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Old 08-16-2011, 04:46 PM

Or coping with one-sided love?
I'm in love with a guy who doesn't even look at me, who doesn't know me - I guess he knows me little, but I don't know :( I really don't know how I've fallen in love with him, all I can now feel is loneliness and hurt. Falling in love had been very easy. Though I love him, I know he will not love me, for he doesn't know that I love him nor does he know anything else about me. Is there any way to make me fall out of love? Or make him fall in love? I would appreciate if I have some tips and advice <333

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Old 08-16-2011, 04:52 PM

Well firstly, get to know this guy! You say you're not even sure if he knows you, so make him know you! You don't have to flirt or tell him how you feel or anything at all at first, just say "Hello! My name is ___, how are you today?" or something like that.

My current boyfriend of a year and I are mostly together because I pursued a friendship with him first.
We were playing Humans vs. Zombies, which is a really fun game our campus holds campus-wide once a term, and I saw him and thought 'hey, there's that cute guy! he's playing this game and is also a zombie! I should go say hi and say we should find humans together!' so I did, and learned a lot about him and became friends ^.^
Ended up he was even more awesome personality-wise than he looked! And he thought I was cool too! Who'd have known?

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Old 08-18-2011, 09:44 AM

I've been thinking about that too but I just can't do that. I'm not allowed to go out on my own, nor anyone in my family, and even to go to a school which is just 5mins away my mom has to drop me. So all I can do is just stare at him from the car and spy on him when I'm at home, and hope he'll love me or I'll eventually start hating him >.<

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Old 08-18-2011, 11:22 AM

Is this the same guy from the letters topic? I'm pretty sure I saw you mention his wife in that post? That should put up a pretty big red flag.

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Old 08-18-2011, 03:29 PM

Saisei, in the letters thread she said she could 'only hope he'd find a good wife'<-paraphrased.

okay, one how old are you? Is the reason your not allowed to go out, due to being young, or are you in a controling environment?

Two, do you both go to the same school? Are the any times when you're left alone and you could possibly introduce yourself?

There is no way to cope with a one sided love. The best thing you can do with that, is find someone that can love you back. Which if I'm understanding your situation right, still isn't a solution. This guy could possibly love you, if he knew who you are.

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Old 08-19-2011, 12:32 AM

There is another term for this. I think you're more or less infatuated with the individual. Being in-love with a person is just slightly different.

You should definitely consider bringing up some sort of conversation. As other(s) have stated, introduce yourself and ask how they are doing. If I wanted to catch someones attention, I would softly brush my arm against them whilst passing. Sometimes they turn around, and I turn around and blush, then continue on. Using your eyes and engaging eye-contact definitely contributes to things.

Just be yourself, don't pretend to be someone you're not. Also remember that even if you're interested in a person, you cannot make them 'fall in love' with you. Their heart will indicate whether or not they will try and press their luck in the game of love.

I wish you the best, though. : )


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Old 08-19-2011, 04:02 AM

If you don't know someone you can't be in love with them. Introduce yourself to them. It's better to get to know someone rather than just thinking you're in love with them without even knowing them. It sounds like you're young so don't rush into things. Become friends first then see where it goes from there. There is no rush to be "in love" with someone.

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Old 08-19-2011, 09:25 AM

@Saisei - No, he isn't. me and my friends wanted to write a letter to a snotty grim faced boy who just dumped one of my friend, and we wanted to write a letter to him because my friend was too kind hearted and couldn't bear hurting someone, but we never did, since my friend got to know about it and she went wild. So I wanted to at least post a letter I would have if not sent it to him ^^

@Codette - No - age isn't much here, its because I'm in a controlled environment and rich parents. If any of the people around me so me walking around the street, I'm retty sure it would be the gossip for the next six months ;_;

@Gin Oshira & Mystic - Thank you and I'll follow your advice :3

 


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