I didn't really want to post this on my main account, because I didn't want people that had a personal affiliation with me to stick an oar in where an oar is not required. xD So...here goes.

I've been going out with my current boyfriend for about five months now, and it's nothing like any of my past (and albeit brief and shitty) relationships. He's one of the few people that I genuinely trust and that I feel I could tell anything to, and I love spending time with him.

Sounds great yeah?

Well, here's the problem. I've been fucked around by guys in the past, and that has naturally made me quite a jealous person. I hate the fact that I get worried when he hangs out with other girls. I hate the fact that I don't like it when my friends get close to him. I hate the fact that him hugging another girl or giving them a peck on the forehead annoys me to a point that I really lose whatever good mood I was in. I hate the fact that I tend to dislike the girls that he's hugging or hanging out with the most though, especially when all of them are lovely people.

I don't want to drive him away and I don't want to be the creepy possessive jealous bunny-boiler. So...does anyone have any advice or tips on how to just relax and get on with things rather than obsess?

Whelp, even if you don't want to, you should express the way you're feeling to him. It would be a lot easier to say, "Hey, I don't know why I feel this way, but sometimes I get jealous when you hug or kiss other girls. Is there something wrong with me?" If you put it to him that way he'll be more inclined to laugh it off and be more flattered that you love him so, than anything else. Otherwise, it's just going to keep happening until you explode and push him away. Also, he shouldn't be kissing other girls, on the forehead or not. Girls tend to get emotional or sappy and attatched, even to a guy who is only kissing them on the forehead, as a friend, than one who isn't. Get my drift? He doesn't need to be welcoming those types of emotions from other girls while he has a girlfriend.

I wish I could give you some advice on what to do to relax, but I wouldn't know, being that if my husband was kissing girls he'd be singing like a little girl for the rest of his life. :) Luckily, we are on the "How would you like it if the situation was flipped" kind of thing and think of eachother before we act, preventing things like this from happening. Hugs are ok though, I've never been one to mind anyone hugging anyone, so again, I can't lend any advice because I don't see a problem. I really think the only way to solve this is by talking to him. Learning ways to push it out of your mind isn't going to make it any better, it's just going to cause you to snap one day and really look like the crazy girlfriend... I hope you get it all hammered out, good luck :)

I get the same way with my boyfriend too. Although he doesn't go kissing or hugging other girls. I do get jealous when he talks to other girls. But I just breathe and tell myself to trust him. He told me the other night that he went to hang out with his friend when I was working and his friend was like, "I'm bringing along this girl I want you to meet. I know you've only been with your girl a couple months so if you want to make out with this one that's cool." but my boyfriend said "No, I would never do that to her." and he didn't do anything. It pisses me off that his friend tried getting him to cheat and hook him up with some other girl but I know that he is faithful. (After he told me that I told him if he DID ever cheat on my I'd dump him and never look back so he knows how I feel about that lol. And his friend just got arrested for a crime in another state so there won't be anymore of that happening any time soon!)

Just breathe and trust him. But I WOULD do as Kya would say and bring up the kissing and the hugging - because I feel like, whether he knows it or now, he's leading those other girls on and it's just going to cause trouble for you, him, and them in the future.