Crazy: *keeps staring*

I'm doing pretty good!

okay, you had permission. he promised he wouldn't. THAT is the violation.

Luna, the point of naked is to be naked! :lol:

*stares back*

*hugs Luna* My boyfriend kissed his ex... the exact same girl I was afraid he would kiss who I have been afraid he'd leave me for... and now he wants a 3 person relationship which I brought up in my journal that he STOLE and then read and now he wants it but after I cut myself he's changed his mind and I feel like the worst fucking girlfriend ever >.<

Ny, I wish you were here and could go to some of my therapy classes with me. we talk about stuff like that.

IMO, if he's willing to kiss her, then who knows what else he's willing to do ... and would having a 3-way-relationship just be letting him have his cake and pie too without having to choose which one to take the first bite of?

Nyv: don't worry too much, have a days rest then think of what to do, mind you, i can't talk :(

There are rules if we do have a 3 way relationship... and he says he'd always choose me...

I have been through YEARS of trying to mold myself into being the "perfect wife" and "perfect friend" and "perfect girlfriend" ... honey, you can't change for somebody else. if they don't love you for who you are right now, emotional and history baggage and all, then it will never work.

I don't mean to hurt you, but he also said he wouldn't kiss her ...

*holds Nyvok close* I agree with Crazy. If he kissed his ex, then it's not your job to fret about and try to change yourself. It's your job to dump his ass. He clearly doesn't respect you in the least so he doesn't deserve you. Drop him like a hot potato and leave. Don't tear yourself down over a worthless guy like him. :|

Nyv: what is a 3-way relationship? O_O?

hey! you don't drop hot potatoes!! you mash them up and put gravy on them!!

mash with gravy :drool:

That's a little morbid if you think about it. XD

awwww, I could make fried chicken tonight with potatoes and gravy :drool:

I would never leave Dillon... he's too much to me... my best friend... the one who saved me... I owe it to him to let him be happy doing whatever he wants.

and dragonjake, it's a relationship involving 3 people

morbid, but oddly stress relieving. :yes: because GRAVY TASTES LIKE JUSTICE!!!

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Jake, it's where the guy gets to have 2 girlfriends and it's supposedly okay.

just because someone helped you in the past does not give them permission to hurt you in the present.

dude, I can not believe I'm actually spouting off stuff I learned in group yesterday! yay me! booo for Ny though.

Whatever he's done doesn't grant him the right to treat you like this. And if he even implies that it does, then he's just using it to exert power over you. No man has the right to make you feel inferior.

EXACTLY!

why couldn't i have had a three way relationship then? then i wouldn't have to hurt Mel

and yeah, it IS easy for me to say because I'm not in your life and your heart right now Ny. and that is the horrible thing that really sucks right now. the confusion of what to do and how much it hurts your heart that this is all happening to begin with. :hug: I wish I was there to give you a real hug. and it's okay to cry, the body needs it to release the toxins the brain builds up while you are being in this emotional state. :yes:

Dillon is the best thing that ever happened to me. I KNEW what he was like when I started dating him and I asked him out anyways! I love him so much! I know I do... and I know he loves me! I just want to be a better girl friend to him.. that's all.

whoes pimping out two girls on here?

is it something that you could honestly in your heart and your honor do and find right, Jake? do you think the other two people would have felt the same way about doing it? it isn't like a bandaid to prevent choosing. I know if I had a man in my life that I loved and he wanted to bring another gal in the picture, that would just hurt me to the core. it would mean like I wasn't good enough, that he needs to find someone to fill in for all the things wrong with me. it just isn't fair thinking, it's greedy thinking. IMO

It was going to be a mutual relationship between the three of us... but, I couldn't do it...

hi Mitsu.

well, I think before you try to make improvements Ny, why don't you stand back and really think and even write down what hurts so much. exactly. and tell him that. and then ask him what he thinks you "need to do better" ... you don't wanna become a Stepford Wife for nothing.

ohhhhhh.... i see that explains it.