No easy task indeed. Has anyone gone through it before?

I'm starting to not have the feelings I used to have with my boyfriend. We've been together for 4 years. He's sweet and everything but some things just bother me. I am not attracted to him anymore. Just lost interest the last couple of months. He's thinking about marriage...I can not see myself spending the rest of my days with him. Thats how I feel at the moment. He's done nothing wrong...more so me whose done something but I am not going into it. I just don't know how this is all going to plan out :/

I believe time spent on a relationship deserves time to actually step back and take it all in. Don't just keep thinking about how you're not happy. Really think about the relationship, figure out what you really want, and then talk to him about it. Talking gets a lot of things resolved and in the end mutual agreements are better to be made. If you don't just talk about it then things will just get worse... :(

I would talk to him about it. It'll end up worse if you don't. Sometimes too, when you're in a relationship with someone for a long time you find out that things are not as great as you first thought. even if you guys have to spend time apart for a while that may be something that may help. If not the I'd just move on.

A lot of times when you live with a romantic partner, you get tired of one another, of having the other person around constantly.
It's a good test of how you would last in a marriage.
Maybe you two could spend some time apart, see how it works out. If that doesn't work, then it might be best of you walked away while you two both have a change of being friends instead of just hating and resenting each other.

This is a hard thing to do, I've been there. It really helped me having people to talk to, locally and long-distance. You need a lot of support to make a big life change like this. In your heart you know what the right decision for yourself is.

Wow, you sound like I did with my ex, jeff.
He was amazing. I just didn't feel attracted to him as much, maybe it was because I resented him actually...But something changed, and I just didn't love him as much. And then he lost his mind for a bit, and I got scared and basically abandoned him...>__<"

ANYWAY. Months later I end up regretting leaving him, because whatever was stopping me from loving him changed.

So perhaps find out why you might be resenting him? It took me a while to figure it out...And the reasons are usually pretty stupid and small.

But, if there's really nothing you can do to save your relationship (or you just really don't want to get married that badly), find a place you can go, or a new apartment, just in case he tries to kick you out, when you have the big talk.