every body sterio types about there perfect partner you know brown hair, blue eyes really if it is not in a derogitry sense like some one not dating a dark person for reasons like they think all black people have aids tehn can't really lable them as a racist.

If you were to write on the hypothetical ad, that you wanted a specific race, because that's what you are attracted to, that is silly in my opinion.

Because, Not to offend anyone, but i have met some really ugly(sorry) white persons, black persons, Asian persons.

If one of these were to apply to the ad would the person not refuse the offer because of the 'Ugliness' of the persons appearance, regardless of them being of the specified 'race.'

From one point i can understand. If a race is known for carrying a particular gene that makes one more likely to become blind, or die early. If you don't want to risk your children having that kind of disease, and it's known to be passed down through, say, people of middle eastern decent, as an example, then yes it's acceptable. You don't want to go through the trauma of having a child/children die, or something.

On the other hand, doing it because you feel superior isn't right. Socially Acceptable? yes. Right? no.

On the paper loving hand living in the toilet, I knew a girl once who refused to marry anyone of Japanese decent because she felt inferior to them. She felt like she would be taking away their chance to marry someone of a much better society (she's a white american).

I personally would be very turned off if the person who liked me liked me only because of my race. People tend to have a preference in what kind of person they like, and that may happen to also be they tend to like white males or females or black males or females more, but that doesn't mean they are being racist necessarily. I tend to like white males better, but I don't like someone BECAUSE they are white, i just tend to like they way they look more [like being sexually attracted to them] But I have had a few crushes of other races, a few black males and one Native American [kind of lol hes like 50 or 25% but still]. I do not chose the person I like simply because they are white though. Just happens that I like gamers it seems, and the gamers I tend to know are white.. lol Its more personality then anything else really.

I think it is all personal preference. By the way Greeks marry Greeks, Chinese marry Chinese etc at least most of them do to please their families.

Well, there's nothing wrong with personal preference, really. It's like saying, "I prefer oranges to apples," or "I like Dr. Pepper more than I like root beer," or something. We all have preferences and that's fine. However, going so far so as to say, "Sorry, I don't want to date other races," well, that's a preference as well, albeit one that seems...narrow-minded.

Sometimes, I don't find typical characteristics of certain races attractive.
That isn't to say I don't find the skin colour attractive, because there have been Latinos, African Americans and Orientals that I find attractive, while on a whole I may not find them attractive at all.

I don't think it's okay to choose someone you may be attracted to and have a great personality but deny them because they're not "racially pure".

Originally Posted by Fabby

Well, there's not much of a point in dating someone who you dislike. Nobody's going to be happy that way. If you're a racist person, it actually seems beneficial to everyone else if you just stick with your own race when dating.
Even if it's considered racist to want only a pure blood white descendant of King X, that type of person is what's going to make you happy. Why in the world should you marry someone that doesn't make you happy?

My views exactly.

Originally Posted by Oscar the Wild

Well, there's nothing wrong with personal preference, really. It's like saying, "I prefer oranges to apples," or "I like Dr. Pepper more than I like root beer," or something. We all have preferences and that's fine. However, going so far so as to say, "Sorry, I don't want to date other races," well, that's a preference as well, albeit one that seems...narrow-minded.

I would say you example is going above and beyond personal preference, and as a result I do not believe a person holding such a view is acceptable. As from it we can determine that they believe in the myth of race ideology. Both that humans can be categorized into groups based on genetic boundaries and furthermore these groups can be placed into a hierarchy. Which is no surprise really, because if you look at the history behind the concept of 'race' it has been used right from its creation by race ideology to justify social stratification and the exploitation of other peoples. Right from the "We aren't enslaving people, they are not even from the same race!!!" to "The social stratification system isn't having a negative effect on them, it is because of their race". In many situations it serves to do little more than put the blame on the victims. So I would strongly oppose people who continue to spread such damaging myths.

You've got to admit that you can't force them to date people of other races if they don't want to, though :| And even if it happened, unless they experimented love-at-first-sight, they would take the experience as a way to support their negative views.

Originally Posted by Kah Hilzin-Ec

You've got to admit that you can't force them to date people of other races if they don't want to, though :| And even if it happened, unless they experimented love-at-first-sight, they would take the experience as a way to support their negative views.

Although I have little problem with who they do or do not wish to date. My problem as I outlined is they both believe in the existence of races and that a persons traits are determined (at least in part) by their race. Which is why I explored how damaging the myth of races and race ideology can be.

You could always say something a lot more polite. Because lets face it, no matter how you justify it yourself, saying 'NO BLACKS' kinda puts up this weird, racist wall. Even if you go more into detail saying 'european decent, other need not apply' it's really ... shifty.

I suggest saying something like 'Looking for;' and then list what you'd like, along with a tink or two about yourself, like any other dating ad. For example. 'Looking for caucasian male, average height ... ' blah blah blah, you get the idea. I understand you're looking for Mr. Right, but you also can't be a meanie about it. You can tell what you'd like to see, but you can't tell people what you wouldn't like to see. Usually. Make sense?

Maybe that's just my take. I wouldn't be like [and this is just an example] 'Looking for, skiiny, near anorexic blonde haired female who's willing to let me screw other women.' That's pushing it. But maybe 'Looking for atheletic opening minded woman.' Something. Wording is everything. Be polite. I mean, hell, if Mr. Right sees your add and he thinks it's too racist, who's to say he'll turn away from contacting you?

Good luck.