Ok so ive met this guy that im really starting to like a lot. I met him on a night out and we have been talking on msn ever since. We met up the other day and hit it off really well. We kissed a little, nothing more. Im glad we didnt go any further as i feel we get a long real well and i figure it could go somewhere once we have gotten to know each other some more. He treated me really well and made it pretty obvious he likes me back.

The problem is, his facebook says he has a girlfriend. Its not just the status either, he has pics of them together and the comments just confirm it even more. Now, he hasnt said he is single but he is certainly acting like he is. And i dont mean in the wanting sex way, i mean like wanting a proper relationship way.

Hes on hol for two weeks now, left a few days ago. I couldnt wait till he gets back to ask him about it so i sent him a txt about it. He says he will explain more wen he gets back but they went out for 2 years, now they are only together on fb. (Which i dont really understand but i guess thats why he will explain more wen he gets back!)

The thing is, im normally really good at figuring people out. Like if they are a sleaze ball or someone decent, and when i met up with him my gut was telling me that hes decent. And i almost always trust my gut feelings! I honestly dont think hes trying to screw me over, i think hes just a bit odd lol!

When i agreed to meet up with him i told him im not looking for anything to happen because i just got out of a 2 year relationship and feel like i need time to just chill and enjoy being on my own. He was great about it, basically said he is willing to wait till im ready and that he doesnt want to do anything of the sex kind till we get to know each other more. So it just kinda wondering, if he was only looking to doink me then be on his way, why wd he be willing to wait for me to be ready for a real thing and wanna wait to have sexy time till we get 2 know each other? He knows that im up for a bit of fun while im single so wouldnt he jump at the chance while he can?

Anyways, what i was planning on doing was assuming all is good untill he gets back. Then ill have a good think about it once he has explained all to me. I just wanted to get the opinions of you guys before i made any definite decisions!

Hopefully that all made sense, i get a little carried away when typing things out lol!
All advice would be appreciated muchley! Thanks in advance!!
Sorry its so long! :)

Well.

I'm going through this situation myself. Well not exactly, but I have three guys in two different classes hitting on me.

The thing about this is that a guy can be very VERY convincing. This one guy told me he doesn't have a girlfriend and he's been flirting with me and such. Saying that he likes me... blah blah blah. When I checked his myspace, he has one and she goes "I love you boo" and it was posted two days ago. I'm not really interested in the guy to be honest with you, but I didn't like the fact that he lied to me. I always test a guy before I get interested, because before I've been fooled one too many times with these kind of situations.

It's always great to feel loved and a lot of times your gut goes "Omg he loves me so it must be true love!", so don't ALWAYS believe your gut. Plus, since you've gotten out of a 2 year relationship (right?), then you can be a bit more vulnerable thinking this guy is the one, yet he may just end up being another bump in the road.

And this guy may be going "Okay I'll wait", but he may think "Okay in a month or so I'm going to bonk this girl." You know what I'm saying? The other guy that flirts with me is like that. He's very patient and everything, but I'm not the only girl he flirts with. He has like possibly 12 other girls he flirts with at least? xD

But this guy may be different, but if he says he has a girlfriend, but he's only dating her through facebook, I would call that cheating. Even though it's an online relationship, doesn't mean it doesn't have the same importance as a in real life relationship. If he cheats on her, more than likely he'll cheat on you.

I say get to know the guy a little more and test him out, I think he's hiding something that you are unaware about.

Hi, thanks for the reply! As it turns out tho, it is a proper thing, i asked his girlfriend! So yeah i told him where to go and told her as well!

To me, it's pretty strange. How he has a girlfriend listed on facebook, and how he's trying to put off talking to you about the situation. If he he really did have a girlfriend, wouldn't he be two timing his gf? I mean kissing another girl while in a relationship? Not good...

Just becareful not to let him hurt your feelings... you don't know what guys out there thinks these days =.="

So they were going out but now it only says they're going out on Facebook? Well, if the relationship with his ex-girlfriend is truly over I say you go for it. He seems like a nice fellow and if he says he's willing to wait for you before taking things more seriously or getting more physical then that's a good sign. Just make sure that he is really completely through with that other girl. Two years is a long time to date somebody so it's important to make sure that they don't still have feelings for eachother.

Good luck! I hope everything works out for you!

personally hun concerning your situation i think your being played
and i hate when guys do that
i think you need to hear his girlfriends perspective as well
because it may not be just on facebook
i mean honestly
that seems a really lame excuse
i think you need to sit him down and talk to him
and do the same with her somehow
because sometimes
as much as i hate to admit it
crushes or love so be the case can blind people to seeing whats right in front of them
i hate seeing people get hurt
whether i know them or not
so just be cautious before you make any rash decisions
because if you are being played you'll be the last to know
i've been there before