Maybe I should really build those victorian, gregorian houses...

: \ Hopefully you get this new job, Long.

aww... already stay with future in laws? That is so nice of them.

I really hope all even if it is just a seasonal job it will help me get in the field. That's the biggest obstacle for me right now.

Do you have to stay out in workplace for all those jobs?

That's awesome that your in-laws are understanding. Also that you are living with them so the bills aren't high.

Right now I'm the one bringing in most of the money, as my husband is doing temp work....>_> Times are tight.

Economy over there still bad?

Yes it still is bad. It's getting better in some areas, but the state I'm in tends to lag behind the rest of the country.

My fiance has been out of work since August. So I know it can be tough, we had to leave our rental in Ny and move to NJ to live with his parents. I haven't been able to get a second job to add to our income. At least he's taking some classes so this student loans are on hold for now.

Oh wow. I know that we've been teetering on moving with my folks, but haven't done so yet. We're kind of leaving that as a last resort kind of thing. Mainly because my mother....she tends to not be as laid back about things and I know she would be breathing down my neck. We had problems getting along with each other when I was growing up.

My husband's mom is really nice, but she couldn't keep us at her place. For one, it is a trailer that is from the late 1960s that is literally caving in on itself. The other, is well her husband. Not that I fear him, but man does he get in some horrible funks around the holidays and is just really not fun to be around. I don't think he would be too happy if we encroached on his space.

awww... I sure hope all things should go well soon. DX

It's one of those things...Xuv...that will take some time. Things will work themselves out in one fashion or another. It's just kind of a waiting game. Husband has put in for positions and waiting to hear back, and in the meantime is using temp work as a way to get by. Once he gets a job, hopefully we can have healthcare again. Until then, it's just kind of a slippery slope and just hoping that nothing else goes horribly wrong.

In the meantime all you really can do is enjoy what you got.

Or options were almost the same. His parents or mine, when I was younger my dad was borderline verbally and emotionally abusive to me and it caused me to become really insecure and introverted. Being away from him i was able to open up and learn to accept myself a little bit more. I still apologise for just about everything and take the blame when rthings go wrong because Im so used to being told that its all my fault. My fiance said that he didn't want t to see me revert back to that.

*sighs* I am glad my dad still got his job.

I feel for you, Long. It's difficult. I've had some pretty nasty experiences growing up that really messed with me emotionally. I can't necessarily blame it all on my parents, but there were moments that didn't help. I've been called some pretty nasty names by them, and at a few different points in my life told by my mother that no one could love me because I was a pig, and didn't care about myself. etc, etc. At a teen that's kind of hurtful. It also didn't help that because of my low self esteem I was very regularly a victim of bullying. Nothing physical, but lots and lots of name calling and making fun of...

I turned out alright in the end and well if I sat and told my husband's story it would pale in comparison....His is just....wow...

wow... that is bad...
I always get scolded for things that I deserve. DX

*hugs everyone*

Yuck. My mom was fine my dad just wanted to be better than everyone at everything including being happy.

hmm... your dad is rather... competitive...

Or just a jerk. Although now that i dont live with them any more, and that my brother has failed at all their expectations, he's been a lot nicer to me even telling me that I did alright.

Oh well, now you live better off, that is what matters. Now and future.

That's kind of how you have to look at it. You learn from your past, but you can't drown yourself in it. If you do, you'll never move on and find your bit of happiness. I spent way too many of my years from 18 until my brother died at 27, trying to figure it out and make sense of it all. Finally, after his death, after many months of contemplation I realized that I spent WAY too much time trying to analyze things.

Izumimi~ *hugs*That is a lost.

Oh gosh. I've been gone the whole day, basically. >.<;

My grandmother's leaving tomorrow. D: There are guests over, and we had work. XD

I'm hungry.

Leaving? where?