No, that cat exists. I was picturing it when you mentioned it, but I have no idea what the breed is called, though. You're not insane, though, I sweat they're real.

Awh, well I guess you kinda had to expect it to wash out since it was a light lavender.

Male cats really like to walk in harnesses so far as I've heard, so I think I'll try it. I always feel bad my baby doesn't get to go outside, but I love her to pieces and it'd just kill me if she died in any kind of tragedy.

That's why I want to talk to a vet, because I don't buy it. I've read two different sides of the declawing story. It's either that cats have an extra joint which is where the claw is removed at, so then it's like they have normal "hands" without the nails. And I've heard that they don't have that extra joint. Either way, it all depends on the vet you use. We've had the same vet for my entire life, and he is so good. Our cats have always been treated well by him.

Ahhhhh. Kay. Never would've guessed that. That guy has had more usernames than you can shake a stick at.

lol okay They do have spotty coats sometimes, but I think they kinda look like rats a bit when there old and there hair is going XD

Well to be honest I was hoping it would just wash out to the same super light blond it started at so that it would just be a super easy re-dye XD

I don't know what kinda HOA you guys have but there are cat proof fences, I was planning one giving my kitten a very small super kitty friendly area she could have supervised out door time in, but they go over our 4ft fence rule and I know that's not going to cut it.

I've never heard the extra joint thing... it does make sense to me, because declawed cats don't seem like they have smaller hands... but it's still just sounds like taking my finger nail off by detaching it from my knuckle and leaving the rest of my finger?
I dunno I still wouldn't do it, especially not the older one. Not only does she spend her time on the porch and I hear her when ever she moves or mew I still feel like she needs that protection for herself.

lol Yeah that's just why I call him Dan, that was the "real" name I once heard from him. Which I'm pretty is not lol but I think he knows I can't pronounce it, though I would love to be able to. So he just saves us all that awkwardness XD
and I think he kinda had to change the foreign text because it was just becoming a hassle with trade requests and such.

Have you ever seen those hairless cats? I'm pretty sure if one of those had fur it'd look just like those Egyptian cats.

It must not have, then? Blonde to violet could be pretty, too. As long as it's not white blonde and it makes you look like you've got a bald spot. I've seen that before and it's super unattractive.

We don't have any HOA to speak of. Back when I was a kid and my parents were buying this house they spent a couple extra months looking just to avoid an HOA. But we have really low fences in the backyard, and that's required by law because we live on a corner, and supposedly people couldn't see to turn if we had regular fences.

Our cats do have their back claws, and when Misty got outside as a kitten she was able to hold her ground with a nasty shit of a tabby tomcat that our neighbor had until we realized she was missing and got her back. And I mean, they were seriously going at it. >.>

But another thing about my cat is that she's always been kinda destructive. We probably would have had to take out her front claws no matter what because of how bad she was at scratching for the first five or so years of her life. Somehow she still destroys wicker baskets with her front paws sans claws.

I think those foreign letters spelled out "Hidan" and everyone called him Dan. But whenever I saw him around I was like...ohhh, foreign letter dude. But then somebody else did the foreign letter thing along with him and I could never tell who it was anymore.

Yeah I wasn't sure if that was just it when it was older, because they do look so I like and the one with spots looked like it's fur was super thin and fine and while shiny and soft now, the kitty was still young and we know what happens XD

LOL it is that white blond underneath, The lavender was a bit pale and I was really afraid of it turning that funky brown color XP
but yeah it was to pale cuse it was quickly overcome XD

Yup HOA's are EVIL because it doesn't seem to have any decisions made by the HOME OWNERS -.- anyways I could really rant about that BUT instead I'll tell you the good news is that you can see right threw the kitty fence so that argument wouldn't really hold up XD It's not the pretties thing I mean I was just going to do my small quite privet back corner and plant her lots of cat friendly grass and cat nip and such.

See that's the stuff that terrifies me, those few rare times, you don't know how but something happens. There are tons of roaming cats here that just meander the park it seems like. So I'm always freaking out worried Haunting will go at it with one of them, or that she won't come back inside before I go to work. Back when I wouldn't let her out when ever she asked she would just run when I tried to bring her back inside and I would spend all day freaking out for her, but now we have an understanding, I will let her out when she askes, if she comes back in when I ask XD

Oh man my kitten doesn't do much like that, she doesn't even use the scratching post honestly maybe a little on the cat tree but she's much more play full rather then destructive. Haunting does have a tree that she is partial to but she doesn't leave much visible damage that I can tell. She REALLY snubs that cat scratch post thing it's hilarious I gave it to her and she just looked at me, looked at it and then looked back at me all "ew that's hideous" and ran to the door and whined XD I was like okay okay I know it's not a huge tree lol

Oh there WAS lol I didn't even know that XD pssh copy cats I know Dan pretty much exclusively from the AAY forum though so

Maybe you could do lavender on the ends instead of on the roots. That way when it washes out it won't give you the bald appearance?

Yeah, I still remember looking at some house in a neighborhood that was just being built, and I think we actually seriously considered it, but we didn't buy it because the HOA wanted 50 bucks a month (might've been more) for "street upkeep." Pfft.

Haha, awh. Cats are so smart. The way my cat got outside was funny actually. It was when I was like 10 years old, and my dad was painting our house, which was two stories at the time. He took the screens off the second story windows, since that's where he was working, and the window in my room was open. She accidentally went flying out the second story window because she didn't know the screen was missing! XP So 1 a.m. the next morning we heard screeching outside and clawing on the house. And that's how we found her. >.>

Our cats both use the scratching posts, but my cat definitely likes to scratch up everything. It bugs my mom most because for some reason she has a fetish for wicker baskets, which is what my cat loves. I don't care much. What I remember hating about my cat when she was a kitten is how she ate EVERYTHING. All of my swimsuits, all of my mom's bras, all of the tie strings on my coats and pajamas. Damn cat. She's lucky I loved her even then.

Yeah, I'm pretty sure there was. I was just like, oh great. Another person I can't talk to because they have a weird name.

Yeah but then I'm putting black in the roots and then trying to bleach already kinda dry ends, rather then just putting light blond die on just a teeny bit of the roots and just dipping the ends in black. Being black is SO hard to get out I want to be able to just cut it out if I wanted to change up the pattern or anything. I have been thinking about keeping the purple and then just black bangs for that same kinda reasoning XD

Oh at lest they have you a reason, they don't even try now. This one lady from walgreens (there were some cute little condo's walking distance from there at the time and I hadn't gotten the trailer yet) wanted a fence for her baby, wrote a letter asking if she could put one in. They gave her no response for over a month, so she went ahead and did a little four ft classic white picket fence, and a lovey little show garden in front with fox glove, lilac and snap dragons Oh so cute, anyways like a week after having it installed (yes she had pro's do it all at once) the HOA flipped said she couldn't, told her she had to remove it, and they FINED her. She sold the place and moved out and I believe she tried to take them to court but I never heard the out come

Oh how scary that' a long time for a cat to be out and missing! Plus out the second story oh I'm glad it was fine in the end. The few time Mischievous has gotten out it's normally because the windows in the back room are on a crank and she can move it enough she can slip out. After we figured that out she just is locked out of that room. Luckily we always found her under I very small back porch or in the shrubbery just around it. Though it's frustrating because to her it's a game of hide and seek which she is VERY good at XP

Yeah I've never had animals that ate stuff, and that is suprising to hear of a kitty doing it, Dogs I hear about all the time but that is odd for a cat. My animals don't really even chew there toys, with the exception of a puggles and her rope, but she gets a new one like once a month.

lol that's like a few girls at my work antwanisha or something like that Aalyia is her girlfriend and I was just like "Did your moms not know how to spell? This isn't D&D you can't just through some vowels on the paper and call it good!"

Aakay, well it sounds pretty anyway. Black really suits your hair and complexion. Some people genuinely can't pull it off.

Omg, that's awful. As far as I'm concerned it sounds like she improved the place, yet they made such a big deal out of it. They must've had some extremely large sticks up their asses. But that right there is why I'll forever avoid HOAs. One of the big reasons my parents didn't want an HOA is because we have a boat that we need to park on our property, and most HOAs get butthurt over them because they detract from curb appeal.

Yeah, and we didn't even know. We all just figured someone else in the house knew where she was. I remember asking my dad if he'd seen her and he said no, and I just thought to myself that she must be having an antisocial day because we had a cat at the time who hid most of the time (but was the most loving sweet thing in the world when she wanted to be), and we were used to it.

She doesn't do it anymore, which is great. But when we first got her, omg. You could NEVER forget about leaving a swimsuit hanging on a rack to dry, or you'd come back to it destroyed. She destroyed probably 8-10 swimsuits, and countless bras. I also remember how I used to have this nightgown with lace sewn onto the chest. I woke up to a heavy pressure on my chest and my dumbass kitten EATING the lace off of me while I slept.

Haha, yeah, I don't particularly like a lot of these weird names people are coming out with these days. I've discussed it with some psych professors and they say it's actually correlated with a rise in narcissism in today's society. NOW, I would want to give my kid's special names, but I'm thinking of giving them rare names, not regular names spelled strangely, or made up names. Like, I really love the names Emmanuel, or Sabine, for a girl. And my boy (if I have one) would be Embry.

I'll have to reply to this tonight, but I have to ask your advice real quick. One of russ's friends is being REALLY shady and I'm debating playing the high road or just play devils advocate and just tearing into the guy...

What's he doing? My advice could go either way depending on that. >.>

posting quickly before I head to bed tonight (yeah... early. But, we've been up late most of the week and I also just want to enjoy every moment curled up in bed with him till he goes back on tue)
This week has been awesome. I wish he didn't have to go home on Tuesday. I'll def post more about it in a couple days and such. ^^"

Awh, okie, Ser. I'm glad you're having a good time. We miss ya, but we know what you're up to so we don't mind. :)

umm well it's long story, essentially here you can grow if you have a card, as a patient or as "caregiver" which is your buddy that will help you grow it. Russ was going to get a patient card because I really hate dealing with the black market and shady dealers (I mean who wouldn't?). This guy says that he already had one and that Russ should grow for him and be his "caregiver" and I'm not really cool with growing at my house, I wanted to go to the dispensaries. But whatever not paying for it and if we are 100% legal (well at lest with in state) I'm still not thrilled but if it's quite and it's just for us and this guy .... maybe. But he's being all SUPER pushy about it and trying to tell Russ he should BE one of those black market dealers instead and quit taco bell and then can "share the profit and the work" when I doubt it because he's a to hour drive away with no car. Anyways that should probably be a good amount of background. XD The only reason I am even debating still being nice is because I would like to be legal (my own selfish reason) and him and Russ have been friends for years. I personally have always kinda been rubbed the wrong way this guy and it does seem like whenever something really messed up he always seems to be involved though so yeah :<

No worries Ser I'm glad your finally getting some well deserved cuddle time XD I know I'm cranky without mine

Mmm, it's really not cool that he's trying to push Russ to do something so blatantly illegal.

I think you shouldn't let Russ or yourself get involved with this guy. If Russ is super attached to him, then there's not much you can do about it, tbh. But if he would be willing to listen to you about how nuts this guy is, then maybe you can convince him not to be friends anymore. If not, then at least do what you have to to make sure you guys don't get into something illegal. Pot ain't worth it.

Since you've had a bad vibe about this guy for so long, then you really shouldn't get involved. If my ex was worth anything, it was to show me how awful it is if you let your SO keep bad friends in their lives no matter how long they've known them. You can't control them of course, but if someone is obviously bad...get rid of that shit.

Yeah the thing is, whenever I am around I make it clear that the only way the room (only the room) would happen if it was 100% legit, and the only reason I was even considering it was because he was already legal and at first we just had to wait for him to change paper work, then it was $100 bucks to do that so we give them the hundred then he doesn't want us to use his card "he see's this one chick sometimes" and want's us to wait till he "comes across her" That when I started losing my patience.

The thing is I have gotten rid of this guy like 5 times. When I first met him (I met him first we worked with him) he was okay but I wasn't huge on his particular sense of humor (very jim jeffries but most sexual involving him or racist and he's an old man with white hair .... so yeah just picture that) But we stopped talking to him a few months afterwards, but we still worked for the same company and would run in to him on store opening and such, and then we would stop talking to him again for a while then he would resurface with something messed up in his life where WE HAVE to help him for some reason, and if I don't want to I'm an "ungrateful bitch" because he "bends over backwards" for us when all he does is come up with shady plans like that (that have never once panned out for the record) and maybe given us the same amount of weed we've given him so yeah I'm done I think I'm pretty done. I actually called him on my break and attempted to just address my primary concerns and try to smooth things over " Look I'm not trying to be annoying but I just want a few straight answers to clear up some confusion" and then that's when the "ungrateful bitch" rant came forth at me sooo pffft forget it. Why did I even try to be an adult?

Yeah, don't even try with him Birdie. Is Russ on your side with this at all? I would hope he isn't blind to this guy's stupidity.

He sounds like he's going to end you guys up in the jailhouse if you don't just dump him and refuse to ever speak to him again, and I definitely don't want that to happen to you.

To be honest he's more done then I am. I just would like to grow my own and not deal with the black market in any way. So admittedly is is 100% selfish on me trying to be the one that patches things up between them, but as much as Russ would love it to happen he's not an idiot. I just hate feeling like that bitch wife that's doesn't want her husband to have friends. Plus rare occasions during one of our "settle with me or I stab with my crystal nail file" conversations it seems like he gets the points I'm making and does that thing where he tries to make it seem like that was how the plan was all along. So I feel like if I could get that to work, I wouldn't have to deal with shady people, Russ wouldn't have to pay money for weed, and this guy we also have free weed. Which all around doesn't sound like a bad thing, except for how shady that guy is. SO yeah it's over Russ won't talk to him after heard him call me an "ungrateful bitch" and he just went off basically trying to call what he's done that I need to be so thankful for.

But whatever me and Russ are fixing up the trailer to sell it in the next five years anyway it just means if it's not 100% legal and in dispensaries here then I'm just moving an hour up to Washington XP

ANYWAYS let's go back to talking about kitties XD and names like "Beatrice Gwendolyn" I would LOVE that name, but it's so old fashion that people would just be like "O.o are you like 78 years old?"

Yeah, free weed isn't worth it to get yourself into a situation where you don't know what this guy is going to do.

Sometimes people just have a freaking awful group of friends and you have to play the bad guy. I'm to the point where I can't remember all the stupidity of my ex's friends, but I could tell you some stories, man. IF I had stayed with him in some freak of nature twist of fate, I'd probably have ended up looking like a raging bitch because the guy had one friend I didn't mind, and the rest of them were always being assholes or doing something shady to him. That and when he got involved with NEW people they were irritating.

That's one thing I learned from him, I tell you. If I ever get involved with a guy again whose set of close friends is just utter shit, I'm probably just going to have to leave if I find out soon enough, because it isn't worth it. He was always surrounded by girls who had used him, or wanted to use him, and it wouldn't have been much longer before I would've got dumped for one who convinced him they had a more available vagina. I swear. He was a good guy, but very influenceable, and his guy friends weren't much better. I still have a couple of those I'd rage on if I ever saw them.

I'm sure Oregon isn't far off from legalizing marijuana. Give it time Birdie. ^^

Oh, that is a pretty name. At least it's not Gertrude, yeah? Or Brunhilde or some crud like that. XP

No, but it's not really that its free. It's just that a lot of dealers are like him. I just cannot stand waiting three hours in a parking lot for a dude that's been telling me "I'm on my way, 5 more mins," the whole time. Plus I've never had anything laced or such, but it still is a scary possibility being I don't ever know how many hands it's passes though. But your right still not worth that guy, but Russ and I will probably just do it on our own soon. It was only 3% away from passing last year so exactly we are just going to save up a little in the mean time for it.

Yeah I use that as huge tell tale sign in guys. As soon as the relationship is starting to get serious I honestly start putting guys threw series of tests. One of those tests is "Friends and how we behave around them" The way a guy treats you around his friends is I think a good way to tell if it's one sided. Like one of my friends was introduced as a "friend" not a partner as any kind and more less didn't talk to her around them but would grab her ass and such O.o I was like well that relationship is over he doesn't to tell people your his girlfriend I would say you shouldn't be one. Two days later she found out that he had TWO other "friends" sooo yeah. If he's still willing to treat you like a princess around his buddies that might give him a little friendly shit about it and he just tell's the shut up. That's someone that will always be there for you.

Admittedly Russ has good friends (other then this guy) There mostly guys who think it's hilarious that I can hit a gravity bong with the best of him and his one female friend Destiny, she was super chill and hilarious, and gave us a kitty XD So yeah no issues there. But my Ex, well he wouldn't treat me like crap around his friends, but around MY friends he was a total prick for some reason, and then it was just to the point where I was like, NOPE I'm going to the concert you can stay home, which of course never went well.


LOL I said if I ever changed my full name that would be it and this kid at my work said "so you can be a fairy godmother" I was like XD "I have a new goal in life"

Ahhhh now I'm all sad, lonely, and cranky :/
He went home today when I left for work. I wish it wasn't Tuesday. I didn't want the week to end. It was awesome. We definitely needed it. I feel a little more motivated. Hopefully he will feel it again soon. His motivation went down today when he got home and he tried to make the stuff he made over the weekend, tonight for dinner. He ended up messing it up. We talked about it and part of it might be that it was very relaxed here. He does very good in cooking when he's with me and when we're cooking together especially this past week. We figured it might be because of the relaxed nature of it all and we're cooking together and for us. It's more pressured for him to cook at home because of the varied tastes of everyone in the house.

He made it a point to tell me last night how most of what he knows about cooking. He learned from me. He didn't learn from his mom at home. He is always in the kitchen with me helping when cooking. I have him cooking some stuff with me so he can get some cooking skills with it.


Oooo that would be a cool cat name.

Hi Ser! Sorry for my ranting.

<--- burns food if she's fussy and there for distracted. Birdie must be in a good mood and have energy to be a good cook. Other then that it's out of the freezer and into the oven/microwave. Though this chat is making me hungry for eggs in a window XD

AWWW thats so cute! I'm so happy to hear about this guys good side for a while now. I'm so sorry you guys can't spend more time together it does seem to be wonderful for both of you. I know it doesn't work out for the way your guys lives are to live together. But maybe soon? It seems to be wonderful for both of you and honestly I can't imagine not living with Russ.

lol a fairy god kitty! XD

I would so claim Birdie as my fairy godmother. XD I imagine I'd get something better out of it than a pair of glass slippers. XD

Yeah, one of my friends got a batch of pot laced with something when she was in high school. It made her think that she was being followed around by a purple squirrel who informed her two miles later that she'd lost her shoes two miles ago in a snow ditch.

Ugh, yeah. I've learned my lesson with that one. If they won't even acknowledge the fact that you're their girlfriend amongst people they know, or even public, they're instantly not worth your time. Like seriously. If I have to get your ass behind closed doors just to hold your hand you aren't worth it.

@Ser: I'm glad you guys had this time together. It's convinced me more that it's you guys being apart that makes him into an ass. Doesn't mean I won't spend virtual spikes his way if he keeps going off on you for no reason, though.

@birdie: Yeah, despite all of the crap I've vented about him. He's really a good guy and an awesome lover in general. We really needed the week together like this to just enjoy being with each other and not having to do stuff. It was nice that we had the week so we didn't feel pressured like we had to entertain each other all the time or go out and do so much. We had one day where we were both "playing" a game on my comp. He was at the computer, I was on my bed playing a game on my DS, but I was helping him and told him where I'd like our ship to explore. It was a space age type game, and I was captain.. I was doing my "job" well. :P

Yeah, we were talking about it this weekend my plan for the next couple of years here. I had to resign (drop) from a class and now am taking 9 credits instead of 12. Because of that, I now have to make up the lost 3 credits to meet the required amount when I graduate. Which I could either 1- take classes over Summer. or 2- have an extra semester.
The second option would work better because I can't take classes over the summer because my financial aid won't really cover it. It'd take some from my full year and i need it for the actual year. So, I'll do an extra Semester fall 14. And I think it would only be for a couple classes and I could take them from home. Which would be nice. Sorry if this is a lot of reading ^^"

@Ely: It is us being apart and having to chat virtually that is a bad thing. yeah, I also get easily annoyed having to do online all the time. Especially with how I type a lot. Just now I typed a lot about something and he sends back "sorry, too many words for me" -.- really? I got mad and almost bitched at my computer going "Really? are you lazy? because if it's the second one then kiss my ass because you should see what I have to read every night"
I get it, he's in a bad mood because of his failed cooking attempt, but come on, he sends me long posts of stuff all the time. I still try to read it all.

Mmm, I'll let him have it because he's in a bad mood, but yeah. He shouldn't be neglecting to read it because it's too many words. By the time you have typed "too many words" you probably could have read it. XP

Yeah really.
He was in such an awesome mood when he left this afternoon. But, he tried to cook something close to what we made yesterday and f'd up on it. So, he's been doing shitty. :/

I wish he didn't have to go home. Wish he could stay. especially with how stuff is at his house :/ And tonight it's freezing and windy. This is the coldest it's really been since somepoint last week and it's all windy. Could use him in bed tonight to curl up and keep me warm and feel safe.
Good thing- I slept every night just fine, no problems really. Usually the first night I'm up constantly or just can't fall asleep because I'm not used to him in bed or his snoring. Slept just fine all week. Maybe woke up a couple of times. But, I just fell back asleep afterwards. That and it was nice not having to set an alarm all week except for this morning :/

What was he trying to cook?

Awh, that does really sound like a nice week.

I can understand usually not being able to sleep the first night. I am soooo used to having a huge queen bed to myself that when I have to share a bed in a hotel or anything else I usually can't sleep the first night.