Well, you see, i like this guy. He's been my friend for almost 9 or 10 months now and i've liked him for 8. And my feelings have gotten so strong i think i love him. Does anyone else know what i mean? It's hard to explain haha. (more likely because i cant get him off my mind lol.) ^-^"

Things to talk about in this thread: someone you like and/or love.

or things around those lines lol.



P.S. IF YOU ARE GOING TO POST IN HERE BE NICE ABOUT IT!!!! jeezzz...

I cannot say it has actually happened to me but I know what you mean. Now the question is are you going to tell him or not?

I have told him. The thing is though is that when i told him he wasnt looking for a relationship at the time. Now, he's looking for one again but i'm afraid to say it again and dont know why. Everytime i try my heart starts pounding and i get too nervous. :sweat:

I know what you are talking about. I actually thought I loved this boy. But he ended up breaking my heart. I believe you are deeply in like. Not love. (No offense, but that is just my personal opinion due to past experiences.)

You should try telling him again. If he says yes, then good for you. If not, then you can now move on with your life.

I agree with Summers wholeheartedly. I don't think you can feel love for this boy until you've actually started dating him. Because trust me, sometimes you think you're in love with a person you've been good friends with for a long time, but it could end up that you two just aren't compatible in a romantic relationship. +Is talking from experience.+
So keep your eyes open and don't fall into a trap you've set for yourself that could get you severely hurt.
Go ahead and tell him you really wanna try dating. But don't let yourself think you're 100% in love with him.

Well he is bound to remember that you told him that you liked him so it is possible that he is interested in you if he is saying he is looking. I think you should tell him again. If you told him the first time and it didn't effect your relationship there is a good chance that if you tell him again it wouldn't effect it and if it did it could be for the better, taking your relationship to the next step.

This thread made me smile a little, seen as how a few months ago I had that same dilemma. I thought I was in love with a friend of mine and actually convinced myself that he had the same feelings for me. Turns out I was just in love with the idea of being in love with him. He's just a really nice guy and a good friend but as time passed I saw other things that I wasn't seen clearly, for one thing he's a pain in the ass and a lazy bum when it comes to chores, I can't deal with people like that.

Though there is a physical attraction (going both ways) I decided to let time pass. Turns out that I don't really like him like that, what I liked was the attention. We are still friends and will remain friends I hope for a long time but that's about it, at least for now until he grows up and leaves mommy's lap.

What I mean is don't be to hasty making a decision, it's not like you have 2 weeks to live and need to know right now. Take time to know him. Look out for little hints he might make for example: "I'm really glad we are friends", or "You are just like a little sister" or if he tells you he likes another girl that my friend is a boy saying I like you but just as a friend. Don't ignore those signals, if you do you will get your heart broken.

On the other hand he might be shy. He already knows you like him. There is really no point in telling him again. No offense but it might look desperate if you do.

Do you have friends in common that you could ask if he has said he likes you? Also how much time passed from when he told you he wasn't looking for a relationship to now when he is looking for a relationship?

Hmm...it appears that you have to actually know us to give a straight answer lol. cuz none of these are right. (no offense people) :sarcasm:

I think you should tell him again. I recently told my mom that I've never told a guy I liked him and she told me that not saying anything is the same as being rejected. I guess being rejected is just a risk of getting into a relationship.

I've never really liked a friend before....so can't say I do know exactly what you're talking about.

I know how you feel, all my friends have turned out to be people I like, but I was always too shy to admit it so the guy always made the first move XD Tell your friend you still have feelings for him, but if he really likes you, he should be making the move towards you. He might just want to keep you as a friend though, so don't be too disappointed if he turns you down again. Friends are a different story if he just wants to stay friends.

Ive been there, i know exactly how you feel!

I tried telling my friend, although i knew nothing would happen because they were with someone. But it made me feel better just getting it off my chest.

Having said that, that doesn't apply to you because you have told them and still feel the same. So, my advice to you would be to tell him. If it all goes well then that's awesome, and worst case scenario, you get rejected and it makes things weird between you both. If that happens then if i was you i would count it as a win because if the friendship is that good and worth as much to him as it is you then that wont happen!

Hope that helps :)

Originally Posted by HatoriTheAmazing99

Hmm...it appears that you have to actually know us to give a straight answer lol. cuz none of these are right. (no offense people) :sarcasm:

You know, people could take offense to that. All we're offering is advice from out personal standpoints and you seem to be brushing them off as if we're you mother telling you to clean your room.
You've only known this boy for 10 months and you're saying you're in love with him? We're advising you that this is too soon and you're not feeling true love, you're feeling attraction.
I know every teenage girl dreams to find her prince charming, but it'd do you wisely to at least think of the people who have been through it and the advice they've given you. You don't have to follow it necessarily, but to blow it off like you have and say we're flat out wrong is a childish and offensive thing.
I know you didn't specifically ask for advice, since you said:

Originally Posted by HatoriTheAmazing99

Things to talk about in this thread: someone you like and/or love.

or things around those lines lol.

But we figured it'd still do you good to at least be told from people with experience that thinking you're in love with this guy so soon is probably not a wise thought. I say probably very lightly, because yes, there could be the possibility that he could be great, but there is an equal possibility that he will break your heart like many other boys are sure to in the future.
So thus, I second Majhra's words.

If you love him you'll know. I know for sure that I love my fiance. I honestly don't know what my life would be without him in it. He's my everything. Haha, seem's he worked his way into my heart pretty good. Cause now I don't plan on ever letting him go. <3

I agree with Mikhail. You make a thread with emoticons and lols placed here and there, and you expect us to agree that in a period of 9 months, you're feeling 'twoo wuv'?

Not only that, but you brush of sound and practical advice, saying we don't understand? How typical can you GET?

If anything, you've only confirmed the notion that you are not really serious about this guy. Yeah, older folks are always SO SKEPTICAL about the emotional range of teenagers. I can understand how you can justify that. But seriously?

You probably aren't. It's not that big of a deal. Don't jump to conlusions that just because you have a strong feeling towards someone means that it's the real deal. The feeling may indeed be real, but it doesn't mean that it's love. It could just be the potential to love. Don't be so fast to jump at the idea of it, take it easy and understand that you are young and you have years of growing left to do before you can recognize truth from fantasy.

I use to have people like that, now I am on the receiving end of it. He was my best guy friend since I moved, and now he likes me still, I though it would be cute and great through most of my high school years, but then I realized going to college, that it wasn't such a good idea, and that he didn't know me all that well in the end anyway. He knew parts of me, but didn't understand that I was a mix of many versions of what he had seen.

Originally Posted by Mikhail

You know, people could
You've only known this boy for 10 months and you're saying you're in love with him?

Ahhh, and this is what i meant by what i said. Some of you are taking it the wrong way. I said i love him. There's a difference between being IN love and loving someone. It takes two people to be IN love. But it CAN only take one to love someone. And i know what im feeling.

What the hell are you talking about? You're just playing with words.

Whether you say "I love" or "I am IN love" doesn't matter. We all know you are implying a one-sided attraction. And that's what all our answers are to.... you're one-sided attraction to this boy.

Originally Posted by Merrow

I agree with Mikhail. You make a thread with emoticons and lols placed here and there, and you expect us to agree that in a period of 9 months, you're feeling 'twoo wuv'?

Not only that, but you brush of sound and practical advice, saying we don't understand? How typical can you GET?

If anything, you've only confirmed the notion that you are not really serious about this guy. Yeah, older folks are always SO SKEPTICAL about the emotional range of teenagers. I can understand how you can justify that. But seriously?

You probably aren't. It's not that big of a deal. Don't jump to conlusions that just because you have a strong feeling towards someone means that it's the real deal. The feeling may indeed be real, but it doesn't mean that it's love. It could just be the potential to love. Don't be so fast to jump at the idea of it, take it easy and understand that you are young and you have years of growing left to do before you can recognize truth from fantasy.

Okay, now this made me laugh :sarcasm:. You dont even KNOW me and you say im not serious about him? Whats THAT about? I am very serious about him. Whether you want to believe it or not. Just becaue i throw around emoticons and lols doesnt mean im not serious. If i were to explain everything going on between us, you would probably understand but i cant tell anyone because i promised him i would keep everything between us and wouldnt tell a soul. And i dont intend to break that promise. I care about him and would never do that or lie to him or anything bad. And like i said in my last post, some of you apparently think im IN love with him. it takes two people to be IN love. I said i love him. (God I just love arguing. :sarcasm: )

Uh huh...Well, I think you shouldn't get your hopes up because if you tell yourself you love him, and then he breaks your heart later on down the road, it will be horrible. You may actually love him right now, and he may love you, but things can change and he might end up breaking your heart.

I speak from experience here. I thought I loved a guy. (Back then, I told myself I loved him, and whenever I said that, people would tell me I couldn't be in love. And I would keep telling them I did.) Finally, I got up the courage to tell him I liked him, and he told me he liked me, but a few weeks later, her broke my heart.

Now, I know where you're coming from with the whole love vs in love thing. But I see it more as a care deeply for him or an attraction. But not true love.

EDIT: Oh, and the boy up there ^ ...well, we went to school together in 5th grade. But i never really got to know him. So I pretty much met him in 8th grade when he moved back. And I thought I had fallen in lvoe with him the first time I saw him. So, I guess that is where I went wrong. (Just mentioning it, since we have the whole 'how long youve known him' issue here.)

Alright. You say I'm wrong. If that's the case, let's analyze the specific nature of this love, becasue it's clear you are giving everyone the wrong idea.

First, let's not argue about that ridiculous sentence, "I am IN love/ I love" whatever.
Because, quite frankly, it's stupid. You're talking about YOUR definition, not the definition that everyone else sees and understands.

Second, how about you make it perfectly clear what the hell your intentions are. What kind of love is it? Platonic? Romantic? Sexual? When you say, "I like this guy. In fact I think I love him" or WHATEVER, you give a very distinct impression. That impression is what every single person on your thread is replying to. It can't be that I'm just stupid if everyone here is thinking the same thing as me.

As for your personal trauma... I won't touch that statement with my cynisim. Because i don't know what happened. Maybe it was big and real, or maybe it only seems big and real. Regardless, I cannot mock emotional pain. I can question love, but I can't mock trauma.
It kind of goes with the whole, "Even if I broke my arm in two places and you only broke yours in one does not give me the right to tell you to stop whining. You still broke your arm."

Though I WILL say that I have seen abuse, rape, suicide, and drug use, and it didn't necessary bring or keep any of those people together. But, that's those people.

And also, could you not use that insanely snobby sarcasm emoticon to blow me off? It's just a tad off-putting. If you want to correct me, how about you do it without the attitude? That'd make me feel like a real asshole.

Originally Posted by Merrow

Alright. You say I'm wrong. If that's the case, let's analyze the specific nature of this love, becasue it's clear you are giving everyone the wrong idea.

First, let's not argue about that ridiculous sentence, "I am IN love/ I love" whatever.
Because, quite frankly, it's stupid. You're talking about YOUR definition, not the definition that everyone else sees and understands.

Second, how about you make it perfectly clear what the hell your intentions are. What kind of love is it? Platonic? Romantic? Sexual? When you say, "I like this guy. In fact I think I love him" or WHATEVER, you give a very distinct impression. That impression is what every single person on your thread is replying to. It can't be that I'm just stupid if everyone here is thinking the same thing as me.

As for your personal trauma... I won't touch that statement with my cynisim. Because i don't know what happened. Maybe it was big and real, or maybe it only seems big and real. Regardless, I cannot mock emotional pain. I can question love, but I can't mock trauma.
It kind of goes with the whole, "Even if I broke my arm in two places and you only broke yours in one does not give me the right to tell you to stop whining. You still broke your arm."

Though I WILL say that I have seen abuse, rape, suicide, and drug use, and it didn't necessary bring or keep any of those people together. But, that's those people.

And also, could you not use that insanely snobby sarcasm emoticon to blow me off? It's just a tad off-putting. If you want to correct me, how about you do it without the attitude? That'd make me feel like a real asshole.

WHATEVER. ive already said my piece. Bottom line: I know how i feel about him and me and him are very good friends. Kay? It's not like its anything bad. Btw, I'm DONE arguing now.

So you're just friends that care about each other?

That's it?

You couldn't have said, "Sorry guys, I gave you the wrong idea. This is what I meant. Also, I don't appreciate the tone you're using, Merrow. I find it rude."?

You had to get pissy, and bothered, and make a very unsubtle thread about how I don't know anything about you or your situation? You couldn't have sent me a PM?

For the love of God, hate me, tell me I'm wrong, make me feel terrible, but do it eloquently. At the very least, send me a PM. I wouldn't even report you!

If I was a bitch, if I gave you attitude, if I hurt you, I'm sorry. But I was only giving an opinion about what I thought I was seeing. Maybe I should have been the bigger person and been less hot under the collar. But I wasn't. So I'm sorry. Feel free to report me if you feel I've been harrassing you.


EDIT: Unnnh, even my apology is rude and provoking. Feel free to just shoot me in the face. D:

Merrow I think I'm in love with you! LOL. You remind me of a very good friend of mine. He's bluntly direct as well, that's what I like about the sarcastic dork. Not that you are a dork, I wouldn't really know though >.>


Hatori: I guess the intention of everybody that gave you advise, including myself, just wanted for you to be careful with your feelings. Nobody likes to see people in pain (unless the person is a psycho and likes watching people in pain, but that's another thing) even if we don't know them. Things of the heart touch a very special tread in all of us since we all have felt love, rejection, deception, pain, etc. And I guess when you get older you don't want others to go tru painful experiences as well.

All of our advise was completely in your best interest, even if we are people half way around the world, this is Menewsha this is what we do.

If you want us to say what you want to hear. I'm sorry because we don't know what that is and even if we did, as people that have a little more experience, we wouldn't tell you.

If you don't want our advise that's just fine. But you would be wise to listen, if not us someone that's not in a machine, maybe your mom, or an older sister. You could also do whatever it is you want to do, I just hope you don't hurt yourself too much when you reach the wall (if you do, and I do hope that you don't).

That's all I have to say here. I hope everything turns out well, and your little heart doesn't get broken. <3

Goodness.
You remind me of myself about 6 months ago.
I made friends with this one guy over a year ago, and through the first 8 months of our friendship, I slowly began to develop feelings for him.
I honestly thought I was in love with the guy, but being the stubborn/shy person I am, I kept my mouth shut.
When our 1 year anniversary as friends came around, I was finding that I didn't really have those same feelings for him.
He actually became more annoying to me.
We're still friends, but I can't even truthfully say I have a small crush on him.
All those lovey feelings faded.

Personally, I'm a very tolerant person when someone first gets to know me.
After awhile though, my tolerance wears thin and if the person does things that annoy me (like constantly say racist remarks as my guy friend does/did) it really bugs me.

But, it might be different from you.
And I hope it is.
It's nice to have a guy you can love and receive love from.
:yes: