the family would at least cooperate with each other for the kids' sake.