So...my dad has his company abroad and is often there, and comes home once in 1-3 months and stays for a week or two. We have a big house, enough money to cover up expenses and dad calls us every evening b.u.t...

Today my sister got an anonymous person who sent pictures of my dad holding the hand of another woman, supposedly his 'second wife' and then pictures of that woman, and a beautiful little baby. Whoever it was must have thought mum received the messages, for it was addressed as 'your husband and his second wife..' blah blah but luckily, I handle the messages so my mum doesn't know.

Maybe this anonymous person is his second wife, trying to break up mum's marriage but I don't know... this person even messaged to 'ask your husband about and he will not lie, if he does and you believe it then you are a baka (mad person)' .

I don't know whether this is true, but sometime back I used to get messages which scolded mum from my dad's phone and when I once asked about it, he said it must have been someone in the company, he never sent it. I've been having suspicions for sometime but always thought I was just been stupid, I still think I am. Today I sent one of the pictures the anonymous person sent me to my dad's phone, I haven't gotten a reply so I don't know what will happen because of it, which I'm starting to regret a little

I don't know whether I should keep my mouth shut until I know it's 100% true and dad reveals it himself, or should I tell mum. Mum (and all of us) are happy and dad has never treated us bad, he's always been kind, loving and listens to us. I don't want to reveal it and then make this family one hell of a mess, especially because when mum gets hurt emotionally she would lock herself up and refuse to eat or speak, hell I don't even know what will happen if I tell her. If I keep my mouth shut about this and pretend I don't know anything, then maybe.. just maybe we can continue living this peaceful life without any dramas. It's not like it's against my religion to marry a second wife without getting permission from the first if the husband is willing to treat both equally, which my dad has, but I just.. don't know what to do. I don't want this to be a drama. Equally, I don't want my mum to find out late when everyone else has found out about it (I don't think many people know for now, if this is true.) 2 of my mum's friends have been in the same situation, their husbands had another family but they didn't know about it until everybody else in the place knew about it. One ended up in divorce and she married again with her kids unstable, the other aunt is kind of... gone mentally affected, just a little bit. I don't want my mum to fall into either of the situations, obviously

Should I tell my mum about this? Or should I not? Help

Everyone deserves the truth.

I'm going to talk to my dad when mum's not around and verify it, and then let mum know from his own mouth. I don't want her to hear from anyone else.

But he should have, in the very least told me my half-sister's name >_<

That sounds like such a hard situation to find yourself in the middle of!! :( That sounds good to talk to your dad, when your mum isn't around, but I agree with you - it should come from him. Not you. It isn't fair to you to put yourself in the middle of all of that. :( But still, that just sounds awkward.

I do agree though with Dystopia, everyone does deserve the truth. Hopefully he'll tell it!

No.

I don't think its your place to believe or not believe your father and/or the source. If there is any uncertainty in the situation, that choice belongs to your mother.

It is ideal that the truth come from your father. But if your father's story conflicts with the source, then its not your place to decide that your father was the truthful one. I hate to say this, but this isn't your relationship. This isn't about you. This is about your mother and father's marriage, and she should have the final say in whom or what she trusts. She deserves the full picture, both sides, then she deserves to make that choice for herself.

To clarify- I think you're doing the right thing by asking your father to see if he'll confess and talk to your mother himself. But if his story doesn't line up with the source's story, you should go to your mother, even if you personally feel that he is telling the truth.

Yes, I'll talk to him first and hopefully he'll admit it and tell mum. If he says no, then I'll take it to mum regardless of whether I believe dad or not, as you stated, mum should really have the final say. Thank you, both of you!

Aye.

I'm sorry about the shitty situation. I hope your parents can work it from there. And whatever happens, don't blame yourself for the outcome. You're merely the messenger, and how well or poorly your family handles this is entirely up to them and their own (good or bad) choices.

Lexi: Sounds like a plan, but either way, it's a super crummy situation! :( Not fun, at all! Best of luck dear!!

Wasn't fun at all, I agree.

First, he didn't admit it. He ignored it. So I had to tell mum. Then she calls dad, he says he did not absolutely see the photo when 2 hours ago he was questioning me and asking me to give the number of the person who sent me the photos.

Today he finally admitted mum and she's been down all day today not eating anything while my younger sisters know nothing...it's sickeningly maddening and to add dad doesn't even really feel sorry about it.

But I'm glad mum got to know the truth even though I know it's painful for her, I just hope she'll recover soon. I just wanted to say thank you again. Take care!

>___> What a shitbag. I'm sorry. I hope you guys will be okay.