Ohh i see, well if you don't mind sharing, i don't mind lending an ear :).
At least your grown up about it - i was kinda a bit trashy when my ex and i broke up haha. But not that bad, just stating the facts really, which were a bit harsh i guess.

yeah the facts can get pretty harsh on their own. I just sent her a "trash" e-mail to get it out of my system so I could move on and heal I figure the only one who deserved to know what I really thought of her, was her right?

Yep indeed.
Yeah i sent a letter/email like that. But the fact is, it goes in one ear and out the other. They don't care about what you have to say, or the pain and suffering they've caused you. Those types of people will never take responsibility for their actions. You know my ex - tryed to get back with me. And when i told him no - that we had achieved more apart then we ever did together. He started a guilt trip on me, about how he's a sucker and this always happens to him blablabla. And it's like... wtf? Seriously - your the one who was too lazy to go and get a job and sort out your issues, and i carried you for 1.5 years, and im the one to blame because i had, had enough and walked away? Mmm okay sure lol. And he didn't want to be just friends - it was all or nothing.

So now i don't even talk to him. Why waste my breath lol.
I just vent it all in the letters thread, or my diary.

Ah... yeah... I didn't really care if she read it.

Well I couldn't find work either... but she was playing mind games with me and it was messing with my depression really bad so it was hard to stay confident =/

I hate the "female mind games" they confuse me so badly...

Well.. i can tell you this. To be in a position where you are carrying someone financially and never able to get ahead or make a future for yourself is very depressing, especially when your 27 and looking to settle down. I myself got into a phase where i just wanted to die. And he wasn't helping with anything. It would have been okay if he stayed home, cleaned the house, made dinner - something. But he didn't do any of that. He was studying stupid things he would never use. Using all the gas, and asking for things he couldn't pay for - and i was guilted into buying for him. He had huge depression and anxiety issues he never sought help for. You gotta realize that, relationships are 50/50 and yes you go through hard times. But you gotta think about more then just yourself. Which my ex failed to do. It was all about him - always. He never saw the struggle i was dealing with.
On top of that, he never even tryed looking for a job. The one time he did, he got the job - and only went for one day. So you can understand my plight lol.

Well yeah, males play those games too believe me lol. But yeah, some people need to just grow the F up lol.

Anyway better get back to work. I can hear the phones ringing lol

One day? Gosh I've been job searching for 3 years... =/ I would NOT quit after one day...

I know what you mean... I had cleaned around the house a bit while she worked, doing most of the dishes and 90% of the cooking. I also walked her home part/most of the way quite often because she got home late. (Mind you it was freezing and I do very badly in cold weather)

Yup, the thing is he has the capacity to be something great but is too lazy lol.
Oh well at least you were helping. Is that why you guys brokeup? Cause of you not working?

Partly... except for her sleeping with another man and then leaving me for him yeah...

Oh. Okay ... i have many things to say to that lol. But i won't haha.
Im really sorry to hear that. I hate cheating scum bags. Especially married ones!!

Yeah... I know the feeling. Sad thing is... I offered to forgive her and move on.

Oh no you didn't!

yup... both affairs she had during the marriage. Forgave the first one and she said no to the second.

What she had two affairs?

cheating is a hurtful thing to do.

How much for the Ink blott x2?

Edit: Hello Roachi

lol, Vic's edit.

Lol I was thinking hi at first but I didnt want to forget the CI spelling
So yea lol

i needed that laugh, thanks, Vic.
*hugs*

Hehe
Your very welcome
Glad I can help

@ Roachi - Yeah. But punishment was put in order and then we moved on.
I guess I loved her too much to let go of her... sad but grateful she had a miscarriage of my child...

I feel sorry for her brother though... as he has to watch her do all these shameful things... :( he's the one who suffered the most in the end... so really my only connection to her will be through him, as he is still my friend.

@ Hummy - Yes it does hurt... a lot... especially when their wedding vow claims eternal loyalty...

Originally Posted by Vickyll3

How much for the Ink blott x2?

Edit: Hello Roachi

Haha hello hun :)
Ehhh i dunno 3k ??

Originally Posted by The Wandering Poet

@ Roachi - Yeah. But punishment was put in order and then we moved on.
I guess I loved her too much to let go of her... sad but grateful she had a miscarriage of my child...

I feel sorry for her brother though... as he has to watch her do all these shameful things... :( he's the one who suffered the most in the end... so really my only connection to her will be through him, as he is still my friend.

@ Hummy - Yes it does hurt... a lot... especially when their wedding vow claims eternal loyalty...

Hmm its understandable. For me i couldn't forgive, it's a huge betrayal, i'd never be able to look at them the same or feel for them the same again. I had a bf i was with for 2 years, who didn't physically cheat but had been talking to other woman as if he wasn't in a relationship. I ended that right there and then. But i know it's hard to let go. But you deserve so much better!! To be honest god had his hand in that, everything happens for a reason.

Hmm sad. Oh well she's only got herself to blame for the train wreck that is her life.

True I deserve better. I know that now. I need someone who is loyal till death and is incapable of lies and deceit... or at least really bad at it...
To be honest... part of it was probably my depression... but she had told me that even if I couldn't find work she would be happy with me even in a homeless shelter. But I think moving out of my parent's and down to her home city opened her options of physical relationships... which was bad.

Part of her reasoning of me being the "bad guy" was that I wasn't reacting to her social cues (for intimacy/flirting)... which I had told her 5 years ago I might have a social disorder =.=

Yeah, i need someone like that too. It's really sad because even if you got into another relationship, you've got major insecurities and you end up stuffing that up because your too suspicious. Been there done that lol.
It doesn't really matter where she was, or who she was with. She took vows. Her surroundings shouldn't have mattered to her. I mean when your married or even in a relationship - you don't open yourself up to other opportunities in my opinion.

What does that mean? Like you weren't touching her n stuff in public? A lot of guys have this issue aye. But it can sometimes be a huge thing for a girl. She likes to know that her man adores her ya know? Lol

Not that... she didn't feel we did "stuff" enough... =.= isn't it usually the guy who's supposed to be complaining about that?

I was perfectly fine with being lovey in public to an extent. There are rules to PDA after all yknow?

@Roachi xDD probably ? :X but ish yummy~!