It's somehow scary when people make some ugly jokes... what's the matter with this world today? Some people are so stupid, making fun on other who are suffering... >_<

Where did she annoy you? On msn, icq oder something like that? Or here on mene? And how could she know about your grandma? I don't get it... o_O

Anywhy... keep cool... it's just some silly little girl with a strange sense of humor... >_>

Profile messages on here, I've been talking to someone through profile messages since Christmas and she messaged me saying hi so because she seemed like a newbie I asked her if she needed any help with anything. I reported her because I asked her nicely to leave me alone and she didn't and a mod has removed her messages and she's said sorry but I've put her on my ignore list and that is where she is staying.

Oh... here on mene... I didn't think that there are people like that... this forum seamed always nice and I thought there are also only nice people on here... x_x
Dear me... I'm really naive... xD"

But I think you did the right thing... it's very rude from her saying such things and sorry isn't nearly as much needed to make that up... >_>

Some people live in their own little dream world.
She may actually believe what she wrote, but that doesn't make it real.

I had a newbie-appearing person who kept putting messages in my profile. She would never chat in the threads. I finally just started ignoring her, and she eventually went away.

Most people are, I only have 3 people on my ignore list and one of them is just because I couldn't take the text speak any longer :XD.

She's leaving me alone now.

I think I'm going to be a bit angry at my Grandma's funeral. My mum has been ringing a lot of people I've never heard of before that are related to my Grandma but haven't bothered with her for like 22 years and I just know it's going to piss me off when they're there pretending they gave a shit when they couldn't even be bothered to call her even once in 22 years, some longer that my mum hasn't seen since she was little. And I know they're going to pretend they give a crap about me when before today they didn't even know I existed. -_-

Take a deep breath, Jeanie, and let the anger go.
The only thing you need to think about at the funeral is your Grandmother, your Mother and Father, and your brother. Let the rest of it go. You need to make this a positive experience that you will remember without regret.

I'm sorry, that sounded preachy...

No that helped, I have some relaxation music and a thing on my DS that talks you through mediation so I might try and squeeze that in before the funeral. It's not going to be for a couple of weeks though because her niece is in Germany next week and the earliest they could do it was Friday morning anyway and my mum doesn't want it in the morning.

We need to pick some music and stuff. I'm going with mum on Tuesday to pick the plot where they're going to bury her because my dad needs to go to work because his firm doesn't give any paid days off. We're going to put some flowers on my Great-Grandma's grave too.

My mum has put the cup I gave her that says "Worlds greatest mum" in the cupboard and said she doesn't want to use it any more.

Dear me... I can understand how you feel... at my dad's funeral (which wasn't a funeral at all, just some kind of requiem, because he wasn't buried, he was cremated) there were also many people I didn't know, but they were former work mates or friends he went sailing with (oh, btw, we played "I am sailing"... I can't hear this song anymore... pick some music you'll not here anywhere by chance!)...
I had it "enjoyed" more if there were only the closest relatives...

But I don't get it... Why for heavens sake doesn't want your mother to use this cup anymore?! x_x
That would be like... don't know... if my mother would put my fathers urn in storeroom... o_O

I think she thinks about Grandma when she reads it or something, she's buried all her mothers day teddies with 'special mum' t-shirts, I get her one every mothers day now they're buried under the regular teddies on top of her monitor.

I'm sure that will be a short-term thing. It's one way she is dealing with her grief.
Over time, the pain will lessen, and then you can start getting her the "World's Greatest Mum" stuff again. Right now, she's thinking that only *her* mother is the world's greatest, and not thinking about how that may make you feel. That will change over time.

She's kind of jumping through all those different phases, she was angry at Grandma earlier because she feels guilty she died at the hospital after she'd asked to come home, they were going to let her come home to die today after the cancer specialist had seen her because if we'd brought her home before then the Macmillan nurses wouldn't have helped us at with her so she would have died in so much more pain but when they told her she had cancer she just gave up. I mean she didn't really have much of a choice but she did make it come a bit sooner because she refused to eat or drink and told my mum to go away that she was sick of her. Then mum went to her house and got all her post and rang Grandma's bank and started crying because she didn't know her 5 digit PIN code. Grandma probably didn't know her 5 digit PIN code, she had all her credit card PIN numbers written on the sleeve things where her card was in her little card wallet thing. The most unsafe thing she could possibly do.

I don't know what I can do for her. All I'm doing at the moment is hugging her loads.

Yup. Lots of hugs.

Lots of hugs for you too! <hugs>

Jeanie, there isn't really anything you could do... I know this feeling of helplessness and I hated it too, but you have to go through this and stop believing that you could do something for her... it's not your guilt that she feels bad... I think it's a lot of help if you just hug her much... you do fine, don't worry about making her feel better, because that isn't something you could do...
She has to go through this, even if it breaks your heart...

I'm going to bed now... wish you both a good night... *hugs both of you*
Even if the topic of our talk is sad, I really like talking with you two! ^^

Aw crap, I just found the birthday card she gave me last year and now I'm crying.

I'm gonna have to go to bed soon as well, it's almost 2am.

Ok, I think I'm all right now.

It's a good thing I don't wear mascara. :XD

Sorry I keep filling the thread with sadness. :sweat:

Just keep talking as much as you need to, Jeanie. I know that it helps.
Goodnight.

Goodnight to you also, Aylin! It's been nice chatting with you also.

You guys are awesome, thank you :hug:

I keep talking to like 5 people about it, you guys, BSW (through profile messages), Johnny and my friend since primary whose granddad died a few weeks ago in the same hospital as my Grandma.

Anybody you are comfortable with. It can only help.

My Uncle is here now.

When my friends Granddad died we took her to see The Hangover so she asked if I wanted to go out, I haven't decided whether I want to or not.

Jeanie, I'm glad if we can help you a little, so it's no big deal... ^^
And we both know how it is to loose someone, so we know how you are feeling... =(
I believe that people who hadn't experienced a loss can't really help, because they don't understand your feelings as good as someone who had made the experience!
That's at least what I saw when I needed someone to talk to...

Oh, and I'm also sorry for your friend... I guess she understands you best then!


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Jeanie, it depends on how you feel! Of course it's something which distracts you from your sad situation, but you shouldn't have to force yourself to go!

I really appreciate it you guys.

I'm goin to have to go for a little while, dads back from work and wants me to make him a brew.

My Dad's friend has died.

Dear me! Your dad's friend died too?! What's the matter with all the people dying? x_x
That's really bad... *sigh*

We saw him in the shop a few weeks ago, he told him then that he had cancer and was terminal. My Dad is going to his funeral on Monday then going to register my Grandma as dead after it. -_- My Dad is running out of living friends.

It's hard to comfort others when you are hurting yourself.
I hope that your Mom and Dad can get through this. They're lucky they have a caring daughter!

Mum had a bit of a go at me before, I bought Grandma a Poirot DVD for her birthday but she ended up being in the hospital for her birthday so I decided to get her something else that wouldn't be useless in hospital and left that at Uni when I came back for her birthday, long story short I didn't manage to ever give it to her because she lost interest in TV and things and when mum saw it on the table yesterday it upset her because I hadn't managed to give it to her and she used to love watching Poirot so I was going to bring it back upstairs so she couldn't see it and get upset again and she took it off me and told me not to take it away.

I feel bad for my cousin, he had to go home and tell his 5 year old and 2 year old boys that Grandma had died. They wanted to come with him to see her that day that she died, its probably really good that he told them no because she died while he was still on his way down because it takes him an hour to drive down.

Your girlie time of the month really couldn't care less whether its a good time for it or not could it. *curls into a ball* I hate being a girl sometimes.

To top it all off, then you also have to deal with that! It also screws with your emotions.
Take a bunch of Ibuprofen and a heating pad, and a cool class of iced tea.

Find your favorite book, and sit and lose yourself in it for awhile.