Last week, I learned that my best friend had betrayed our friendship. She had done something to me, and then, lied about it when I confronted her about it. When I learned the real truth, I felt so awful. What made it even harder for me, was the fact that she didn't know that I had learned the truth.

I dreaded all weekend long about going school on Monday. I dreaded seeing her in our classes, acting like nothing had happened when I knew it all. Wondering why she had done it, and how we could possibly continue be friends. I wonder why we were friends! But, in our second period class (gym), I realized why were friends.

We were partnered up, like always. At first, I was afraid, but then, I suddenly realized something. The reason we were friends. I'd make little comments and remarks about what we were playing, and she laughed. She'd tell jokes and I'd laugh. Even through all the rough times we've had, we were always able to make each other laugh, and that's why we are friends.

I still wonder why she did it, but, right now, I don't care if I don't ever find out. It happened, it's done, move on. Our friendship is greater than that!

Discussion::
~ Ever realized why your friend(s) are your friend(s)?

That's a very impressing quality that you can be so forgiving. I'm not that way myself, and sometiems I really regret just not letting go of my anger.

I was younger then, and didn't have as much empathy. Now I have some experience behind me, and the person that betrayed me... we've even started talking again. the amazing thing is, we mesh right back together. We still like the same things, we still have the same sense of humor... it's really refreshing.

My situation stemmed from my friend going behind my ack with a boy I was going to date. Truth be told, I didn't like the boy that much... but the fact that I offered him to her, and she said no, then LIED to me and tried to get him? It wasn't so much the act, but the implication. And it wasn't even that one incident, everything she did was just getting on my nerves... and her family's rudeness towards me was just the straw that broke the camel's back.

Now looking back, I realize that her home life was really bad and she was probably just looking for a dream romance... an escape. All she really wanted was probably acceptance and love, but the way she acted.... all I could see was a pathetic girl clinging to anything she could, and i couldn't stand that.

@ Lanturn::
I try to be understanding... I can only think, that we're humans and humans mess up, it's what they do. I tell myself that I can mess up just as bad, and I would want to be forgiven for mistakes.

I'm glad to hear about you and your friend are still friends. It would be so sad if it never worked out.

Originally Posted by Clair Voyant

@ Lanturn::
I try to be understanding... I can only think, that we're humans and humans mess up, it's what they do. I tell myself that I can mess up just as bad, and I would want to be forgiven for mistakes.

I'm glad to hear about you and your friend are still friends. It would be so sad if it never worked out.

Yeah, it would have been. I'm the type of person that won't say sorry, either, I wait for the other person. Honestly, if she hadn't said hello, I would have goen the rest of my life wonderign if I'd done the right thing... If I had been too harsh.

I understand people better now, and I'm more accepting of people's faults. I'm thinking of inviting her to Menewsha, since I think she'd like the community here.

@ Lanturn::
Aw, that's nice... I had a friend years ago, she was my best friend and I told her almost everything, but we fought alot... she'd get so mad, she wouldn't look at me for weeks until I came up with the PERFECT apology... even if I hadn't done anything. Then, she decided I wasn't good enough to be her friend anymore and we haven't spoken really in since.. For awhile, I hoped that every time she said something, even if it was something small, that we might be friends again... but now, I realize, there isn't any point to that and I don't need her as my friend anymore.

It shows how fragile friendships can be.

Originally Posted by Clair Voyant

@ Lanturn::
Aw, that's nice... I had a friend years ago, she was my best friend and I told her almost everything, but we fought alot... she'd get so mad, she wouldn't look at me for weeks until I came up with the PERFECT apology... even if I hadn't done anything. Then, she decided I wasn't good enough to be her friend anymore and we haven't spoken really in since.. For awhile, I hoped that every time she said something, even if it was something small, that we might be friends again... but now, I realize, there isn't any point to that and I don't need her as my friend anymore.

It shows how fragile friendships can be.

D: ........... That sounds a lot like me. MAYBE I AM YOUR FRIEND?!
GAH! If your name is Tiffany, I will flip.

@ Lanturn::
No, it's not. Not even close...but, that's sad to hear. I mean, it's your choice who your friends are.

It is definetly sad, but I can say quite surely I'm not the person I used to be. I can be really coldif i have to be, but I haven't acted that way towards a friend in a very very long time. I was a very bratty child, and I'm glad I grew out of it.

@ Lanturn::
I think I know why my once good friend is like this now... why she acts the way she does. It all comes down to a person's life.

There's nothing that stings more than subjects like this and I've had more than enough of it just this year. ><
With my situation shat happened and two of my best friends turned their backs on me and I only had one friend who stuck by my side. She made sure to come over as much as she could or get me out of the house so I wouldn't be depressed and left alone with my thoughts. Throughout the months she reassured the other two would come around and they did. I wasn't bitter and the two apologized imensely.
But I thought why should I accept their apologies? Why am I even friends with them after they did this to me? Thing is once the four of us came together freshman year we were stuck for life. I was happy to have three solid friends to talk to and be there for, not to mention we all loved the same things. They're my sisters to be more exact.
The only thing that changed is Usagi and my bond strengthened over the time and I owe her more than you can imagine.
I hope your friend eventually apologizes to you and comes clean because there's nothing that hurts more than someone you trusted stabbing you in the back.

Originally Posted by MasterChiefrei

There's nothing that stings more than subjects like this and I've had more than enough of it just this year. ><
With my situation shat happened and two of my best friends turned their backs on me and I only had one friend who stuck by my side. She made sure to come over as much as she could or get me out of the house so I wouldn't be depressed and left alone with my thoughts. Throughout the months she reassured the other two would come around and they did. I wasn't bitter and the two apologized imensely.
But I thought why should I accept their apologies? Why am I even friends with them after they did this to me? Thing is once the four of us came together freshman year we were stuck for life. I was happy to have three solid friends to talk to and be there for, not to mention we all loved the same things. They're my sisters to be more exact.
The only thing that changed is Usagi and my bond strengthened over the time and I owe her more than you can imagine.
I hope your friend eventually apologizes to you and comes clean because there's nothing that hurts more than someone you trusted stabbing you in the back.

I'm glad to hear it worked out for you.
Yes, I do hope that she comes clean, but I won't loose sleep if she doesn't.

I'm very glad too, I actually was losing sleep and fretting. Eventually I wrote a very depressing journal entry that pretty much stated I was done. A day after is when the two apologized so weird timing. O.o
Your attitude about this is refreshing since most people get pissed or depressed like me. I know you were sad but hopeful and remembered what was important. ^ ^ That's what we should all keep in mind.

I have lost sleep over some things... and I did before I realized why we were friends... but, I see now, that I don't have to fret.

If someone really hurts me I can't forgive them. I'm not very tolerant of people lying to me either. I just feel like it's something I don't have to put up with and it's something that I really don't have time for. If I keep asking myself why someone's my friend then I stop being friends with them. I don't think I should have to have a reason to remind myself why I like someone. It's either I like the person or I don't.

Originally Posted by mystic kiwi

If someone really hurts me I can't forgive them. I'm not very tolerant of people lying to me either. I just feel like it's something I don't have to put up with and it's something that I really don't have time for. If I keep asking myself why someone's my friend then I stop being friends with them. I don't think I should have to have a reason to remind myself why I like someone. It's either I like the person or I don't.

But think of how much you hurt that person! I'm not going to argue with you, but, I couldn't just not forgive her. She's been my friend for years and I don't want this to end our friendship.

I guess so many people are different.

It's great that you could forgive her! I try to do that whenever I have friend issues, but there was this ONE TIME this year.
I became really good friends with a girl in my class last year. I was always more popular (ugh, I hate that term but that's really how it is) and had more friends than her. She seemed nice so I started talking with her, we had a lot of fun. She became close friends with one of my other friends.
When summer vaction was over, and school had started, she totally ignored me. I asked all my friends if they knew anything about this. Some said that she thought I was annoying. I felt really betrayed because I was the only reason why anyone even knew who she was. We're still not friends, but we don't hate each other.
YEAH LONG STORY SORRY. D:

So many times I've wondered why my best friend does something. She always does something stupid; and it always hurts me, and she always acts like she did nothing wrong or doesn't even notice I'm bothered. She does things she knows upset me, and then wonders why I'm upset. She's said so many hurtful and inconsiderate things to me and it's like she doesn't even notice what she says is completely rude and uncalled for. I told her I was worried about her after she did something, and she told me I shouldn't worry and she never worries about me. By saying something like that it sounds like she doesn't even care what I do or what may happen to me, and like, agh she's so stubborn in these sorts of situations. Ah, and god forbid she ever say sorry... And even though she does all these things, I still stick by her side and I'm always there when she needs me. She's so unappreciative... but I can't help but be her best friend. We laugh at the same half told stories, giggle before we even tell the joke, are in the action of a stupid idea before it's fully said. It's like, that's why we're best friends and always will be. For all the stupid shit she's done to me, she comes back with something equally stupid to make up for it. I don't know where I'd be without her, she always knows how to make me laugh and have a good time. We're such good friends people think we're twins, it's crazy. People think it's weird when we're not around each other. As we've been told, we're like cookies and milk; we just have to be together. She's the only one who ever understands my most serious thoughts and my most outrageous ideas. I'm so happy we haven't let any of the stuff we've been through keep us from being friends. We're both super lucky to have each other. (:

Originally Posted by Lollygag

It's great that you could forgive her! I try to do that whenever I have friend issues, but there was this ONE TIME this year.
I became really good friends with a girl in my class last year. I was always more popular (ugh, I hate that term but that's really how it is) and had more friends than her. She seemed nice so I started talking with her, we had a lot of fun. She became close friends with one of my other friends.
When summer vaction was over, and school had started, she totally ignored me. I asked all my friends if they knew anything about this. Some said that she thought I was annoying. I felt really betrayed because I was the only reason why anyone even knew who she was. We're still not friends, but we don't hate each other.
YEAH LONG STORY SORRY. D:

I remember that early this year, I got so angry with one of my really close guy friends. I was so angry with him, I couldn't stand it so, I ignored him for a week. I couldn't stop myself, even though I could see he was suffering. But, he really hurt me, and I was disgusted by the fact that he didn't even know what he'd done. It wasn't like he'd done something so terrible, or anything... but he has this horrible habit of asking "Why am I even friends with you?" and I finally snapped.

After that week, after him begging with me to talk to him, I went into a total screaming fit. "You're friends with us becasue you really care for us and we care for you! We love you, damn it! And you love us! So stop questioning it and be happy with it, alright!" and he shut up. He felt bad for a little while, but he and I finally made up and he hasn't asked us that question in a while.

Well actually for me I used to be friends with this one girl named Bianca and then one day she just decided to become a bitch (excuse my language please) And so I freaking went off at her and It reminded me of how we used to be friends and have a good time and everything and now I can't figure out way I was her friend in the first place...she's a freaking loser...D< she make me so freaking mad it's insane and the worst thing about it is I live next to her, I have the same bus stop as her I have to seat next to her on the bus AND I have the same lunch period with her! It just makes me want to Flipping punch her in the face!

i think my friends are my friends because were all weird in our own way and we get along we clique 2 peas in a pod well 7 peas in a pod

About a year ago, I got into a fight with one of my best friends at school. We stopped talking to each other for about one whole year. I wonder how I managed. Anyway, later on I got the guts to apologize to her, and we apologized to each other and to this day we are friends.

I regret not taking action earlier.

Another thing though, I had a friend I have had since like, Pre-K. We re-met around 3rd grade and since then we've been to each others houses frequently, had many sleepovers, etc. However, gradually, I began to realize it was always me who was the one that called her, invited her over, invited myself over, so I stopped, and wanted to see her reaction.

She hasn't spoken to me since. :X

Quite depressing, really. But I mean, I get by. Thinking about it now makes me want to play with her, but apparently, thats not the case from her prespective.

Other then that, my current friends are reliable and fun to be around. :3

I just realized a little bit ago why my friend and I are so close. I shall tell you the story, but first I must give you background! Cue dramatic narrative music!

For four years, I've been head over heels, totally in love with this guy. We shall call him Jay =3 (which is actually my brother-in-law's name. Ew).

Anyway, the problem is this: he treats me like crap. He's lied to me, screwed with me, betrayed me, and is constantly going between "I love you to death, have sex with me" and "I'm gay, don't touch me" (he's bisexual or gay, depending on the week u.u). But lately he'd been really good. Then, we got into a massive fight. I was sick of him ditching me and I bitched him out. We didn't speak for weeks. When it finally blew over, all was good until I found out that while we'd been fighting, he'd been telling people that the only reason he'd ever said he'd loved me was to make me happy, and that he was only my friend because he thought I'd kill myself if he wasn't (no idea where he got that idea), along with a bunch of other stuff. Needless to say, I was pissed. I confronted him (surprisingly calmly. ^_^ I was so proud of myself for keeping my cool) and he said yes, he'd said that, but only because he was mad, and that he'd never meant any of it. I was still angry, but I also wanted to keep his friendship. However, now I didn't know if it was worth it. So, I went to my other friend, Nee-Nee (that's not her real name, obviously XD).

Now, Nee-Nee and I have known each for almost six years, and we're super close, like sisters (hence the nickname). She listened to me for hours and gave me what advice she could. When I told her I still wanted to be with him, she said something surprising. She sighed and said, "You know I hate him. You know I hate what he does to you, and I wish you'd leave him. He's a jerk, and you know it. But if you insist on putting yourself through this, I'm here, and I always will be."

Everyone else had gotten so sick of hearing about Jay they'd told me they didn't want to hear it anymore, and I was so shocked by her response I couldn't say anything for a few minutes. It made me realize why we'd stayed friends for so long, why we were so unbelievably close. I know my talk of this guy drives her up the wall and she sometimes wants to hit me with something blunt and heavy, but she's still there, still willing to listen. I realized how unbelievably lucky I was to have her, something I hadn't thought in years (you know how when someone's around enough, they sort of become part of the background). It made me so happy that I couldn’t help but grin and I felt instantly better.

Now she's having problems, and I'm trying my best to be there for her like she was for me.

Best friends are amazing =3

And yay for long rambling life stories!

Well I guess it's good that you were able to move past the incident, and remain friends. A friend who can always make you laugh is truly awesome indeed.

Personally, I've never had a moment like yours, in which I remember why I was friends with someone.

Since my friends are few and far between, I'm not inclined to forget the reason(s) any time soon. xO