Originally Posted by Jovial

Haha, it's not an insult, it's a reference from the L Word! It's only an insult to people who are easily offended, particularly by the LGBTQ community. ;P The woman who it refers to is quite good looking.

Lane? Although I suspect that is not quite right. Although nice to know I am not an insult. :o

As for me, I have been called a Marxist and a Communist. Neither of which were offensive as I was leaning towards Neo-Marxist Feminism at the time.

"Vainglorious!"

That sounds awesome xD

Originally Posted by sarofset

Where you from? I'm from the U.S. Specifically Colorado. You're not supposed to call people anything, like ever, because it's not PC, but I have never cared for the sentiment.

I'm from Sweden.
Yeah I know, just sometimes I feel like "spit it out". if you're gonna sayit you might just as well say it my face , you know.. >.<

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Originally Posted by Keyori

"Vainglorious!"

That sounds awesome xD

Yeah doesn't it!? xD
Though I fear that the translater might have been a bit "off" on that on. It didn't give any other options either.

Growing up, i was a nerd. SUPEREMO nerd material.

Wore a jedi badge on my school uniform, the lot.

And growing up i thought nobody would like me. But yesterday me and my boyfriend were playing: Star Wars: The force unleashed when i pointed out a specific droid that he'd just blown to smithereens. He turned to me and said:

I love the fact you're such a nerd.

I was so damn happy, my cheeks just went mental as i smiled.

Nerds always love it when they're partners are nerds too. A couple of my exes were total nerds and I loved it. ...my current girlfriend is kinda nerdy, but more on the girly girl side of things. lol. I love her to pieces though. And she loves firefly!!!! That made me so freaking happy when I found out. :) We watched it, and she just loved it. It makes me almost giddy. lol.

I've been called a bitch before but that's pretty weird I'm rather mildmannered XD I'm often called a nerd, a geek, a teachers pet (so what if I get good grades?), and people sometimes make fun of me for my very strong Canadian accent eh? Funny seeing as I live in Canada..
I've also been called a lesbian but I'm straight :/ I HATE how people use gay and lesbian as insults, most of the world needs to get with the program here...
And I ALWAYS sing Queen out in public. Out of nowhere I'll be like "Is this the real life? Is this just fantasy?" and my friends will shut me up XDD

I wish I could sing Queen. I have no range though. Freddy will always be the master of range, you know?

lol I neve rsaid I sang Queen WELL. I have a TERRIBLE voice, absolutely AWFUL, but I enjoy pretending to be good and imagining what's I'd sing on Canadian Idol (Does that still exist? I haven't seen it..) I don't care if people look at me weird, I'm probably never going to see them again anyways right?

I get called variants of "stupid" often because I can be dopily optimistic as well as the frequent "herp-derp" statement. One person at work apparently has it in for me and will rant extensively about how I'm a moron on my days off. Me: with the Bachelor's degree, and an infinite knowledge of cultural intricacies, and the experience in a nursing background that lead to Psychology as a hobby, and who, when she is bored, browses the Encyclopedia. Ohyes. The stupid one when compared to the man who spends all of his downtime playing Call of Duty and whose sense of humor consists of poop jokes.

I'm also proud of nerd and geek. Sometimes dork, but that implies a certain lack of social skills that I don't qualify for.

I like being mistaken for a dyke. Its funny because I wear ribbons in my hair and pretty dresses.

Yeah, lesbians get that one a lot. Most people don't understand the masculine connotation to it. Normal people are dumb sometimes. lol.

In their defense, most of the people who call me 'dyke' are people at work. And our uniform is khaki pants with a blue shirt. There isn't much room for embellishment (though, I still wear the ribbons in my hair because I like to feel pretty). Plus, I do hang around the boys a lot more easily than I do with the women at work, but that's because the boys are closer to my actual age. (They all have kids, though, so I just kind of tune them out when they start talking about their 'babygirl.') All the women are in their late 30's and their kids are in their teens, so I doubly can't relate.

Also, its really hard to find a derogatory term for someone who is "the femme." They all sound... sexy to me. Most lesbian derogatory terms have to do with the one that is the 'masculine' counterpart. And they don't know about the dynamics of my relationship with Liz, so they can't know that we don't assign our sexual roles. And I don't tell them because, honestly, its none of their business.

I don't appreciate having derogatory terms thrown at me. I do not embrace them because they are insults, and even things that I may consider good qualities can be used against me in saying that I have them to a fault. That is not a good thing. I've always thought it kind of ridiculous when people would act proud of a derogatory term someone had called them. It just seems immature to me; embrace whatever qualities you want, but thanking someone for insulting you is not how I roll.

So what others think of you is important to you? Because I have never, and still do not care what others think. If they call me a nerd it's either because they're dumb, or simply do not know what they're missing. Hence I embrace the term, and love calling myself by it.

Well, I've been called a giant before, cause I'm really tall for a girl (6' or 180cm), but i actually love being tall. :) I'll just "look down" upon those who call me mean names (yeah, sorry for the stupid pun XD)

Also I've been called teachers pet, but hell, I can now get into pretty much any university I want.

A really weird one I've gotten was nympho. 0_0 apparently a lot of people in my old school thought i was a nympho (not that there's anything wrong with that), but in reality I was practically a virgin when that rumor was spread around, so it was quite funny when i found out.

I had this weird feud with a girl once. She was like stalker crushing on me and eventually I lost my patience and politely told her I didn't want to go to her birthday party because she made me uncomfortable and she was needy (there's a whole story here, just trust me, I was pretty damn patient). Then she feuded at me while I politely avoided interacting with her. One day I heard her saying "I think girls can love guys in just so many ways, and guys can just never feel like that, you know?" and I was like fuck, that is awful, so I walked up and said "You know, I think girls don't exist but no one agrees with me either."
Then she walked away and said "You know, I bet he's never even seen a girl naked" and I was confused.

That story was oddly specific, but I'm proud of it.

I recently told a girl I wasn't ready for a relationship, because at the time I wasn't. She told me I was going to be alone forever, because I'd never be ready... I'm getting married, probably this fall.

Originally Posted by sarofset

I recently told a girl I wasn't ready for a relationship, because at the time I wasn't. She told me I was going to be alone forever, because I'd never be ready... I'm getting married, probably this fall.

That strikes me as quite a large transition to occur in such a short period of time. o.o;

By recently I meant last spring. lol. sorry about that.

However I'm proud that I can prove her wrong. The girl I'm with now, has been amazing. She treats me better than Any girlfriend I've ever had, and she's freaking gorgeous to boot. I already asked her to marry me, and she said yes, but we have to wait to announce it until about a month or two from now, because her mom will freak when she tells her.

Also in fairness, it became more emphasized as I made the mistake of going by New Zealand seasons. It is currently summer here, so Fall is really close. Although in saying that, of course it is not my place to judge how much time is appropriate. xD

Another term which I have been aimed at me is that I am Politically Correct. As Political Correctness is an admirable and desirable goal, I do not see it as derogatory.

I don't know, political correctness can really go too far at times.
Like, Sesame Street.

Political correctness impedes freedom of speech. I don't subscribe to it. I find I should be allowed to say what I wish to, And that society should have no say in it.

That being said, do what you want. I couldn't care less how you talk.

Originally Posted by Hermes

I don't know, political correctness can really go too far at times.
Like, Sesame Street.

It all comes down to how a person conceptualizes the concept of political correctness. I apply it in the sense that it is based on an awareness that the cultural has very real implications and consequences for the social. As such there are clearly going to be differing levels of influence that people can have. Furthermore it is a logical extension, at least in my view, that we would focus predominantly on those who have the greatest impact.

Originally Posted by sarofset

Political correctness impedes freedom of speech. I don't subscribe to it. I find I should be allowed to say what I wish to, And that society should have no say in it.
That being said, do what you want. I couldn't care less how you talk.

The problem is that the silencing of voices goes both ways. Indeed Political Correctness can often be employed as a weapon to shut down those who would challenge the Status quo. As this is the sense which it has been employed against me, I do not see it as an insult. Especially as one challenges the status quo when they see it as unjust.

How are things where you are by the way? My country is slipping toward communism and it really really bothers me. I am libertarian. I believe in a meritocracy. I actually don't believe in currency. Hopefully we will be beyond a need for it soon.

As a country which was built upon the power imbalances inherent in colonialism, we still have issues of inequality underpinning our society. The cultural hegemony of Pakeha in this country is still resulting in Maori being overrepresented in negative statistics. This inequality is slowly being redressed in some areas but every inch gained requires a lot of fighting.

Male nurse. I know that some people may not think that it is derogatory, and for the most part I don't think it is. I just feel that there is no need to call a man who happens to be a nurse a male nurse. Like I don't be like, here is my friend so-and-so she is a female nurse, or a female doctor. I'm a nurse and I don't feel that my gender has to be a description of my occupation.