I totally do understand how you're feeling with losing someone close - with losing my twin brother.
Don't ever let anyone tell you that how you're grieving is wrong.
Everyone grieves in their own way.
And in their own time.
Don't rush it, don't push yourself to get over grieving in any time frame.
In a way, 9 years later, I'm still grieving - I can't get myself to go through Carlie's boxes of stuff from when we lived together.
It's still in storage, waiting on a day when I feel up to it.
It is so tough when the ones we love are taken from us without any warning and without a chance to say good bye. I've learned that it's about focusing on the happy memories, even though it can be sad, that helps me on the rough days. But even then, sometimes that is hard.
It has helped me too to talk to people who knew my brother - and share stories about him, to remember the smiles and the laughter and the good times.
And that feeling of wanting to call him -- I still have moments like that "I need to call Carlie and tell him..." And then I have to stop myself from tearing up. And it's been 9 years. It does get better, in time, but there will still be rough days.
I'm totally here for you hon if you ever need someone to talk to privately.
You are not alone! We are all here for you.