Okay, so... long story very, very short, my dad walked in on me giving my boyfriend a hand job.
(That was way past painful to type. Gah. I'd edit my old topic to make this, but I'm still looking for advice, and they're completely different subjects.)
(I'm not sure how I missed hearing him. Our stairs are creak-tastic and I've NEVER been able to keep them from being creak-tastic in all my years of living there.)
Anyway... Dad called me downstairs and after confirming that no, we in fact have not had sex, and informing us that we are NO LONGER allowed in my room, he told me that either I or him have to tell my mom. So... how do I tell her? :gonk: Any ideas on how to bring it up? I don't think she'll be too upset, just... I'm scared to tell her.
x____x It is so scaryyyyy.

"hey mom, at least i can't get pregnant that way!"

:'D?


but seriously, how old are you? parents will be more likely to understand if you're older, and have been dating him for a good while. it's going to be aggravating and it's going to be painful
but better you tell her than your dad.

I always lock the door when I do stuff like that, so there's no chance of any mishaps. I once gave my boyfriend a handjob with like five other people in the house. So much going on that we just snuck off to another room and locked the door. Only one person noticed we were gone. XD Anyways, if you're going to do that again, I suggest doing it at his house with the door locked. In my opinion, I don't think any type of sexual stuff is anyone else's business if you don't want to tell them. He really shouldn't be forcing you to tell your mom. It's not like you're going to get pregnant (unless you were extremely careless) and it's not like you even went all the way and had sex. It's about the most innocent sexual thing you could do. I do think it's best that people wait until they're eighteen or so though so that they have the fact that they're an adult to back them up on this sort of thing though. What is the worst thing that will happen if you don't tell your mom about this? Maybe you should talk to him and tell him that you don't feel that your sex life is anyone else's business.

Let him tell her and forget about it. If she brings it up just act like she asked you a stupid question and use one word replies. So? And? Whatever. Riiight. Thats how I use to deal with my mom. Use to frustrate her to no end. Come to think of it I still deal with my mom the same way. Attitude is optional it never helps but it's always fun.

Vicki: Depending on age, it may be a very different situation. Sure when you're an adult then it's not anyone else's business, but unfortunately for a minor still living under their parent's roof...

I would say that you just need to be honest and to the point. Chances are that they are worried and if you just straight up explain that you aren't having sex and that you will respect the rule that you two can't be in your room alone anymore, then it should work out.

Unlike Grim, I would suggest not being evasive or having an attitude about it. That just will end up making everyone upset.

"Mom, I'm sorry I have to tell you this, but dad knows, and he said I should tell you."

Don't let your dad tell her. It will go better if you tell her yourself. Well, unless your mom has a temper, then let your dad deal with it, but ask him to tell her that you said you were sorry. Even if you're not, it will make her more likely to forgive you.

I'm sorry. x______x I've had a few VERY close calls myself. I sympathize.

If your mom isn't the type who is insane about premarital sex, then you'll be fine. xD Just find a time when the two of you can talk without interruption and be like 'Hey Mom, we need to talk.' At least then she'll be expecting it. xD
And the more you can assure her that you're not having sex (and if you intend to, you're going to be safe, which I'm absolutely sure you are, right?) the better.

In my opinion i think it would be best to talk to your mother yourself. That way you don't end up with some angry lecture brought on by the way your father would tell it to her. and also this way at least she'd be hearing it from you, and you could tell her in a way that won't cause more problems brought on by your dad saying it a certain way that would harm you. all i can offer you is good luck. and hopefully things blow over soon.

i don't know how this would be with my own family since i'm 20 and my dad respects the closed door rule and doesnt barge into my room when my boyfriend and i are in there. (since i'm 20 well... ever since i was 18 my parents dropped the checking up on me which was cool since i was around 19 when i met my boyfriend)
i remember one of the few close calls was when my boyfriend and i had off of school for a break and were at my house alone, and one of my brothers came over unannounced. of course nothing wrong considering... well... not a parent.
other than that, not much of an issue.

Well, it's pretty embarrassing but, I'm sure your mom will be relived to know that you aren't actually having sex. I would want my daughter to tell me for my peace of mind. I know it's going to be tough but, just find the right time and tell her and be sure she understands that you aren't having sex.

I agree with what Fabby said, that's how I would deal with it in my own house.
Maybe you could.. go out for tea or coffee, maybe ice cream? That way, you're not interrupted by anyone in your family, and you can just talk it out and let everything out over ice cream. ^^