I agree that it's important to find your partner attractive, but I personally think that personality is more important, especially with the rise in relationships started over the internet. It's sort of like what John Lennon and Yoko Ono were trying to say when they spent an entire press conference under a white blanket: the only way to have total communication is without seeing another person's appearance. That way, the only thing you've got to judge them on is their words. And granted, people don't always say what they mean or mean what they say, but it's better than judging someone on something they were born with and can't change without surgery.

The thing is, even the most attractive person can become ugly over time if they've got a rotten enough personality, and the most homely can become beautiful, like you said Seiki, if they've got personality traits that are appealing. It's all in the eyes of the beholder. :3

I was just stating that on some level, everyone requires that there be some kind of physical attraction of some kind of else why be interested? This is strictly speaking on physical relationships. Relationships that are started online on sites like Gaia or Mene are different because you do have that option to learn who people are through what they say or act like. But when seeing someone in person there has to be some kind of physical aspect of that person that attracts you or why would you bother saying anything or initiating any kind of communication. There's always an incentive to interact with others is what I'm getting at I guess.

Originally Posted by Seiki Nova

Wow. I totally skipped that whole conversation haha.

I think the problem with people in general, is even if they try not to base a relationship solely on the physical attractiveness of another person, everyone has the tendency to judge on first appearances. Its unfortunate that people are as shallow as they are, but the reality of the matter is that you have to find something physically attractive on another person to create that initial draw. I have seen several people with traits that society in general would call ugly that have wonderfully attractive features on them. Plain doesn't have to be boring, just like size doesn't have to be healthy.

On the other hand though, I think that people have the ability to meet someone who they find unattractive in many ways and learn to find physical traits in that person that make them more attracted to them. Sometimes a smell is more attractive than a look, or the type of skin or their skin color. Sometimes its the feeling that a person's eyes give you, or how they can reassure you with a smile.

That's so true Seiki. I actually agree with that. Whenever i've had an ad on a dating site or something to that effect. I've always put "must have some mutual attraction". Meaning i'm not shallow, but there has to be something that gives me that vibe that your worth possibly getting to know. If someone doesn't give you that spark, i don't think it's really worth pursuing. Because your always going to feel like something is missing or isn't right.

@Seiki- And I agree with that completely! I guess what I was getting at is that physical attraction can be developed (especially in real life, which I neglected to mention), and isn't necessarily the most important aspect of a relationship. But yes, it's totally important to find your romantic partner physically attractive.

There's this guy at the restaurant that I haven't said more than five words to but I'm told "really likes me" and "I should go out with."

<<,, And I'm just like, He doesn't know me. It's really nice that he thinks I'm pretty and interprets that to mean that we would get along well, but I'm kind of looking for something a bit more solid than that.


In any case, can you guys get me out of my obligations for today. All I want to do is write all day.

Cami, depends on what your obligations are :yes:

All I'm doing is going to a cards and conversations event, and maybe brunch though at this point it doesn't look like it (yay). It should just be fun stuff, but I really, really don't feel like doing it. I've been out with friends almost all of my time this past week, and all I want is some me time. I'd just feel bad for canceling, though, when we've planned to do this for weeks.

Well if you're not doing brunch, then you have that extra time to yourself. Maybe you can just let your friends know that you need to be excused a bit earlier and then you'll have more time for you?

Personally, I belive that if you like who someone is and want to be with them, then your liking for them tends to draw out an attraction to them. Makes me think of how you care about someone so much, that you ignore their flaws and enjoy the good things that they do have to offer.

Thats one reason I am rather strongly against online relationships. You can never truly know someone until you've interacted with them in person multiple times and met their friends and what not. It really says something about a person and who they are. You learn far more just from observing someone in person, from seeing what they have to say online, when they could be acting like a completely different person.

But yes, I think that physical attraction is important in a relationship, because its hard to really be happy with someone if you aren't physcially attracted to them on some field. Its kind of important if you want to be more physically close. If you aren't attracted to how someone looks, then their wont be much spark in your relationship.

Bluntly, the way I see it, if you're going to be with someone in a romantic relationship, at some point, you're going to end up getting intimate. Now, with that in mind, if you can't imagine making out with said someone without going "...no, just no," that's not going to work out. So, sure, appearances may not be everything, but it certainly does matter to some extent.

Exaaactly
You got to be content with people close to them, which requires a decent attraction

updated. sorry about the wait, got a little distracted earlier.

Whoo! Yay better score then last time, that's what i like to see :)
And congrats to Magi. I actually think you owned the last round, but this round was pretty good too :)

I'm glad there's no rant, then. :> *hugs Seiki*

Mann, I love reading everyone's rates. >w>

I'm sorry to see you go winter dear T.T

Interesting challenge though, I think this challenge is much easier then the last ^.^

Very interesting outfit, Bri, though I wish you had more of that ivory in your mid section.

lol I had liked the background, too, for my entry, but someone told me that it looked weird and too crowded with it, and I kept getting told the peacock regalia was weird since the painting was circles. ><;; Bummer, but I was about in the middle again. Haha. I am mediocure, and thats good enough for me! 8D;;

Congrats, Magi! Was a very creative and lovely avi. :]

Sorry to see you go, Windy. :'(

Eliminated. o-o"

Ohwell.
More gold for other stuff, I guess.
:]

Good luck to the rest of the contestants. :]

Grats for making it through the next round Su :)
And yes im sorry to see windy go too *snuggles windy*

Same to you, Roachi. ^^

S'ohkay. :]

Goodluck to the rest of the contestants! :]

-Snugs Windy- c: <3

And thanks, Suo/Roachi~ <3 :'D
/Goes off to work on the next round ;w;

CONGRATS MAGI, *snuggles windy*.

I LUFF YOU ALL, there were some DA-YUMMM fein avatars in the round. GOODLUCKFORNEXTROUND!
:heart:

Originally Posted by Cami

Very interesting outfit, Bri, though I wish you had more of that ivory in your mid section.

Thanks, Cami. :3 And yeah, I was having a dilemma about that, too. I was considering taking off the skirt (it's the one from the v-day '10 event). If you're still around, tell me what you think?

Hmm interesting theme this round *runs off to find her lab coat*