>_____< Sorry dude. I don't mean to be a downer. And i'm seriously honoured to have been considered to be a bridesmaid, you know i love you and Joe dearly. But if i don't have a job by March, i don't think i'm gonna make it. And even in saying that, if i only get a job paying approx $15 an hour, i'm still gonna be screwed. I really do feel so sad and guilty and pathetic about it. But i'm being honest, coz it would suck to string you along till the last minute & then say i can't make it. So if you want to choose another bridesmaid i would totally understand.

I know this is what you and Joe want, so you know i think you should do what you both want and not worry about what his mother wants. She's just being forceful and invasive as usual. And Joe's being his normal obeying son self.
This is your big day, think about what you really want chick.

Cool doodles, that's all good. I'll axe the reception in Raro, and all the guests. We'll look at hosting a reception in NZ for all the guests instead. That way it's easier money wise for everybody, and Joe's mum can bring her millions of relatives to that instead. I think that's the best way to settle the whole thing @[email protected];;

Woo! Congrats Nivvy on finally getting the boa! Elusive little fuzzball! XD :heart:

Originally Posted by Nivvy

Cool doodles, that's all good. I'll axe the reception in Raro, and all the guests. We'll look at hosting a reception in NZ for all the guests instead. That way it's easier money wise for everybody, and Joe's mum can bring her millions of relatives to that instead. I think that's the best way to settle the whole thing @[email protected];;

BUT is that what you really want?? Coz it is suppose to be your special day. What's Joe saying about the entire thing?

Thanks Snowberry xD!! Elusive little fuzzball is right hehe


@ Roach
Honestly, I wanted to elope xD!!!! I wanna run away and get married, and just have it with the two of us so we can spoil ourselves rotten. But Joe wants his parents there at least, and blah blah blah. So for me, cutting the guests out - and having us, parents and a few tag alongs is all good. I still want to have Trish there, at least coz she'll be the most gutted about the whole thing, I think? Joe wants Nirai and a couple of other guys. So that's all good with me too.

Gonna have to plan the fricken reception on our own though, without the planner. Which sucks hard. Gonna hafta track down a decent venue here in Aux X__x;;

Originally Posted by Nivvy

@ Roach
Honestly, I wanted to elope xD!!!! I wanna run away and get married, and just have it with the two of us so we can spoil ourselves rotten. But Joe wants his parents there at least, and blah blah blah. So for me, cutting the guests out - and having us, parents and a few tag alongs is all good. I still want to have Trish there, at least coz she'll be the most gutted about the whole thing, I think? Joe wants Nirai and a couple of other guys. So that's all good with me too.

Gonna have to plan the fricken reception on our own though, without the planner. Which sucks hard. Gonna hafta track down a decent venue here in Aux X__x;;

OMG, i wanna do that too! (When i eventually get married) i don't want a fuss, i just want a small wedding. Even if we just do the ceremony, and then catch everyone up! Early honeymoon woot! ^^ :P

Dude, if there is anything i can help with just give me a buzz, you know i'm there. I'll come searching with you. :)
There's some awesome places aye. Try to get private places, then you don't need a liquor license.

Yeahhh, I would have loved to do that too xD!!! Get married, and gap it. Dunno why Joe feels this need to have his family all there. Coz something will upset him, like he'll get ignored by his family like always - and then moan coz it's about his wedding. It will end with 'I shouldn't have invited them' LMFAO! Stupid ass. That's the way it always goes with him and his fams.

All good doodles, i'll let you know. Gotta wait for Sir Slowpoke to make his mind up. He isn't even sure if he wants to can the reception in Raro yet, even though he's agreeing it's easier on us financially lol. I just don't get males. Especially this one. Can't seem to make his own decisions. The Auckland Museum looks pretty good, probably be damn expensive though lol

Yep, family is like that. Especially large families, they're always all up in your face. So glad i don't have a big family. And so glad i've been a bitch all a long, coz i can tell people to get stuffed - It's my wedding!! Lol xD

I think it will be better on everyone financially xDD. Yeah kinda need to make a decision soon, especially if you tend to change plans. Yeah that would be wonderful. I wonder how much it will cost?

Garghh, that's what sucks is that my family is teeeeny tiny. It's all Joe's fams causing all the shit, coz they're so huge xD!!! Dumb me for getting involved with a big family kinda guy. I tell my fams to get stuffed too, funny that dad has never ever questioned me once about my plans for the wedding - and why his partner's fams were excluded. But he was okay with it. Then Joe's mum goes and does her tanty at him. Talk about disrespect for our decision. Oh well, it can rest on her head that she fucked it up for all our other guests - and they have to settle for NZ lol.

It looks like i'll hafta get a quote from them about it. So gotta sort out proper numbers and shit. Something else to add to the to do list. Yayyy. Lol. Joe is just making way more work for me. I told him he has until tonight to finalise his guests list for Raro - and that's it. Everyone else is getting a big fat no in their face lol.

...Everytime I read about Joe's mom, Nivvy, I can't help but think she's a selfish bitch. o.e
EVERY post I read about her...and I don't even know the lady.. .____.

Yep, she does certain things that just make you wanna smack your head against something lol!!! She has her good points, and when we get along - things are absolutely great. It's just that when it comes to her, and her massive family she is incredibly selfish. Although she sees us as selfish for excluding everyone - and not doing her family shit (like after our holiday which woulda been the last rant you read about) X_x

Yeah, I read all of those posts. o.e Had to understand what was being talked about, rofl. xDD
I guess I've just never really heard anything positive about her? LOL. >__<; I do hope you get it all sorted out though, because you deserve to have what YOU want, not what she wants. I don't see how it would be a problem inviting close family & friends, that's how I would want mine. I wouldn't want a ton of people.... maybe for the reception, but that's it. xD

Originally Posted by Nivvy

Garghh, that's what sucks is that my family is teeeeny tiny. It's all Joe's fams causing all the shit, coz they're so huge xD!!! Dumb me for getting involved with a big family kinda guy. I tell my fams to get stuffed too, funny that dad has never ever questioned me once about my plans for the wedding - and why his partner's fams were excluded. But he was okay with it. Then Joe's mum goes and does her tanty at him. Talk about disrespect for our decision. Oh well, it can rest on her head that she fucked it up for all our other guests - and they have to settle for NZ lol.

It looks like i'll hafta get a quote from them about it. So gotta sort out proper numbers and shit. Something else to add to the to do list. Yayyy. Lol. Joe is just making way more work for me. I told him he has until tonight to finalize his guests list for Raro - and that's it. Everyone else is getting a big fat no in their face lol.

It doesn't sound like she cares that she's screwed it up dude really.
Yeah too true. Ahh well fair enough.

Originally Posted by .Simplicity.

Yeah, I read all of those posts. o.e Had to understand what was being talked about, rofl. xDD
I guess I've just never really heard anything positive about her? LOL. >__<; I do hope you get it all sorted out though, because you deserve to have what YOU want, not what she wants. I don't see how it would be a problem inviting close family & friends, that's how I would want mine. I wouldn't want a ton of people.... maybe for the reception, but that's it. xD

Yeah same here.
I guess it would be okay if Joe wanted to invite those people. But it's just like his mum forcing people on them, that they don't' particularly want there.

I'd probably say fu** it by that point and whisk off to get eloped. :s

Yup. I think more people should get eloped. It's kinda about you, not about everyone else lol.

Yeah. XD

And I understand the event also being a bit about family, but not so much that thier going to effect it in a negative manner.

Besides being married by Elvis could be fun. ;DDD

Originally Posted by .Simplicity.

Yeah, I read all of those posts. o.e Had to understand what was being talked about, rofl. xDD
I guess I've just never really heard anything positive about her? LOL. >__<; I do hope you get it all sorted out though, because you deserve to have what YOU want, not what she wants. I don't see how it would be a problem inviting close family & friends, that's how I would want mine. I wouldn't want a ton of people.... maybe for the reception, but that's it. xD

I do that too xD!

She has her positives, but I guess when she acts in a negative way it has such an effect on me - that I go and post about it online xD;; So it's sorta my misrepresentation too. But still, fucking with someone's wedding list - that's huge. She was forcing us into it too, by saying she'd pay for them. That's so totally not the point lol.

Originally Posted by Roachi

It doesn't sound like she cares that she's screwed it up dude really.
Yeah too true. Ahh well fair enough.





Yeah same here.
I guess it would be okay if Joe wanted to invite those people. But it's just like his mum forcing people on them, that they don't' particularly want there.

Welp, I broke the news to the change in wedding plans to dad first. He was great about it, he was pissed at Joe's mum - and said that it is not up to anybody else, what we do with our guest list. He agreed that Joe is unfortunately a yes man to mummy. But he said he was 100% supportive of my decisions.

Broke the news next to Joe's mum, who was perfectly fine about it. Probably because all her millions of relatives will get an invite to our reception in NZ at least. So i'm gonna be an ass and set the reception in Auckland LOL. Fark you pricks who are tryna get a free meal out of us. Only really want people at our reception, who care about us X__x

I couldn't help but feel a deep, angry yearning to yell at her, and tell her our wedding has gone this way thanks to her. But at least it'll be a more intimate affair in Rarotonga. My guest list for the ceremony itself is now sitting at a lovely manageable 10 ^^.



Dang... why didn't I marry you instead Chunsa?

Well I *AM* single.

*eyebrow wiggle*

And I don't think I've said this, but for wedding-hell-or-high water, congrats on your upcoming nuptials!

Originally Posted by Chunsa-chan

Yeah. XD

And I understand the event also being a bit about family, but not so much that their going to effect it in a negative manner.

Besides being married by Elvis could be fun. ;DDD

Yeah, true.
Haha, i wish we could just do that here. :P

Originally Posted by Nivvy

Welp, I broke the news to the change in wedding plans to dad first. He was great about it, he was pissed at Joe's mum - and said that it is not up to anybody else, what we do with our guest list. He agreed that Joe is unfortunately a yes man to mummy. But he said he was 100% supportive of my decisions.

Broke the news next to Joe's mum, who was perfectly fine about it. Probably because all her millions of relatives will get an invite to our reception in NZ at least. So i'm gonna be an ass and set the reception in Auckland LOL. Fark you pricks who are tryna get a free meal out of us. Only really want people at our reception, who care about us X__x

I couldn't help but feel a deep, angry yearning to yell at her, and tell her our wedding has gone this way thanks to her. But at least it'll be a more intimate affair in Rarotonga. My guest list for the ceremony itself is now sitting at a lovely manageable 10 ^^.



Dang... why didn't I marry you instead Chunsa?

Yeah i saw the facebook thingy.
What has Joe got to say about all of this? It's his mum's fault.

Wait, i thought you were having the ceremony here too? So how come you guys aren't just having a normal wedding?? I mean if i were to worry about anybody coming, it would be to the reception, not the ceremony. Coz the reception is where all the money is spent really.

-is majorly confused with what's goin on-
Maybe i read it wrong, i am super tired this morning.

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Never mind re-read it. Ignore me xD.

@Roachy - That's what I was thinking.. o.e

@Nivvy - Ahh, well at least she has..some positives, rofl. xD Just never hear about them, since like you said, ranting is normally not over the best ofthings. XD! Definitely not right of her to want to change up your list though, but eh...at least she was willing to pay? Not the point at all, but if she has to pay for them to go, wouldn't they know? Rofl. xD That'd make me feel highly unwelcome. O__o;;

If i ever get married to Rob. At least both our families are small, we both don't drink - so it will be alcohol free. And everyone knows that what i say goes, coz i'd just tell them all to get stuffed lol. I mean it's my day i'll have it the way i want, with the people that i want. People automatically think "ah wedding, free food and drink, i'm invited aye?". UM no! I don't know why some people assume that they're invited when to be honest they hardly know you, or hardly have anything to do with you. Sarah's having the same problem with her work friends.

But yeah, i'd have my wedding in NZ, because we don't have that kind of money to have it overseas, and it will be a huge inconvenience to my family and his family to have it over there. Nobody will prob come because it will just be to expensive lol. And i wouldn't really want to put that on anybody. And how sad would it be to not have my immediate family and my close friends there? Lol
If i was rich however i might have it overseas and shout everyone the trip over, that would be cool. ^^

@ Roach

You've pinpointed exactly why we're having it in Raro xD! Coz not everybody can afford to come lols. I honestly don't care if my close family or friends or whoever don't come. My own sister isn't even invited now lol. I'm pretty ruthless like that, but it suits me :)

I've never been precious with family and friends, having to attend stuff for me. I spend more time pissed off at them, than anything lol! So the distance is welcomed. Just wish dad and his wife weren't coming now. Mainly his wife :D mwahaha

Originally Posted by .Simplicity.

@Roachy - That's what I was thinking.. o.e

@Nivvy - Ahh, well at least she has..some positives, rofl. xD Just never hear about them, since like you said, ranting is normally not over the best ofthings. XD! Definitely not right of her to want to change up your list though, but eh...at least she was willing to pay? Not the point at all, but if she has to pay for them to go, wouldn't they know? Rofl. xD That'd make me feel highly unwelcome. O__o;;

What she didn't realise, was paying for the other people's meals didn't mean squat. Coz with our guest list numbers, it raised it to the point where we had to find a whole new venue, to fit everybody in. Which meant paying to hire out a venue - and whatever she offered to pay, wouldn't have covered that. But i'm okay with it now, coz her actions have just given me a reason to kick everyone that's useless out xD!!!

In saying that, i've been put in charge of things before - where i've overseen a big group of people, and had to make stern decisions and choices. So i'm not a stranger to it, and i've hardened myself over the years - to the point where it seems like i'm heartless, but just gotta do what ya gotta do @[email protected]!!

How come your sister isn't invited?? It's not like we don't want to come, well speaking for myself lol. I'd want nothing more then to be there, who doesn't want a holiday in raro ya know? And also being there for your friend. It's just i'm being realistic about my affordability. Because when i say i'm broke, i mean it. I don't have back up savings. :(

Yeah but you have to take into consideration that maybe your not all precious with your family or friends, but what about the way they feel for you? People love and care for you, and even though there are some people who are freeloaders, there are people who generally care about you, and want to share this day with you.

Why wouldn't you want your dad there? @@

Coz if I invite her, we have to invite 7 other people lol. Can't invite one person, and not the other.

All the guests who got axed still have the reception to look forward too. Which will be held in NZ. We are still taking our parents and shit to Raro though. A few other people as well, so our really close family members are there at the ceremony still. Our Raro list, is gonna be at about 22 I think?

I don't honestly want dad's wife there. She's not the nicest person X___x;; Especially with how controlling she is. I made fun of dad about it yesterday lols! He was like "Joe's mum sounds like she wears the pants, and Joe's dad has no balls." I just said "That's true, just like you and Brenda!" LMFAO! He replied "I only speak up when something is really getting out of hand, otherwise i've learnt to just keep my mouth shut...yes." bahahaha

Anyways, enough of the wedding. Did you have your job interview?

Halp!! Roachi love.... -.-* Im feeling for a name change!!