Originally Posted by Roachi

But far out woman, if a 25 year old - a girl ... (that's how i see myself) can up and leave her dip shit crazy alcoholic boyfriend, surely a 45 year old can get some balls and leave her asshole controlling boyfriend, and realize her daughter is more important?

I've seen my fair share of abused women and it seems to almost be that they struggle to leave, and even when they do leave they end up finding someone just as horrible to them as the guy before them. Something about their personality....Not to say ALL are like that, but some just kinda get sucked into this cycle of abuse. Couple it with alcoholism and it just makes a really messed up combination. Alcoholics don't deal with change well either...they'll do whatever they can to keep their world constant. How do I know this? My mother in law is a prime example.... *sighs* It's sad to see as she's a sweet woman and my husband knows she's just cutting years off her life.

That sucks about your boyfriend wanting to pour more into other people's problems. I hope you sit down with him and tell him how you feel, before it builds up to the point where it's going to be a struggle to work through. Maybe he doesn't even realize the damage he's doing?

I'm sorry Roachi I've been so busy myself with my own RL drama...I might not of caught the full story...but the one post I quoted up there just really struck a chord. I spent a couple months living in a battered women's shelter to top it off...and it's sad to watch people spiral so out of control. :(

I'm one of those who believe the only one who has the power to make things better is yourself though, and until someone WANTS to get better...it's impossible.

Roachi: Spirit of Phoenix and Spirit of Atlantis for 3900?

Originally Posted by Izumi

I've seen my fair share of abused women and it seems to almost be that they struggle to leave, and even when they do leave they end up finding someone just as horrible to them as the guy before them. Something about their personality....Not to say ALL are like that, but some just kinda get sucked into this cycle of abuse. Couple it with alcoholism and it just makes a really messed up combination. Alcoholics don't deal with change well either...they'll do whatever they can to keep their world constant. How do I know this? My mother in law is a prime example.... *sighs* It's sad to see as she's a sweet woman and my husband knows she's just cutting years off her life.

That sucks about your boyfriend wanting to pour more into other people's problems. I hope you sit down with him and tell him how you feel, before it builds up to the point where it's going to be a struggle to work through. Maybe he doesn't even realize the damage he's doing?

I'm sorry Roachi I've been so busy myself with my own RL drama...I might not of caught the full story...but the one post I quoted up there just really struck a chord. I spent a couple months living in a battered women's shelter to top it off...and it's sad to watch people spiral so out of control. :(

I'm one of those who believe the only one who has the power to make things better is yourself though, and until someone WANTS to get better...it's impossible.

Yeah i think this woman is exactly the same. Attracted to the same sorts of men. Yeah this woman isn't an alcoholic anymore she's been 1 year straight - same time as Rob. I think it's her circumstances that's driving her to drink, i'm afraid she might have a relapse & Rob will fill obliged to pick up the pieces.

Yeah we had a discussion about it. But i decided that Debs needed him more at that point and i should have been more tolerant. Basically i was thinking about my needs first. But he's promised to try to not say something to me or promise something and then forget about it and expect to be forgiven for his lazyness.

Yes i agree hun, and i can honestly say that whilst some points were very valid & we were both in the wrong in some way, I probably shouldn't have judged her so quickly, and got stroppy over the whole situation. Its just this particular thing came up at a bad time, i was already grumpy, so it just made me more irritable and i wasn't thinking rationally about it.

I believe that saying too. There is only so much you can do for someone, they have too be willing to make the changes and make decisions for themselves. I told Rob that, God helps those who help themselves lol. It was cheeky, but it's true.

Originally Posted by Jennifer

Sorry things have been a little funky for you lately. I hope things work themselves out soon.

I have been okay. Schooling, work, reading, a lot of sleeping. I am so excited though. Today was the longest the sun shined! Snow was melting! Today was just awesome. I read a book in the comfort of the warm sun rays beating through the window, at some good food. Just enjoyed the warm day.

Hey, is your mailing the same as the one you gave me so long ago? I haven't got around to writing a new letter, but I would like to send you a cute little Valentine card (I made several for my friends). Let me know if you wouldn't mind me sending you one! :)

Yeah thanks Jen. Oh yeah i forgot to mention i started a new job today as a debt controller. It's pretty full on, but hopefully i get the hang of it. Plus i needa make sure theres no mozzies in my room at 4am waking me up lolol. I was so super tired for my first day!!

Ahh well that's awesome. Your welcome to have our sunshine if you'd like. It's blistering hot and disgusting lol. I can't wait for winter!!

Ahh no it isn't. I will PM you the new one. I moved in with my bf late last year. :) Ohh sounds cute, i'd love that :).

Originally Posted by aphrodite remix

Naw t isn't sucky. Dude I feel ya on the heat. As the temperature rises my patience lowers. Its insane I've cussed out people just from being too hot. Not fair but its true I just have no patience for that, get very frustrated very easily when I'm hot.

I hate that too, when its all hey just wanna have a quick word and that quick word is the better part of 30 min. It just adds to the frustration especially if you're already all I wanna go home its hot and I just want to be with you which is what this situation seems like to me. This woman while I guess I can understand how hard it is to leave someone like that, its still a case of wake up and realize what you really have to lose. Though you may not have had the right to say anything at that moment because you were frustrated you can relate to a point and you're right she needs to prioritize what is really important to her. It isn't your bf's problem and he should take care of home first before trying to save others.

I really don't think you're being selfish at all. I think you're acting as any human would in that situation. You wanted to spend today with your sweetheart and someone else was stealing that time away from you. I think its a fault on his part for not realizing that this was important to you and he should not have gone. He should have just met with his brother and then come back home. If he felt the need to check up on her then really call the cops and have them check on her. If she is truly suicidal then she should be institutionalized which is what the police probably would have done.

On a lighter note I have a scan of your art and started the black and white copy.

Yeah stupid heat ... It honestly plays with your mind. I get hot feet and i don't know why but i feel so angry lol. Like i can feel the rage boiling inside.

Yahh annoying, and normally i could be more patient, its just he does it all the time, says he won't be long and takes ages. Lol
Yeah i guess at the time i was thinking more of myself then of the fact that Debz needed him more then i did at that point. And i blame that on the stupid weather, making me emotional and iritable lol.

Yahh i belive that she needs to make some hard decisions. But it kinda sounds like it's a pattern. And the guy she's with sounds like some kind of crazed stalker. It's gonna be difficult for her, but she needs too either seek outside help. Or get some balls, to make a choice and stick to it. Yahh but that's Rob's nature, he'd give someone the shirt off his back if he had too lol.

I think i was being selfish in this situation. I probably shoulda said something before he left, and maybe we coulda compromised. But i was too angry to even mention it, i just was bitching about debs the whole time. But yeah he does kinda need to not be so full on. Cause some people need more then just a talk and a hug and a hand. They need professional to help them. And i think this is what Debs needs.

Ohh i love it, it looks so much better all blown up like that. Thank you hun <33

Originally Posted by .Simplicity.

That's what I thought. :'D Even if it is BK, management is management and not just given to anyone. :'3 Plus, I love money. @@;;

Oh wow, that sounds pretty awesome. O: Especially if you stay past 3 months! xDD Staff discounts are always the best~ <3 I wish I could get something other than free food for being a crew chief at BK, LOL. xD Just encouraging me to eat unhealthy food. @@; BS. Ahhh, lucky! That's gonna be really nice then I bet, working in a brand spankin' new building, that's really nice to look at I imagine. I'm sure you're gonna love you're job~ :'D

Exactly lol. Yeah who doesn't love money? Hahaha

Yahh, i totally was going through the contract today, sounds awesome.
Just soo tired from my first day, i could eat and go to sleep seriously xDD. It's a lot too take in and they want me on the phones by thursday. Arrrgh, so scary to think about. Especially when a lot from today kinda went over my head haha.

Originally Posted by aphrodite remix

Morning everyone

Afternoon love <3 :)

Originally Posted by Roxxxy

Roachi: Spirit of Phoenix and Spirit of Atlantis for 3900?

Ahh well the sale ended yesterday, i forgot to mention it was NZST. But since that was my fault, i'll give you the discount. And take that sale thingy down lol <3

Only idiots don't love money. >w>
Psh, I love money. xD /hoards it away in safe/

So did you like it?! :'D I'm sure you'll be all prepared and ready for em' though, and if not, I'm sure they'd have someone close by to help if you needed it, yeah? ^^
LOL, how'd you let it all go over your head? xD <3

Exactly lolol.

I liked it yes, but i feel like i'm not getting appropriate training. I'm so use to such structured training. That having someone just be like, you do this this and this (even though i'm writing it down and what not) it's just a bit more difficult then how i've previously been trained. But i'm sure i'll get there. It helps if you don't go to bed at 11pm and then get up at 4am coz stupid mozzies are bothering you and your unable to go back to sleep for the next 2 hours lol. I was super tired all day, that's why it went over my head. I had to really strain to remain alert lol.

I like it though, i think once i'm familiar with it and i got it set out the way i like, and know what needs to be done etc, i'll be fine. I work very well alone.

Rofl, ugh, if I was woke up before MY first day of work by someone, they'd be a bloody pulp, LOL. xD I can see where that could be different though. I personally learn more by doing after I watch, then go by trial and error. Just seems to work the best so far.. I definitely can't just take orders from someone and learn though, haha. xD Even with notes, it's fail. >w>

I bet you'll be just fine then~ :'D Phone calls are normally an alone type of thing, haha. :P

Yahh and its not like i could get up and turn on the light to find the bugger & bash it's head in. I had to just deal with it. I needa find my insect repellent i think.

Yah it's definitely gonna be trial and error lol. Yahh i got a crapload of notes, and its just like whaaa ... I wanna restart my brain that's how tired and overloaded it feels today lol.

Haha yeah i meant that, i hate people watching over you, and listening to your calls lol. And that's what they'll be doin at first.

Anyways, i'm gonna get going, i got dinner to do and dishes and what not.. :)

Wait, what are mozzies? A bug? xDD I thought you were referring to your dude, LOL. XD!! (Thought you were just callin' him names. >w> )

Did you work a really long shift today? o: I'm sure it'll get better though, all in due time. xD Def. gonna be annoying I bet having them stand over you, but at least they'll be there to help until you get it all down. :"D

And alrighty, ttyl Roachy. <3

Thank you :D That was really nice!
But I'm sad I missed it, I would have bought more.

So on to more happier subjects...

Anyone hear anything about a Vday event this year? I haven't seen anything yet. I'm hoping so though. Hopefully it will start before I have to start work at noon, so I can have a peak before hand. I'll cross my fingers...!

Izumi- I was hoping personally it would have started already. DX
I love the events, I just don't like how they keep getting pushed to the brink of the holiday. XD;;;

(IMO the holiday events should be before/during the holiday, not during/after...)
Side note- Only two hours left to v-day here, Hope everyone had(s) a LOVELY day, single, not single, happy, or sad.


(If an event does happen, I'll most likely start particpating AFTER V-day has ended for me.. XD;;; )

Aww happy Vday to you Chunsa!!

I'm texting hubby to see if he even wants to chance getting reservations anywhere for dinner since my money from paypal has posted. LOL. I never have tried to go out on vday, but I imagine it is nuts.

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY EVERYBODY <3

I hope you all had/have a fantastic day ^^! Vday was yesterday for us NZers. It's been my fav Vday so far =) Finally, I put together a basic little table presentation for partner. We went out to an Italian Restaurant, and then came home for my dairy-free brownie, and a bottle of grape juice haha.

Nivvy, would you possibly take an offer of 3.5k for your raven headwings? xD

Too low for me dear xD!

Dove and Raven headwings- both for 3500? from nivvi

Too low for me dear =) Going to go by the Price Guide for the head wings.

okie

Good luck ^^! Hope you find a seller soon <3

Originally Posted by .Simplicity.

Wait, what are mozzies? A bug? xDD I thought you were referring to your dude, LOL. XD!! (Thought you were just callin' him names. >w> )

Did you work a really long shift today? o: I'm sure it'll get better though, all in due time. xD Def. gonna be annoying I bet having them stand over you, but at least they'll be there to help until you get it all down. :"D

And alrighty, ttyl Roachy. <3

Lol yeah mosquitoes xD. Hahaha, yeah he's the daddy mozzy LOLOL.
Nah not a long shift a normal 8 hour day, it's just lots to take in on the first day. Yeh, hopefully all goes well when i get on the phones tomorrow.

Originally Posted by Roxxxy

Thank you :D That was really nice!
But I'm sad I missed it, I would have bought more.

Well maybe next time sweets <3
Thank you ^^

Originally Posted by Nivvy

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY EVERYBODY <3

I hope you all had/have a fantastic day ^^! Vday was yesterday for us NZers. It's been my fav Vday so far =) Finally, I put together a basic little table presentation for partner. We went out to an Italian Restaurant, and then came home for my dairy-free brownie, and a bottle of grape juice haha.

Happy vday buddy. Glad to hear you had a good one!! Rob and i celebrated on sunday, coz it was his day off his diet. And becoz well i was too wasted monday to celebrate lol. We just had takeaways on the beach, it was nice. :)


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And happy vday to everyone else. <33
Unfortunately i don't think i'll have the time for the vday event, unless it runs over the weekend. I'm super tired and lookin forward to an early night tonight. ^^

Originally Posted by Roachi

Lol yeah mosquitoes xD. Hahaha, yeah he's the daddy mozzy LOLOL.
Nah not a long shift a normal 8 hour day, it's just lots to take in on the first day. Yeh, hopefully all goes well when i get on the phones tomorrow.




Well maybe next time sweets <3
Thank you ^^





Happy vday buddy. Glad to hear you had a good one!! Rob and i celebrated on sunday, coz it was his day off his diet. And becoz well i was too wasted monday to celebrate lol. We just had takeaways on the beach, it was nice. :)


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And happy vday to everyone else. <33
Unfortunately i don't think i'll have the time for the vday event, unless it runs over the weekend. I'm super tired and lookin forward to an early night tonight. ^^

o0o0o nice one <333 Beach and takeaways sounds lovely ^^! Fair enough celebrating Vday the day before too, that's a good idea. Next year i'm thinking about celebrating it the day after, coz all the specials will be on - for Vday gifts xD!!!

I hope you have a fab day tomorrow at work :D

LOL true dude, just like xmas day, go shopping on boxing day instead xDD.
Ahh work has been good, i'm on the phones by myself now. I haven't got a angry customer yet. But i'm sure i will soon.

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On another note, totally loving the new trading system!!! >____<

Rooooachi

stop being so busy you!

/pokes head in/

Hey Roachy, Nivvy, and alll~ :'D <3

@Mixy - Sorry >___< lol. I've got a little free time now before i have to make dindins. And then, tomorrow i gotta go to hamilton for Rob's nephews bday. :)

-waves too shanny-

Hows everyone doin??