MidnightOctoberTears: That is and interesting way to look at it.....

Personality, because it's the way people act and their sense of humour and other quality traits that make people either good or bad. Having said that, I think that appearance does play a huge part in how I judge people.

At the end of the day, personality is more important. I wish I could say that's all that matters, but I think it's easy to give a wrong impression and turn someone off based on your appearance. It is for me, anyways. I say I don't have a type and I can't really pinpoint a specific 'look' or personality, but I get turned off SO quickly based off of the first thing someone ever says to me, and what they look like sometimes contributes.

That didn't make any sense. Just pretend it did.

I think personality often plays a lot into how you see a person physically. Like, I had a huge crush [and I mean HUGE] on this guy I knew in middle school. I thought he was the cutest guy on Earth. He had a friend that I thought looked kinda plain who always hung out with him and needless to say I didn't have a crush on him. So I work up the courage to talk to them. The One Guy shot me down completely- told me flat out to go away. His friend, on the other hand, looked at me and said that I was welcome to talk to him whenever and told One Guy off for being an ass. Since that day I can't remember why I thought One Guy was cute at all or why I thought his friend was plain ^^;

Woo~! Personality wins by a landslide! Hehe So happy now :p So there ARE good people out there!

I definitely believe that personality comes before appearance. However, I think if the person appeals to me in a good manner, that is just a additional bonus.
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I believe both are equally important: you have to be able to kiss your significant other and imagine yourself (possibly if you are mature enough and of age) sleeping with them.... My past boyfriends have all had something that repulsed me and though their attitude/personalities where awesome (ok maybe except my first boyfriend who ended up being a jerk... ^^") I grew bored of them and could no longer muster the desire to kiss them... :( i have to find someone who's personality fits with mine and who I am attracted too, without both, eventually (i'll) get bored. :( :(

Personality. It's really that age-long lesson we learn as kids: just because someone is ugly on the outside, doesn't mean their ugly on the inside. Appearance, especially in today's society, has taken over and people tend to label people by the way a person looks. "That guy's wearing dark clothing, so he's probably gothic, or emo, or just depressing." or "That girl is wearing a PINK shirt, so she must be a total preppy bitch." These are things I've heard all the time. It's sad, really.

Appearance is a major factor on how we judge a person, even before we know what sort of personality that person has. :/ Society has really made it this way; even though not everyone judges, you can't say it doesn't happen.

I asked out my guy because he was hotter than hell, and he said yes because I was pretty cute too. We didn't know each other at first, so appearance was the only thing to go by on. It just so happened we liked each others personalities too.

Come for the looks, stay for the heart. <3

I think personality really counts in the end. As great as someone may look, if their personality stinks then I would probably want to stay away from them for a while.
Appearance is just something extra I suppose, that people look for. I mean, it's a good bonus if they're good looking, but I don't think that's everything.
For me, even though someone may be visually appealing at first, if they have a bad personality, I see them as ugly soon after. I'm definitely one of those people who goes for personality more, and I do get irritated easily when I see people being rude/inconsiderate to others.
But hey, that's just me. xD

The Real Nikki: What if some butt ugly dude were to have asked you out before you asked this guy out? What would you have said?

Angeal Pureheart: Maybe, maybe not. If we became friends first, I might have given him a chance, seeing as I would get use to seeing him all the time. But I imagine that would have taken some time.

Would you jump on board with some random, unattractive stranger?

Nope. I would never say "Yes" to anyone without getting to know their personality first. Sexy or butt ugly I would say "No" until I got to know them. Looks are not a bother to me.

They're both important in life and interpersonal relationships, but which one is more important (or whether they're about the same or even important at all) really depends on what you're talking about, here. If you mean for a romantic relationship, then to me they're roughly equal, with personality having a little more sway over the decision. If you mean for simple friendship, then appearance isn't really important at all. There are other areas in life where appearance matters most, and some areas where it's all about abilities and efficiency and thus neither are important.

Originally Posted by The Real Nikki

Would you jump on board with some random, unattractive stranger?

I wouldn't jump on board with a random anybody. I believe the mentality of 'I'm cute you're cute let's screw and we'll work the rest out.' is the reason for the high divorce rate and single parents.

If you don't know the person, what do you have to fall back on when you're done screwing?

I agree with Saisei. Nice avi by the way. I agree that that is the mainr eason for the high devorce rate. And most people don't even get married. They just start a relationship because of the sex. Like how almost every guy wants to have sex with Megan Fox. Yes, she is very beautiful, but I can almost guarantee that she has a pretty crappy personality. I only say that because she is a huge celebrity and most celebs have crappy personalities because of them being celebs.

I have issues with choosing between personality or appearance. But, at all honesty, I would have to chose personality. Only because I would love to get along with someone rather than just know each other and be in silence around them. It is a bit hard to explain I think, but, that should sum it up. :)

Personality~~!
lol~ I hate to say it but when you chose to judge by appearence, your more than likely gonna be wrong.
Good example would be how people think I'm the calm girl next door, who'd never hurt a fly.....
Needless to say they have no idea... I actually tend to scare people when I start raving about how beautiful dead bodies are, and how lovely it is to look at gore infested pictures.
No matter how creepy or "ugly" someone is I tend find them to be great people to get along with and most of the time I find their personalities cute.
The only exceptions would be the gurdge---- just because I didn't like how she pushed me off a building in a game ;(
On the other hand--- no matter how someone looks they could be a backstabber. I've seen and had everal friends with a wide range of apperance ratings. Ironically enough, someone who doesn't look look anything like a supermodel, has just as much chance of being a backstabber, as a "goddess" as the boys put it.
So needless to say, Personality wins with me.
No way in heck will I tolerate ugly behavior, esspecially since I only judge by personality.

They both matter to an extent.

Appearance is what usually draws you toward someone because that's normally all you can tell about someone.

After that though, you get to know them, their quirks, their interests, their attitude. There's so many factors in personality that it means so much. Personality is what makes you stick around.

personality for sure!

Personality.
Though..
I can not say that I do not care if they are attractive or not.
I do care about looks.
IBut I do pick personality over them.
Most of the time, I f I like their personality, I think they are attractive.

Mm, personality without a doubt. While a person may look beautiful, ugly, rude, kind--to me their looks shape up with their personality. If someone doesn't look "attractive" at first meeting? If they have a nice and fun personality, they tend to look nicer. Same goes for "attractive" looking people. If they're personality is bitchy and rude, their appearance tends to become less appealing.

In short, appearance is like the cherry on top of personality!

Definitely personality. But appearance can be a bonus as well. ;D
In a way though, they are both pretty equal.

personality is, without a doubt, the most important. and i truly believe that the more you get to know someone, the more beautiful and attractive they look to you, because you can see their inner beauty on the outside.

Like I say. Go for the personality :p Looks are just Icing on the cake :p