So, do you have like an aunt or uncle, maybe some other family member that droves you up the wall? For me it's my little cousin. He's twelve, very close to thirteen, and as much as I give him, and as nice ad I try to be, he always wants all my stuff! For instance, I gave him my old Nintindo DS because he asked for it. I had been planning to well it, but I thought it would be nice if I gave it to him instead. I mean, I don't use it anymore anyway. Well now he wants my android tablet! I just got that thing for Christmas and I really didn't want to give it up. He begged me until I got so annoyed I gave it to him. NOW he wants just about everything I own including my clothes and shoes. He's always asking for something. Is there a way to stop that kind of behavior in kids? Is he just spoiled or something? I don't want to be mean. He cries if I say no and I don't like to see him cry. :( anyone think they can help with my problem?

I hate to admit unless you say no or tell him to make use of the items he has like the DS you gave him, he will keep on doing that and you don't want to give away everything to your younger cousin.

My grandma drives me up a wall. I do have to say she has Parkinson's and her memory is going and she is very paranoid about everything anymore. She has to lock the house all the time so that nobody steals her stuff (not like anybody would, only thing people would want is a TV maybe her jewelry, all of her other stuff is in her boxes). We live in the middle of the woods we don't get trick or treaters or even jovah witnesses, nobody knows we are there and she is paranoid all the time.

I hate to say it but my grandpa drives me crazy. He's very conservative and if he knew that I did not support the republican party he's seriously disown me. I'm not joking about that. He went after my ex because she had an Obama bumper sticker on her car and saw her car parked outside my house. He also is against me dating women and thinks that I should "act like a woman". Other than that I love him dearly.

Originally Posted by Mystic

I hate to say it but my grandpa drives me crazy. He's very conservative and if he knew that I did not support the republican party he's seriously disown me. I'm not joking about that. He went after my ex because she had an Obama bumper sticker on her car and saw her car parked outside my house. He also is against me dating women and thinks that I should "act like a woman". Other than that I love him dearly.

:( yeah, my great aunt and uncle are that way. They hate Obama and they hate atheist. I told them I didn't believe in god and they called me 'stupid' I told them I was bisexual and they got pissed. Its annoying when people dislike someone just because they disagree on something.

A 13-year-old should not be crying when he is told he can't have something he wants. Stop giving anything.

My father-in-law's mother annoys me to no end. She posts the most dumb comments on Facebook. I have my posts set so that all of the people I have friended can see it, except her. I occasionally see her comments on my husband and brother-in-law's posts though, and those are equally annoying to me. I cannot stand it.

My brother and I used to constantly get on each others' nerves, but our relationship has gotten a lot better since we stopped living together.

Originally Posted by Keyori

A 13-year-old should not be crying when he is told he can't have something he wants. Stop giving anything.

My father-in-law's mother annoys me to no end. She posts the most dumb comments on Facebook. I have my posts set so that all of the people I have friended can see it, except her. I occasionally see her comments on my husband and brother-in-law's posts though, and those are equally annoying to me. I cannot stand it.

My brother and I used to constantly get on each others' nerves, but our relationship has gotten a lot better since we stopped living together.

Yeah, I don't even have a Facebook. People post stupid stuff, like what they're doing every two seconds. It just irks me to no end.

Originally Posted by Silver Foxx

So, do you have like an aunt or uncle, maybe some other family member that droves you up the wall? For me it's my little cousin. He's twelve, very close to thirteen, and as much as I give him, and as nice ad I try to be, he always wants all my stuff! For instance, I gave him my old Nintindo DS because he asked for it. I had been planning to well it, but I thought it would be nice if I gave it to him instead. I mean, I don't use it anymore anyway. Well now he wants my android tablet! I just got that thing for Christmas and I really didn't want to give it up. He begged me until I got so annoyed I gave it to him. NOW he wants just about everything I own including my clothes and shoes. He's always asking for something. Is there a way to stop that kind of behavior in kids? Is he just spoiled or something? I don't want to be mean. He cries if I say no and I don't like to see him cry. :( anyone think they can help with my problem?

Your cousin is spoiled. Absolutely and unequivocally so. The only way to get him to stop is to start saying no. I have an annoying, spoiled little cousin very similar to this. Not to be mean, but you're giving him 100$+ items like they're nothing. No 12 or 13 year old has any need for an Android tablet.

The only way you're going to get him to stop is to tell him no, which will better him as a person in the long run. Will he get butthurt? Yes. Will he cry? Probably. But you just have to deal with it. Let him cry. Don't even apologize. It sounds austere and harsh, but honestly, that's the only way to fix the problem. The aforementioned cousin of mine was taken to a child psychologist by my aunt, his mother. The therapist then told my aunt that basically, his only problem is that he's spoiled, and if she stopped giving him everything he asked for and didn't need, he'd be a much happier kid. The therapist even went so far as to say she should restrict his video game/electronics access and if he gets bored, make him go outside and play with a stick. Again, it sounds harsh, but spoiled kids like that need to be shown just how fortunate they are to have things. I know that if anyone ever gave me a tablet, I would be the happiest person in the world forever. Haha.

I really hope I didn't come off too mean. Some kids just need a lesson. If he doesn't learn it now, he'll have to learn it bitterly, much later in life.

Originally Posted by HeartMoogle

Your cousin is spoiled. Absolutely and unequivocally so. The only way to get him to stop is to start saying no. I have an annoying, spoiled little cousin very similar to this. Not to be mean, but you're giving him 100$+ items like they're nothing. No 12 or 13 year old has any need for an Android tablet.

The only way you're going to get him to stop is to tell him no, which will better him as a person in the long run. Will he get butthurt? Yes. Will he cry? Probably. But you just have to deal with it. Let him cry. Don't even apologize. It sounds austere and harsh, but honestly, that's the only way to fix the problem. The aforementioned cousin of mine was taken to a child psychologist by my aunt, his mother. The therapist then told my aunt that basically, his only problem is that he's spoiled, and if she stopped giving him everything he asked for and didn't need, he'd be a much happier kid. The therapist even went so far as to say she should restrict his video game/electronics access and if he gets bored, make him go outside and play with a stick. Again, it sounds harsh, but spoiled kids like that need to be shown just how fortunate they are to have things. I know that if anyone ever gave me a tablet, I would be the happiest person in the world forever. Haha.

I really hope I didn't come off too mean. Some kids just need a lesson. If he doesn't learn it now, he'll have to learn it bitterly, much later in life.

Actully youre right. I thought he might just be spoiled, but his mom would het mad if I even suggested that he was a spoiled little brat. Honestly, he gets on my nerves, and I just didn't know how to handle it. I was always so freaked out when he cried/pitched a fit. I don't have kids, so I'm not quite sure how to handle them. Thanks for your advice. Hopefully my aunt will listen and try this on her son. It would be nice if he had an attitude change.

Hopefully she will listen to you. I'm glad I could help! I've been in your shoes, and I hope it works out. Don't expect immediate results, though. Those things take time. Especially since he's almost a teenager.

You give in way too easily and you're just spoiling him to become a brat. Just stop and tell him no.
Screw him being annoying. Giving him positive reinforcement when he's being bad is just making him worse.

Ignore lots. I raised 5 little siblings, and probably 10 other cousins from all cultural backgrounds where the males tend to get spoilt harder than just for family reasons.

@HeartMoogle:
Thanks Moogle :) I'll be sure to keep from spoiling him from now on.

@pa-chinko:
I think I'd die of I had 5 other siblings. And younger siblings at that! You must be tough.

Honestly, everybody in my family has some fluke or another, including myself, so I can't really talk badly about any of them.

My mom is racist, amongst other things, my dad is a bit of a religious extremist, and is slightly homophobic, my grandmother can be bossy, my cousins are crazy young adults, and I'm painfully bi-polar in the fact that I can be either insanely introverted, or bossy as hell on my worst days. Everybody's got something, it's just whether or not they know how to control it.

And yes, your cousin is spoiled. By all that's holy, please take back your Android tablet--you shouldn't have given it to him, and he doesn't deserve it.

@ElysiumFate:
Yeah, you're right. I probably should get that back. I wanted it so bad and was in love with it when I first got it.

Lol, there's no probably, you should. I won't lie, it'll probably cause you a stink, but it's yours and he weaseled it out of you, so get back the thing you love.

I would like to reiterate my point that no 12-13 year old needs a tablet for any reason. I'm with Elysium. Get it back.

My older brother. He is constantly bossing me around, acting like he's my father. He always leaves a mess in the kitchen, throws temper tantrums, gets drunk, talks too loud on the phone, and he even talks down to my dad and treats him like a child. One of these days, we are going to come to blows.

@Elysium & Moogle:
So, I got back my prized tablet AND the D.S. He threw a huge tantrum, and of coarse, his grandma (my great aunt) got mad at me. I swear the people in my family are straight crazy! >_> I refused to give the stuff back though, so now I'm grounded from everything but my iPod. It's not like I care though :D Now my cousin is insisting on going back home and I'll be rid of him for a while. Even more hilarious is the fact that my aunt promised to go buy him a tablet of his own. There's no telling what kind of trouble that kid will get in with that device. Thanks for your help. He's not really bothering me anymore. Well, except to glare at me every few minutes. But I cam tolerate glaring.

@Kraven:
Yeah, I have older cousins that do that to me, but I ignore them. It just proves how ignorant they are.

I am glad you got back your tablet, and I am sorry that you have to deal with that, and you got punished for something ridiculous as that.

@dessertdesiert:
Yeah, but it'll be ok :)

Try being alienated from an entire side of your family based on who you support in a divorce. -.-

I'm serious. One of my aunts and uncles got a divorce, and instead of focusing on my uncle -who everyone was-, we (my immediate family) tried to help my aunt who lost pretty much everything in the divorce, and she was closer, more friendly to us anyways.

So that christmas their kids were with their dad and our family, and at 9 their mom was going to pick them up for christmas with her side. Well my dad stepped in and asked her if the kids could to christmas day with her side and spend the rest of the night with their grandma and grandpa.
My aunt agreed, and that was politely and nicely settled. Until my uncle came up and b*tched my dad out for meddling.

We were actually kicked out of christmas at my grandparents early, and ignored by that side of my family for everything that wasn't christmas. For some reason they put up with us then. After 3, 3! years of being ignored, they suddenly wanted us around for everything without so much as an apology. That was 4 years ago that they began to accept us again.


We refuse to socialize with them with any occasion that isn't christmas, and with the exception of last year, because of a funeral.

@codette:
:( that's just horrible. I'm sorry. When things like that happen. It's really a shame.

meh. I got used to it. They were the ones that lost out doing that to us.

So this is not another annoying family member problem I just want to rant. I absolute dislike my brother since I cannot say a word to him since everything pisses him off. When we are in the living room he has his own "spot" that nobody can sit in and if anybody does he gets annoyed but will not say anything and just give you this glare and expect you to move. He also has a huge temper and if you say the wrong to him he could snap and get angry and hit you and such, he also has spit on my mum when in an argument with her. He is 27 and has a good paying job so there is no reason that he should do it, but he does and is just an asshole, I wish he would just move out. It has gotten so bad that I don't even what to come home during break.

He got a foot in the door with the first things you gave him. Now he thinks you're a pushover who will give him everything you own. It's hard sometimes, but you'll just have to tell him no.

Most of my mom's side of my family bug the shit out of me. My mom and older sister are really naggy and judgmental. I'm just glad I'm independent now.

@Silver: I'm proud of you for getting your stuff back! Way to go, bub! Now keep it up, and don't give it back. You don't deserve your punishment.